Yeah I'm going to second this.
As someone who has taught ballroom and swing before, the environments aren't even close to matching. She's trying to party.
If she actually wants to dance there are a whole lotta different styles out there. Latin dancing, from my limited experiences with it is a little more on the party side but obviously not even close to actual clubs and etc. But swing dancing as well as ballroom are good places to take an LTR to in order to dance. Again, just based on my own experiences in a handful of areas.
While I've never been, you can even find hip-hop dance places if that's the style she's wanting to try out.
you guys dont get it
she wants to party and dance with HIM her lover and bf
she wants to have fun
with him
theres nothing problematic in in - you guys are way to iffy and stiff minded on this!
nor is she a special case due to age i mean its end 20es early thirties. lol.
its simply her liking this and wanting to do it WITH her man/bf/whatever.
OP start communicating aka listening and getting your gf. And figure yourself out
you can join her a lil like tony outlines - in relationships we need to move closer to one anothers worlds
or you can stay on your i dont dance thing.
just join her and bring your frirends to chill in the bar or whatever. hank moody style.
BUT. meet her somewhat, somehow somewhere in between your point of feeling and hers. thats called relationshipping.
dont start some idiot dance class if youre against dancing. But research yoru true motivation for it and BE FRANK with yourself. It could be a fun thing you guys could do together. Is its just fears and insecurities holding you back. Or some iffy childish semi-feigny energy in you.
A huge key is to dance to music YOU like so choose whatever you do in that direction. take her to see a band you like and enjoy it along ways you like to enjoy music. Choose a danceform that is to music u like if you wanna go that route.
also - forget imprssing. what you want is to be playfuld theatrical, make it small and almost just in place sorta enjoying the music a lil standing dance, and do it to connect and have fun - hey were having fun together type approach.
If you wanna turn her on move sloooooowly and sensually. Like yorue a fuckign sectacly to be witnessed. Own your presence. just learn a few sensual movements. almost like youre caressing yourself or feeling like honey on the inside.
Focusing on the connective aspect, fun loving part and the enjoyous sensual movement part more on the ground sorta tapping your foot level is the way to engage with dancing for seduction in an efficient manner.