Calls & Texts Date scheduling query

[Marty]

Hey fellas, hoping someone can give me good solid advice here.

I met a girl today in the park after obtaining quite a sexy approach invitation (it's just the way she glanced at me made me turn around and catch up with her); she received me very warmly indeed, was unavailable for an immediate tête–à–tête, but agreed without hesitation to a later date. She replied to my icebreaker text very promptly.

Now, the issue is that I will be on vacation 2/14 through 2/19 and have quite a few loose ends to tie up before I leave. What do you think if I send a text tomorrow putting the ball in her court, as follows:

"Hey {Girl}. I have some free time Tue and Wed evening, but am out of town for a week after that. If you prefer, we can meet when I get back... let me know. -Marty"

Please feel free to suggest stronger alternatives. I'm wondering if delaying by two weeks from now might be bad, for instance from the feminine cycle perspective (I got the impression she was feeling pretty sexy today). Thoughts?

 

[Marty]

Casanova:

Thank you. When I first saw this—

Hey {Girl}. I have some free time Tue and Wed evening, but am out of town for a week after that. -Marty

—I must admit it came across as insanely powerful. Loved it.

My only concern upon reflection... is there not a "So what?" factor to it? I mean, what if I say when I'm free and she thinks: "Yeah. And?" I'm not actually asking her out as such.

I mean, I know I already asked her out in person... perhaps you're right, the powerful delivery will carry the message.

I'll think about it.

-Marty

 

[Marty]

Okay, Casanova, I'll give you some background, keeping it as brief as I can

This lady walked by in the park in shorts and carrying a tennis bag. My first impression was that she looked beautiful, intimidating and unattainable—so I was surprised to get such a warm reception. I'd say she's about 28, i.e. some 10 years my junior. I gave her a glance out of the corner of my eye and to my surprise she returned the look in kind; we locked eyes for about half a second. When she'd gone past, I turned to catch her up but she was walking fast; I'm not sure whether she was conscious of me following or not. I wanted to open her as we reached the park exit where the pathway narrows, but there are two gates and she didn't take the one I expected. Fortunately she had to stop for a "Don't Walk" sign as we reached the street, and when she saw me coming she actually smiled.

I started talking but had to wait a moment for her to take out her headphones. Then I told her I'd seen her walk past and "couldn't resist coming back to say hello". She received me nothing short of excitedly and we got into animated conversation as we stepped into the crosswalk. About halfway up the street she actually broke the touch barrier herself, backhanding me playfully on my bicep as she asked me a question. I suggested an instant date but she had another exercise commitment right after her tennis lesson! She enthusiastically agreed to a coffee another time.

This was at about 3:45 PM. She'd told me her coming exercise class started at 4:30 PM, so I waited until about 6 PM to text her:

Good to meet you, {Girl}! No more sport today? Marty

She replied to me around 7:30 PM:

Hey Marty! Yes I am done with the sports for today hope you had a nice rest of the Sunday!

(Ignore the unusual idiom; English is not her first language. I speak her first language though and spoke it with her.)

So imagine if I now go with:

Hey {Girl}. I have some free time Tue and Wed evening, but am out of town for a week after that. -Marty

It will come across as immensely powerful, which could be good. I'm just wondering if it's lacking a little in warmth, considering how generously she communicated with me both in person and over text.

What's your opinion? And thank you for helping with this.

 

[Marty]

What about this compromise proposal:

Hey {Girl}! About that coffee... I'm free Tue and Wed evening, but am out of town for a week after that. -Marty

Maintains the powerful feel, but a little warmer, I'd say?

-Marty

 

[PinotNoir]

I like asking "when are you free?" or "what's your schedule look like?" I don't like chasing girls through their calendar and like my intention to be shown (I want to know when she's free so that I can take her out).

I think she pretty much knows that you're interested, but it's not obvious that you're wanting to date her yet (not 100%). Because of this and the warmth, I think just saying when you're free will come off a little odd to her.

I don't think you need to say her name again; you've already said each other's name in the conversation (unless this is a day later).

Here's my 2 cents:

"I'd love to learn more about your tennis skills and yourself. Since we agreed to coffee, when are you free? Unfortunately, Tue/Wed are my only free days this week..."

Maybe too wordy, but my suggestion.

Then you can cheek kiss her when you meet her and compliment her looks, so that she knows you're attracted to her and want to date her.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Howdy Marty,

Very smooth, man! These are my suggestions:

Marty: Of course How about grabbing a drink Tues or Wed evening? I'm traveling the week after.

or

Hey {Girl}! I have some free time Tue and Wed evening, but am out of town for a week after that. -Marty

The second one I added an exclamation mark to add some warmth. She was really diggin' you on that first meeting; keep us posted on the rest of the convo/date!

~Nick

NOTE: Just saw updated responses, but I'm posting this as-is. Will edit tomorrow if need be

 

[PinotNoir]

Marty: Of course How about grabbing a drink Tues or Wed evening? I'm traveling the week after.

I like this one the best so far!

Marty, based on the initial interaction, I agree that this will be a great date

 

[Marty]

Thank you, friends. I went with a slightly amended version of PrettyDecent's suggestion, which Pinot also liked, just replacing "Of course " with "I did" and "drink" with "cup of tea".

Pinot, there's no way she has any doubt that I'm attracted to her. I chased her down after she noticed me, I opened direct ("couldn't resist"—works well for me) and cheek-kissed her on the number close. But yes of course I will cheek-kiss her again when and if we meet, and I'm sure she'll do herself up appropriately to earn a compliment on her appearance

For that reason I don't like the "tennis skills" suggestion, as she knows perfectly well I'm not interested in hearing about her tennis skills, I'm interested in fucking her, and if I try to hide that I will lose a lot of respect after such an assertive approach.

Oh yes and thanks for your point on not including the name a second time, you're right, I dropped it.

I'll keep everyone informed

 

[NarrowJ]

I missed this one, Marty! But I did get your message.

Looks like everyone had you covered. How did she respond?


NJ

 

[Marty]

We have a date tonight. FR follows tomorrow.

 

[Marty]

This was a MONUMENTAL fuck-up. Possibly the worst rejection I have experienced to date!

I will post a fuck-up report tomorrow

 

[Marty]

Here's the FU.