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So in the past couple of weeks I have really devoted my time to daygame: talking to girls whether it is on subways, on the streets, and occasionally in stores. I find that it can be better for me long-term and something I used to be decent at but now suck at. Over the past few weeks, I have taken the time to identify my weak spots but now want to see how I can get better. Not really even weak spots but also things that worry me or have me stuck.
1. Approaching girls heading the opposite direction or on the other side of the street.
I feel like my daygame process is a lot more natural in the sense that I will approach girls who are walking alongside me or heading in the same direction, say a situational opener, and then see where I go. All too often, I see gorgeous women walking the opposite direction or on the other side of the street that I want to approach but cannot.
I read the article on street stops where you wave to the girl after jogging in front of her but that seems so fucking un-natural. It's like, you look like a fucking weirdo doing that as if doing daygame is not weird enough. Not just that but it also breaks the law of effort as you are going out of your way to talk to her now. I wish there was a way I could do this and not stick out in a bad way.
2. Being direct.
Dating apps have spoiled me so much that I am just now getting back to talking to girls or cold approaching in general, daygame or nightgame. Lately I have had an issue in daygame with being direct about my intentions, I usually end up making small talk with a girl and that is it. I do not go direct like I should and I have had it with myself, the moment gets too big and I choke.
Even when I did pull back in college when I was doing daygame, I was really subtle about it. It happened in the sense that we both knew it even though I never communicated it. Now I want to get better at being direct without being weird...
3. Too much in my head about the times.
I think this is another problem as opposed to a daygame problem but I let the day get away from me and at times start approaching at say a 6 PM when it is slowly getting dark. Now this is me too much in my head about the times but I wonder if there is any point in the day that is more ideal for approaching. I know I am overthinking this part too though.
Hoping to get help...
1. Approaching girls heading the opposite direction or on the other side of the street.
I feel like my daygame process is a lot more natural in the sense that I will approach girls who are walking alongside me or heading in the same direction, say a situational opener, and then see where I go. All too often, I see gorgeous women walking the opposite direction or on the other side of the street that I want to approach but cannot.
I read the article on street stops where you wave to the girl after jogging in front of her but that seems so fucking un-natural. It's like, you look like a fucking weirdo doing that as if doing daygame is not weird enough. Not just that but it also breaks the law of effort as you are going out of your way to talk to her now. I wish there was a way I could do this and not stick out in a bad way.
2. Being direct.
Dating apps have spoiled me so much that I am just now getting back to talking to girls or cold approaching in general, daygame or nightgame. Lately I have had an issue in daygame with being direct about my intentions, I usually end up making small talk with a girl and that is it. I do not go direct like I should and I have had it with myself, the moment gets too big and I choke.
Even when I did pull back in college when I was doing daygame, I was really subtle about it. It happened in the sense that we both knew it even though I never communicated it. Now I want to get better at being direct without being weird...
3. Too much in my head about the times.
I think this is another problem as opposed to a daygame problem but I let the day get away from me and at times start approaching at say a 6 PM when it is slowly getting dark. Now this is me too much in my head about the times but I wonder if there is any point in the day that is more ideal for approaching. I know I am overthinking this part too though.
Hoping to get help...
