Cum faster?

[edgeguy1983]

I realize some guys will laugh when reading this but I don't care. My girl and I can go at it for a while but sometimes after 30 minutes or so we both start to get tired and I just want to nut. We switch up multiple positions, she knows to kiss my neck and begging me to cum will help, or she'll just go down on me until I cum, and that's awesome but I was wondering if anyone had any tricks from the male perspective. I sometimes think of porn but I don't like to take myself out of the moment. I also feel like too much porn desensitizes a bit so I'm cutting back.

This is double the case if we decide to keep going after a 30 minute break. That 2nd nut is doubly hard to get out. We don't use condoms and I'm not on meds. I'm definitely not intimidated by women and I've been dating / sleeping with this girl for over a month. Just want to speed things up sometimes and looking for anything that works.

 

[Richard]

Yup, just wrote a post about controlling when you cum, and you can find it here.

I talk about how you can last longer primarily, but the same tricks can be used to make yourself cum faster. Like yourself, sometimes if I'm in a long session of fucking I get bored and want to cum faster, in which case I use the trick outlined in the article linked above.

-Richard

 

[edgeguy1983]

I had read that. So essentially it's like the concept of fractionation when talking with a girl, except this time you're doing it internally? Bringing yourself in and out of the moment?

 

[Richard]

I had read that. So essentially it's like the concept of fractionation when talking with a girl, except this time you're doing it internally? Bringing yourself in and out of the moment?

I'd never thought of it as fractionation but that is a good analogy. You can take it a step further and consciously control all three components of emotion; your physiology, focus (as that post outlined), and your language.

If a girl is giving you head; there is a much different feeling you get from when you're relaxed, or tensed (physiology), if you're thinking about your dick in her mouth or you're thinking about a new rap song that just came out (focus), and if you're enhancing the experience with your own words in your head; i.e. OMFG! She's getting it soooo fucking wet! vs. That feels OK (language).

Same thing with sex, she knows how to help you cum faster;

We switch up multiple positions, she knows to kiss my neck and begging me to cum will help, or she'll just go down on me until I cum

She's stimulating your physiology, focus, and language in this case. If you help her to turn you on by stimulating your own physiology, focus, and language then you can cum anytime you want. So, it's not really about bringing yourself in and out of the moment so much as it is controlling your emotional state - it's just that a portion of controlling your state is choosing to enhance or dim the moment.

Make sense?

-Richard