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I been going out so much these past weeks. I have had dates and gotten a few numbers… I've made probably more than 100 approaches this month. Yet I don't feel I'm improving that much. Most likely because I haven't written any report in a long time. Will definetely get back to it.
Anyway, a month ago I had my first insta-date. I went out with one pick-up pal and he had made me do 2 approaches already, even though I didn't feel like doing them. This was good because when I met this girl I was already warmed up. My pal had to leave but I just walked down the park and saw this gorgeous girl smoking on a bench with view to the river. I sat and opened direct. I just thought you were cute.. Bla bla.
I then noticed she was not from the city and asked her where she was from. She said Austria and I repeated in German. This generated some curiosity. She asked a few questions and I replied. She was traveling, would stay in the city for only a few days.
I knew she was compliant because she let me listen to what she was listening on her headphones, let me see her bracelet and told me where they were from, and didn't try to move away. At some point I asked if she knew x place, and I proposed we go there. I don't remember what was the exact wording, but I didn't lead non-verbally and she just kept sitting (Don't remember if she said no neither)
I stared at the river and let some silence, breaking it after 30 second or so. I looked at her and smiled. I kept asking some things about her and eventually just said let's walk. Let go to x [very near place]. And we started walking.
We walked to a main square with a Starbucks to grab some tea there. During the whole transition the most important thing was that I minded arousal. I made her cross an empty street when the walk sign was red while telling her about jaywalking and how we were breaking the law, crossing like we do in my city, etc.
She asked me if I talked to girls at the park all the time. I told her I just liked parks and I liked to inject spontaneity to life sometimes" For similarity, I sprinkled words in German and whatever I knew about places she had traveled.
In the Starbucks, me, very distracted, not noticed there was a line and she told me. I cut the line in front of a family that came after us and I didn't say anything. I could sense she felt uncomfortable yet not repelled. I also teased her telling her I could keep my empty bottle on the hood of her sweater.
We sat in some not so clean stairs outside and talked. I began to feel cold and she teased me about. It made me seem a bit whiney/weak but it really was cold, so I couldn't help it. At some point she asked if I lived in the area she was lodging and I said no. This was an indication to move the interaction forward. I don't know how though.
Maybe ask if she had her own room at her hostel? Or tell her We can both walk there and find a good intimate place to escale along the path?
Anyway. I ended up just inviting her to grab a beer. She said it was too early (I later found out because she was 20). I said yeah, actually I need to help an uncle with his party. "Give me your whatsapp." I grabbed it. "Let's grab a drink later" "Maybe" said she while parting ways. This was on a Saturday.
The texting
[6] Glad to run into you today
-Ergon
[7] Yea it was fun talking to you
[Next day]
[5] Hey name! Thinking we ought to grab those drinks soon. I'm pretty open tomorrow, tueday afternoon. You?
[5] Hey! Sure the only thing is I'm only 20 so it'll be hard for me to get anything to drink
And I think I'm leaving on Tuesday but tomorrow works for me
[8] it will have to be non-alcoholic drinks then Say 6 in the afternoon? I know this cozy place - we can meet at the x and go from there
[Next day]
[9] Haha that's right
Yes sounds good, I won't stay too long though because I have to get up early tomorrow
[11] Great ;-) catch you then!
[5:22pm, me again] I'll prob be by the stairs
[5] Alright see you there
The day of, I meet her near the Starbucks where we had had the insta-date. She looked incredible. She greets me with kiss on the cheek. I take her to where I parked and she tells me she never get in cars of strangers. I said "There's always a first time for everything"
She complies and I drive her to a café near my area (15 minutes away). We have a cold tea. I'm not feeling particularly flirty but we manage to have a good talk. Particularly about her family, travel and having to settle one place. I finished my tea and I was a bit impatient wanting to move to the next location.
It was kind of forced but she complied. I walked her to a little garden of a school nearby. She looked excited. I think she was expecting a kiss then. But I noticed this and instead I led her to my car and drove her to my place. My place took 10 mins to arrive and the excitement fizzled. We arrived and she reminded me she had to leave early tomorrow. I went for the kiss after 10 mins. She turned around. I told her "I was gonna kiss you but I won't, I'm gonna let you do it" After some more talk eventually I went for it again and she kissed me back
At some point she wanted to use tongue and I didn't go for it. Maybe this would've been good to arouse her. I tried push and pull, but she stopped me when I tried to unbutton my shirt, and would not make it easy to touch her skin (She also had stockings so caressing her legs wasn't as nice). At some point I dry hump her, but she didn't react to it. She also noticed that my heart was beating very fast because of coffee I drank before and she thought I was overexcited
After a while she stopped kissing. I tried to escalate back again but she went to use the bathroom. She then asked me to give her a ride back to where she could return to her hostel. I didn't persist anymore because her body language was very closed now and looked very ready to leave. I said okey and I gave her a ride close to her hostal.
