Dealing with a fetish

[jeff_64]

Hey everyone! This is really my first time getting into the forums on here. I've read articles and the main book plenty of times over and I'm about to start working on my pickup game.

Having said that I had some questions about dealing with fetishes when it comes to the women you are seeing. I myself have a foot fetish and while I enjoy it there isn't a lot of pickup material that teaches how to work things like that into your game. So if anyone with a fetish(or someone with well enough knowledge on the subjects of them) had any experience I wanted to ask a couple things.

I have not had sex yet, but I had an occasion about a year ago where i was close to having it with this girl I met. I had gotten turned on near the beginning but by the time we had undressed and were ready to go I just wasn't there anymore and couldn't get there. Now in my time feet has always been a main focus of arousal for me as opposed to other areas so I wasn't sure if it was because I just wasn't feeling the other parts of her enough to get turned on, anyone ever had a fix they could try in those situations? Because I want to be able to please women beyond just what I want out of sexual encounters, so giving great "regular" sex.

It is fair to note that there were plenty of other factors that could have lead to this. I had been watching porn regularly at the time and did so the night before which I know can be damaging, and I wasn't very attracted to her as well. Obviously sexual encounters are pretty new for me so it's hard to say if the fetish was the problem until I've had more experience but I figured I'd ask now just to have some potential advise for late!


Bonus questions
1. How do you normally tell them you have it?

2. How did you get them on board with doing fetish related things?

Thanks everyone!

 

[Richard]

I was writing up a response for this last night but got side-tracked and decided to ditch it.

Anyway, you'll find that a lot of girls are willing to do whatever it takes to get your rocks off because they know that your pleasure increases there's in the long run. When it comes, specifically, to foot fetishes you'll also find that a lot of girls have a neutral standpoint on it where they more-or-less have this kind of mentality;

"I don't know why you get off on it but sure, whatever floats your boat."

That being said, it's not something you need to bring up either and if you do decide to bring it up just explain it nonchalantly like it's no big deal because the reality is that it actually is no big deal. It's just a fetish and absolutely everybody has one whether it be exhibitionism, BDSM, etc.

When it comes down to it just seduce a girl normally and once she's in the bedroom and you two are getting down to business just take control and satisfy your desire. If she offers resistance or questions it, explain things calmly and keep it going; if she doesn't offer resistance and isn't blatantly weirded out by it (and you'll find that less than 1/10 women will be) then smooth sailing from there.

One last note, though, if you want to make a girl your girlfriend or keep a girl around longer than about 3 months then refrain from satisfying your fetish for between 3-5 sex sessions with a girl. Keep things plain at first but still make her orgasm and then you can start to introduce the more kinky things and she'll learn to crave you because of it.

Have fun with this buddy!

-Richard

 

[jeff_64]

I was writing up a response for this last night but got side-tracked and decided to ditch it.

Anyway, you'll find that a lot of girls are willing to do whatever it takes to get your rocks off because they know that your pleasure increases there's in the long run. When it comes, specifically, to foot fetishes you'll also find that a lot of girls have a neutral standpoint on it where they more-or-less have this kind of mentality;

"I don't know why you get off on it but sure, whatever floats your boat."

That being said, it's not something you need to bring up either and if you do decide to bring it up just explain it nonchalantly like it's no big deal because the reality is that it actually is no big deal. It's just a fetish and absolutely everybody has one whether it be exhibitionism, BDSM, etc.

When it comes down to it just seduce a girl normally and once she's in the bedroom and you two are getting down to business just take control and satisfy your desire. If she offers resistance or questions it, explain things calmly and keep it going; if she doesn't offer resistance and isn't blatantly weirded out by it (and you'll find that less than 1/10 women will be) then smooth sailing from there.

One last note, though, if you want to make a girl your girlfriend or keep a girl around longer than about 3 months then refrain from satisfying your fetish for between 3-5 sex sessions with a girl. Keep things plain at first but still make her orgasm and then you can start to introduce the more kinky things and she'll learn to crave you because of it.

Have fun with this buddy!

-Richard

Sounds like very great advise to me! Resonates with some of the experiences I've had. On that last point I assume you mean 3-5 sessions from the first time, rather than every 3-5 times on and off from regular times.Thank you for the response!