Date That Could Have Gone Better. How Do I Improve?

[persona]

I met this girl off an Tinder like app (Coffee Meets Bagel). We talked for a bit and I asked her out for drinks for the closest date I was free (5 days later on a Friday) at a local bar/restaurant downtown for around 8. We had some drinks and talked for a while until 10:30ish, at which point I asked her if she wanted head out, grab some late night coffee, and continue the conversation at a coffee shop where it would be a quieter compared to a crowded bar.

We did ended up doing just that (only we talked while walking around instead staying at the coffee shop since it was closing), at which point her friends who were celebrating a birthday insisted she meet up with them. We ended up taking the subway to the train station where we kissed before going our separate ways. At this point it was around 11:45. I texted her that I had a good time and to have a safe trip back about an hour later and she responded with a thanks and good night.

I texted her Monday night how her schedule was looking next week to see if she wanted to meet up and do something but she hasn't responded for quite some time, so I'm guessing I may have lost her.

Here's what I think went well:
Good conversation (deep dived fairly often)
She was showing a lot of signs of attraction (hair twirling, mentioning how there's only old men at the school she works at, smiling and leaning in)
No awkward silences
Got her to comply and move with me

Here's what I think I might have done wrong/could've done better:
Been a bit more confident in going for the kiss
Handle the friend situation sooner
Maybe text her a bit sooner?
She was a bit reserved at first so I had to do a majority of the speaking to open her up at first (even near the end of the night it was around 55% me talking to 45% her talking)
Get her to stay with me instead of splitting with her friends


I also should've tried to close I think, but this is one aspect I have difficulty doing, mainly because I live in the suburban area of the city about 45min from where we we're meeting. Since I usually Uber/take transit, it feels like a hurdle to get her back to my place.

Besides that any thoughts or suggestions on what I've listed or what I could've done better?

 

[Raqimus]

I met this girl off an Tinder like app (Coffee Meets Bagel). We talked for a bit and I asked her out for drinks for the closest date I was free (5 days later on a Friday) at a local bar/restaurant downtown for around 8. We had some drinks and talked for a while until 10:30ish, at which point I asked her if she wanted head out, grab some late night coffee, and continue the conversation at a coffee shop where it would be a quieter compared to a crowded bar.

We did ended up doing just that (only we talked while walking around instead staying at the coffee shop since it was closing), at which point her friends who were celebrating a birthday insisted she meet up with them. We ended up taking the subway to the train station where we kissed before going our separate ways. At this point it was around 11:45. I texted her that I had a good time and to have a safe trip back about an hour later and she responded with a thanks and good night.

I texted her Monday night how her schedule was looking next week to see if she wanted to meet up and do something but she hasn't responded for quite some time, so I'm guessing I may have lost her.

Here's what I think went well:
Good conversation (deep dived fairly often)
She was showing a lot of signs of attraction (hair twirling, mentioning how there's only old men at the school she works at, smiling and leaning in)
No awkward silences
Got her to comply and move with me

Here's what I think I might have done wrong/could've done better:
Been a bit more confident in going for the kiss
Handle the friend situation sooner
Maybe text her a bit sooner?
She was a bit reserved at first so I had to do a majority of the speaking to open her up at first (even near the end of the night it was around 55% me talking to 45% her talking)
Get her to stay with me instead of splitting with her friends


I also should've tried to close I think, but this is one aspect I have difficulty doing, mainly because I live in the suburban area of the city about 45min from where we we're meeting. Since I usually Uber/take transit, it feels like a hurdle to get her back to my place.

Besides that any thoughts or suggestions on what I've listed or what I could've done better?

No you should of tried to close. Instead of asking her for some light night coffee at a coffee shop try to pull her home next time, or even end it there if you can't escalate and i know it's tough when your actually enjoying the conversation. The need not to mess things up but your not there for conversation you are there for pussy.

Your line was perfect just try to make it your home instead and as for logistics if that's such a problem try to do something closer to home, or even go for something in public scout out some places you can fuck, or even end the date earlier. Instead of walking around being stagnant spice things up a little ya know! She wanted you to make a move and the friends with the birthday thing was her social excuse to leave after not getting fucked.

Also there was no need to text her later that night, you didn't fuck her etc, it was just a nice chat you could of saved that for tomorrow and went from there. It really sounds like there was plenty of windows but you didn't take them, just jump through; if your not sure if its a window or not just try. If she likes you shes not going to get mad for you trying hahahaha. And yea Monday seems a bit too long, I'd shoot for something like the next day or day after. She went cold cause you missed her signals. Good shit tho sounds like you know what you did and didn't do correctly according to GC.

 

[persona]

Should I try to follow up again with another text or maybe a call? It feels like it's worth a try