Embarrassing fact: While I was backing my car to enter the street I accidentally bumped into a parked car (It was very lightly and ther was no damage). She definitely got a bit scared about that but since I kept super calm and made some light chat plus put on the radio she calmed too. I deep dived her about her adventures with her best friend and her dark side. At the very end she said goodbye kissing me. Then I ruined the moment by saying "I should go to parks more often" ;(
Anyway, a month ago I had my first insta-date. I went out with one pick-up pal and he had made me do 2 approaches already, even though I didn't feel like doing them. This was good because when I met this girl I was already warmed up. My pal had to leave but I just walked down the park and saw this gorgeous girl smoking on a bench with view to the river. I sat and opened direct. I just thought you were cute.. Bla bla.
I then noticed she was not from the city and asked her where she was from. She said Austria and I repeated in German. This generated some curiosity. She asked a few questions and I replied. She was traveling, would stay in the city for only a few days.
I knew she was compliant because she let me listen to what she was listening on her headphones, let me see her bracelet and told me where they were from, and didn't try to move away. At some point I asked if she knew x place, and I proposed we go there. I don't remember what was the exact wording, but I didn't lead non-verbally and she just kept sitting (Don't remember if she said no neither)
I stared at the river and let some silence, breaking it after 30 second or so. I looked at her and smiled. I kept asking some things about her and eventually just said let's walk. Let go to x [very near place]. And we started walking.
We walked to a main square with a Starbucks to grab some tea there. During the whole transition the most important thing was that I minded arousal. I made her cross an empty street when the walk sign was red while telling her about jaywalking and how we were breaking the law, crossing like we do in my city, etc.
She asked me if I talked to girls at the park all the time. I told her I just liked parks and I liked to inject spontaneity to life sometimes" For similarity, I sprinkled words in German and whatever I knew about places she had traveled.
In the Starbucks, me, very distracted, not noticed there was a line and she told me. I cut the line in front of a family that came after us and I didn't say anything. I could sense she felt uncomfortable yet not repelled. I also teased her telling her I could keep my empty bottle on the hood of her sweater.
We sat in some not so clean stairs outside and talked. I began to feel cold and she teased me about. It made me seem a bit whiney/weak but it really was cold, so I couldn't help it. At some point she asked if I lived in the area she was lodging and I said no. This was an indication to move the interaction forward. I don't know how though.
Maybe ask if she had her own room at her hostel? Or tell her We can both walk there and find a good intimate place to escale along the path?
Anyway. I ended up just inviting her to grab a beer. She said it was too early (I later found out because she was 20). I said yeah, actually I need to help an uncle with his party. "Give me your whatsapp." I grabbed it. "Let's grab a drink later" "Maybe" said she while parting ways. This was on a Saturday.
The texting
[6] Glad to run into you today
-Ergon[7] Yea it was fun talking to you
[Next day]
[5] Hey name! Thinking we ought to grab those drinks soon. I'm pretty open tomorrow, tueday afternoon. You?
[5] Hey! Sure the only thing is I'm only 20 so it'll be hard for me to get anything to drink
And I think I'm leaving on Tuesday but tomorrow works for me
[8] it will have to be non-alcoholic drinks then
Say 6 in the afternoon? I know this cozy place - we can meet at the x and go from there[Next day]
[9] Haha that's right
Yes sounds good, I won't stay too long though because I have to get up early tomorrow
[11] Great ;-) catch you then!
[5:22pm, me again] I'll prob be by the stairs
[5] Alright see you there
The day of, I meet her near the Starbucks where we had had the insta-date. She looked incredible. She greets me with kiss on the cheek. I take her to where I parked and she tells me she never get in cars of strangers. I said "There's always a first time for everything"
She complies and I drive her to a café near my area (15 minutes away). We have a cold tea. I'm not feeling particularly flirty but we manage to have a good talk. Particularly about her family, travel and having to settle one place. I finished my tea and I was a bit impatient wanting to move to the next location.
It was kind of forced but she complied. I walked her to a little garden of a school nearby. She looked excited. I think she was expecting a kiss then. But I noticed this and instead I led her to my car and drove her to my place. My place took 10 mins to arrive and the excitement fizzled. We arrived and she reminded me she had to leave early tomorrow. I went for the kiss after 10 mins. She turned around. I told her "I was gonna kiss you but I won't, I'm gonna let you do it" After some more talk eventually I went for it again and she kissed me back
At some point she wanted to use tongue and I didn't go for it. Maybe this would've been good to arouse her. I tried push and pull, but she stopped me when I tried to unbutton my shirt, and would not make it easy to touch her skin (She also had stockings so caressing her legs wasn't as nice). At some point I dry hump her, but she didn't react to it. She also noticed that my heart was beating very fast because of coffee I drank before and she thought I was overexcited
After a while she stopped kissing. I tried to escalate back again but she went to use the bathroom. She then asked me to give her a ride back to where she could return to her hostel. I didn't persist anymore because her body language was very closed now and looked very ready to leave. I said okey and I gave her a ride close to her hostal.
Embarrassing fact: While I was backing my car to enter the street I accidentally bumped into a parked car (It was very lightly and ther was no damage). She definitely got a bit scared about that but since I kept super calm and made some light chat plus put on the radio she calmed too. I deep dived her about her adventures with her best friend and her dark side. At the very end she said goodbye kissing me. Then I ruined the moment by saying "I should go to parks more often" ;(
