Dealing With Enemies.

[James D]

Guys,

I'm faced with some trouble here.

For the past few months, I've become an arrogant asshole. I honestly do not know whether I approached the Genuine Man journey right or not.
I portrayed arrogance mainly through my body language: Arrogant facial features, ignoring people.
I have been a fucking jerk.
I have amassed tons of enemies. Guys are challenging me in classes, speak shit of me loudly.
The main reaction of many guys is something like "Who the fuck does he think he is???"
I thought of transitioning to the humble man but I don't know whether I'm ready for this: Still got plenty of enemies trying to put me down and I don't know how to deal with it smoothly.
I've got more enemies than allies.
Also, the most troubling part, is that I feel deeply hurt that some people hate me.

Some advice would be helpful and welcomed.

James D

 

[andersen09]

Guys,

I'm faced with some trouble here.

For the past few months, I've become an arrogant asshole. I honestly do not know whether I approached the Genuine Man journey right or not.
I portrayed arrogance mainly through my body language: Arrogant facial features, ignoring people.
I have been a fucking jerk.
I have amassed tons of enemies. Guys are challenging me in classes, speak shit of me loudly.
The main reaction of many guys is something like "Who the fuck does he think he is???"
I thought of transitioning to the humble man but I don't know whether I'm ready for this: Still got plenty of enemies trying to put me down and I don't know how to deal with it smoothly.
I've got more enemies than allies.
Also, the most troubling part, is that I feel deeply hurt that some people hate me.

Some advice would be helpful and welcomed.

James D

This is exactly why most men will never make it. You'll see some men on this forum who became victim to the world, because they lost and went back because the world succeeded in bringing them down. You have enemies trying to put you down and the whole world is against you. How will you deal with it?
This isn't just right now, this is also a foreshadow to your future. When you're with a beautiful blonde, guys won't like it and they'll talk shit, challenge you, and the whole world will challenge you. It doesn't fucking matter whether you're a douche or not. When you become high value, this is the reality.

You acting like a douche, is to build up your self esteem through the roof. t's not to just "act" like a douche, it's to create scenarios where you are forced to face so that you face your fear of people laughing at you and going against you when you DO become better. It's a PARALLEL circumstance to when you go against the society, and the society says you should do this and that, but you stick to your path and guns no matter what. Fear of being alone, being by yourself, walking a solo path.

Learn from all the greats. When Muhammad Ali went against the whole country when they wanted him to go fight in Vietnam but he refused. When everyone said Floyd Mayweather is scared to fight, but he's the one laughing now.

Welcome to the journey, but now whether you go through it or back away is now your choice. Either go back to mediocre lives where the common people live, or fight and grow, as one day the same people challenging you, will come to respect you and even become an inspiration, whether that's people you meet in the future, or your "enemies" of now.

Being humble is a luxury. It's knowing that you have the power to destroy someone, but you choose against it. As you're humble about the power that was given to you and you decide to use it with caution. But you can't be "humble" when there's nothing you can do in the first place. Therefore, when you're going through the path, there's no holding back. Either you dominate, or go back to the person you were.

 

[lostnumber]

Try and learn from your mistakes and be a better man, that is the only advice I can offer you. Once youve turned someone against you from bad behavior it can be very difficult to get them back on your side and there is no easy quick fix.

But if you keep working at it and provide value and positivity to the people around you, you'll meet new people who will be your friends instead of your enemies. Some of your enemies will see this and start drifting back towards your side. Some never will, but it won't matter because you'll have moved on and will have better things (and people) to occupy your time with.

The good news is that you recognize the problem and are willing to take steps to fix it. Thats where most people fall short - they try to blame their problems on the world instead of looking inward at their own thoughts and actions. Focus on the way your actions and attitude are affecting the people around you, and try to move things in a positive direction. People should feel better for interacting with you, thats the ultimate end goal.

 

[Drck]

Having enemies is great. The whole point of having enemies is that you become independent, more self-sufficient... You are on your own, nobody will help you. You can stand up against everybody and care less whether they like you. You have to deal with life while being alone, you have to deal with your own depression. That's a great stuff because that's what makes you mentally strong...

So if you can get couple guys hate your guts, they can't stand you, you did a great job.

A man who doesn't have any enemies is considered weak, he's too friendly, too compliant, too nice... He's a pussy. Women are not attracted to pussies, nobody is attracted to pussy who cannot hold his ground... Nobody can respect man that doesn't have any enemies...

On the other hand, you don't want to alienate the whole world either. You want to have friends, good friends, even if it is just couple. Two good/close friends are much better than 200 guys on FB who don't really give a damn about what you do. So make and keep 5 good friends, guys who you can see even just occasionally, have great talk with, get couple beers together and so forth...

Don't forget to keep some enemies as well, enemies are good. For every 10-20 guys on FB you should have at least 1 great enemy in real life...

 

[kiddpitt]

Im with lostnumber. Walk soft and carry a big stick. To me thats the essence of fundamentals...let your fundamentals do your talking. Being a douche on purpose...what are you overcompensating a lack of?

Learn how to say no. You can be a humble guy without being a pussy. That kind of savvy is much more attractive than being a dick. And when youre that kind of guy, teasing women is easier because they automatically know youre teasing...its a great way to imply interest.

Being socially savvy, you'll get plenty of people hating. No need to purposely make enemies. Value attracts value.

 

[James D]

Having enemies is great. The whole point of having enemies is that you become independent, more self-sufficient... You are on your own, nobody will help you. You can stand up against everybody and care less whether they like you. You have to deal with life while being alone, you have to deal with your own depression. That's a great stuff because that's what makes you mentally strong...

So if you can get couple guys hate your guts, they can't stand you, you did a great job.

Thanks for this clarification Drck. I'm at the point where I know that what people think of me does not really matter and I pretend not to care. But insides it kills me. Any quick fix for this or, like everything else worth learning, I must get myself in this situation often enough so that it does not affect me?

. Focus on the way your actions and attitude are affecting the people around you, and try to move things in a positive direction. People should feel better for interacting with you, thats the ultimate end goal.

I've worked on that today and I can already feel a difference. Thank you for pointing this to me.

[quote="andersen09

Welcome to the journey, but now whether you go through it or back away is now your choice. Either go back to mediocre lives where the common people live, or fight and grow[/quote]
I'll keep fighting. Knowing that at the very least, I'll never be an average joe is in itself fantastic.