Date Flake

[Raphael]

Hey its me one more time

This is again my attempt to recognize what i can´t recognize by asking opinion one more time.

In our last conversation we talked about the date its was supposed to be set today, well exactly tonight.
Problem is , i had schedule for 8pm.. and well, story of my life. Never happened.

I asked her adress via sms, so i knew the way to pick her up by car.. well she text me that her uncles were home and she could only leave home when they leave because , aparently, control.

From 7pm, until well, now... her uncles never leave home, aparently. I can understand that family comes first But its now almost midnight, she can definitly see that would be no date and i dont get any " I am sorry" text message..And i dont want to get angry about this, and put it on the personal side. But i was very excited about dinner and a walk with this girl. And it get me sad to see she blew her only chance.. i mean.. if she was really into me she could had tried to come to the date..on the other hand i had read the post on girlschase about " when girls flake" and he says to not think " She flaked because of you."

Any advice , i should be more distant from her now at school? Should i wait and schedule other date ( i dont see this a good way, its shows weakness)

Thanks

 

[EdenSerpent]

The reason(s) why she flaked on you aren't really relevant. You'll likely never know for sure, but you should just take her at her word. Like the article says, assuming you're the reason she flaked will only serve to shoot yourself in the foot in terms of the frames you want to be setting in general. One thing though that you should definitely NOT do though is get mad or otherwise emotional about her not apologizing. If you need something, I'd personally just tell her that she can make it up to you some other time and leave it at that when she gives you an excuse.

 

[Raphael]

First of all thanks for answering, apreciated

Second, let me see if i understand. I can recognize in order to show some confidence i will not take this personally but let me ask you guys this: If the girl is really interested in me she will reschedule? If the days go by and this topic (flakiness) would never be talked again then she is really not into me?

 

[fpt2k14]

Don't sweat it, bitches flake on me too, just set up another time and if not - MOVE ON.