Socializing Daygame vibe

[Higher]

Hi gents,

I suspect i come across too friendly/nice during daygame interactions -- i.e. right after i approach a girl.

I usually smile a lot, qualify a lot, make sure the girls comfortable, deep-dive quite a bit. The point is that i want it to be clear to her that im not a bad guy, but i suspect im overdoing it, and that it dries girls up.

I recently discovered 60yocs micro-escalations thanks to Skills. I havent fully integrated them in my tool chain, but so far im loving them.

Is there something else i might try? E.g. less deep-diving? Smiling less? Having shorter interactions? Getting rid of insta-dates unless shes free?

 

[Bismarck]

Smiling in and of itself is not necessarily a negative. Devilicious opens girls in dg with a big smile (he makes sure to have it on before she notices him before he stops her on the street). But a smile means nothing if your vibe doesn't match. If you're smiling to cover your nervousness, that's different. Doing a short meditation before going out to approach helps to be more centered.

I would suggest remembering to give strong EC (not be the first to blink or look away, as Gun used to say). I can't remember the number of girls who've commented on my "intense gaze" during or after being seduced.

Also, maybe you're launching into the deep diving without doing c and f, or light teasing (because it is kryptonite, this should be used sparingly, especially during dg, unless you're more experienced). Check James D's report where he fucks a hot psychologist for an example.

As far as the length of interactions, there are various schools. Karea advocates 45 minutes before snagging a number, whereas I've gotten numbers from girls after simply executing Gun's drive-by opener: "Hey, (pause, look her up and down) I'm kind of in a rush right now (pregnant pause, strong EC) but if you give me your number I'll take you out for a coffee/drink later." Two of which led to dates (April 2023).

 

[DarkJedi]

I tend to do better when I don't smile much, because that's more of my general vibe.

Smiling works if it is congruent with your vibe. Like @Bismarck mentioned, it will backfire if you're smiling to seek approval. Imagine yourself as the king who's giving her approval by smiling at her, not the other way round. Fix your mental state and a lot of the subcomms will fix themselves.

About length of interactions, its all about the impression and emotions you leave with the girl. Will she look back and think: "wow! Who was that guy?!". For me, short 5-10 min interactions work best for this

 

[Higher]

Awesome insights guys, thanks.

Im still trying to find the best vibe for me, not only on approaching, but also while dating. Ill keep playing around with things -- will def fine-tune the deep-diving and session times as you guys suggest.

Ill try to talk less and lower my overall energy as well. I suspect i might be "too happy" when meeting/dating the girl, and i might be building too much rapport without leaving enough space for tension to form.