I'll keep this one really short. I already wrote a whole thing about this same date in the forums under the title "Tinder Lunch Date". However, the long story short is that an absolute 9.5+ sent me a message on tinder and wanted to meet for lunch near my place. We met up, we went to lunch, we had such a good time that we decided to go to another bar. In between spots, we ended up back at my place making out but when I tried taking her to my room she said we should probably go to the other bar (possible fuck up #1).
We left went to the other bar, and continued to have a great time and drank quite a bit. After a few hours, she starts talking about how she should probably get home to take care of her dog before her roommate gets home. We take an uber back to my place and here is where I think I may have screwed up royally. The whole ride home, the girl had her hand on my leg and all day seemed way into me. However, because she was saying how she had to go home to take care of her dog, i never even once tried to get her to come up to my place when we got back. Instead I just walked her to her car (possible fuck up #2) This is a major fuck up for two reasons 1) We had been drinking all day and i shouldn't of let her drive. I think she may have even sat in her car sobering up for a while. 2) Had I taken her upstairs, we probably would've hooked up.
Even though the date was awesome, the girl has gone cold via text. She responds, but when it comes to hanging out again she is busy. Most recently she said she started dating someone she was set up with. Our date was only 2 weeks ago so I don't really believe that. What I am wondering if do you think that not inviting her back up after a day of drinking (at the very least to sober up, at best case scenario to have sex) is what led to her immediately ruling me out? Secondly, how can i get this girl back? I've though about just being direct and just kinda of lay it all out over text. Like tell her, look I know I may have f'ed up somewhere but you should give me another shot to make it up to you. Or do you think I'm better to just play it cool and hit her up in like a month with something casual?
Would appreciate any advice on how to handle this one. Thanks!
We left went to the other bar, and continued to have a great time and drank quite a bit. After a few hours, she starts talking about how she should probably get home to take care of her dog before her roommate gets home. We take an uber back to my place and here is where I think I may have screwed up royally. The whole ride home, the girl had her hand on my leg and all day seemed way into me. However, because she was saying how she had to go home to take care of her dog, i never even once tried to get her to come up to my place when we got back. Instead I just walked her to her car (possible fuck up #2) This is a major fuck up for two reasons 1) We had been drinking all day and i shouldn't of let her drive. I think she may have even sat in her car sobering up for a while. 2) Had I taken her upstairs, we probably would've hooked up.
Even though the date was awesome, the girl has gone cold via text. She responds, but when it comes to hanging out again she is busy. Most recently she said she started dating someone she was set up with. Our date was only 2 weeks ago so I don't really believe that. What I am wondering if do you think that not inviting her back up after a day of drinking (at the very least to sober up, at best case scenario to have sex) is what led to her immediately ruling me out? Secondly, how can i get this girl back? I've though about just being direct and just kinda of lay it all out over text. Like tell her, look I know I may have f'ed up somewhere but you should give me another shot to make it up to you. Or do you think I'm better to just play it cool and hit her up in like a month with something casual?
Would appreciate any advice on how to handle this one. Thanks!
