Dealing with a flaky/not interested chick.

[Romy]

Hey, guys. It's been a month since I met this girl at work and I've used countless techniques, behavior and approach about which I read on this site. I talked to this girl casually and I've given her clear signs of eye flirting. I used cold reading and found out about her a lot. She's a type of girl who doesn't like pick-up lines, acts all high and mighty, too much pride and doesn't give a f*** about anyone else. I find that hot in a girl which made me interested in her. I don't have any problems asking a girl out or dealing with her on an advanced level but this one's a bit hard to get which makes me wonder what to do next:

I asked her out 10 days ago and she said yes but if other people from came as well, which automatically meant rejection, of course. I dug a bit deeper to find out why and the best response is "I knew from the start what you wanted" and "I always know what you guys want". The only way she'd go out with me is as friends. I am confident and a bit intimidating and may come off as a guy who just wants a quick sex but that's completely incorrect. I acted like nothing happened and cut contact. It was normal at work like nothing happened.

Then, 2 days ago, she got fired. She immediately texted me about it which I found a bit surprising since we "parted" normally. Then, I took another shot and asked her out again because we're not co-workers anymore and she could explain to me what happened. "Now we can go out, I'll explain what ahppened. We could've gone out 10 days ago if our intentions were the same. " she replied. I was pissed right off because you can see from the second sentence that she's hanging on the fact that we'll go out just so she could explain what happened. I acted dumb and asked her if the job was the reason she didn't want to come out with me in the first place. She said that we'll talk about it when we meet.

I'm not really used to chasing girls since I usually get what I want pretty easily, but this one pisses me off and I'm not really in the mood to chase my ass off for her if I don't know if it would pay off. What should I do next? I plan on asking her to elaborate why she didn't want to go out the first time, even though deep down I know it's because of my intentions. But my intentions didn't change, or is she that ignorant?

Don't know what to say anymore, thanks for the help in advance.

 

[Gentle_Phrases]

Hey Romy,

I just read your post and I'm interested to know how this one turned out for you. Was she gunning for some sort of long-term relationship out of you? Or did she want a night of debauchery for her diary?

 

[Romy]

Hey Gentle_Phrases,

It seems neither, sadly. Grabbed a cup of coffee with her today. The first thing I asked is why she accepted my invitation this time and she said because I mentioned "neutral meet-up", which I did because I could subconsciously see that that's the only way I'll get her. To me, it doesn't make sense because my intentions never changed so I said that things would go the same way (conversation and get to know more about each other) if she accepted it the first time. She made a cold face and replied with "It doesn't matter.". Like it has to be known that we came to specifically talk about (to me) irrelevant things. This was my first solo with her and she doesn't bite. I told her I don't do "friend-zone" stuff before we met today but I did it anyway just so I could know about her more.

Like I said, I don't feel like chasing, but this one's got the looks I specifically like and as it is already common sense, it's interesting when they don't bite and make a challenge. We finished the hanging out with just "Catch you later/talk to you later". I'm in a bit of a dilemma about what I'm supposed to do but I won't be the one initiating the conversation. At least that's the way I feel right now.

 

[H-Two-O]

Did yo consider dating ther multiple women as an option. Dating many women is actualy more fair to you and to the women becasue it allows you to be confortable and not under the pressure on ONLY having one girl's phone number to "hopefully" go out with. Thus you become more natural and girls can see the real-you. So even girls would be able to better evaluate you and make a better choice when you date other women aside from them.

Downside of that is it needs more work to do this and it is little harder for people with Approach Anexiety to approach and ask many women out.

 

[Romy]

I'm usually a one-at-a-time guy and I don't have any problems with that as far as my confidence goes. I also don't have any approach anxiety if I blatantly ask them out. I asked her out again 3 days ago on Facebook. She saw the message but replied today with "I'm sorry, I forgot to reply ". She's playing with me, but I'm willing to play as well to see where it will go. Every experience counts.