OR Delt with AA,but...

[ocantu1987]

Did mall daygame sunday, started by telling girls there pretty only to get AA out of me and it worked, girls literally smiled and warmed up to me! Did a ton of direct approaches, got nothin but smiles only, no numbers

The problem was i took a buddy later on and filled him in on what i do, he doesnt approach women and claims he knows women (showed me facebook pics of his cute exes ) he was watching me and he contradicted the hell out of me, here is a list on the many things he told me

dont tell them there pretty, u are scaring them away
the people were laughing at u next to you when u were flirting with the girl at starbucks, (this did sting me a little bit, i was talking really fast and being bold lol) but she was smiling and keeping the conversation flowing
go indirect
Dress more casual (i had beige khakis, brown dress shoes, and red dress shirt to the malls)
The women u just approached was laughing at u
Smile when u approach ( hes right about this though)
Im just tryin help u, u are scaring them away bro
Dont ask women if they have boyfriends
The people on the pua forums dont know u bro how can they help you (i told him I write FR, wtf did i do that for lol)

I have told several people about pick up and they all mostly disagree with the practice, they think its try hard. One guy who is 50 told me throw the pick up books away and recommended i use business cards on approaches wtf

After today i realize that no one understand this lifestyle we do guys lol probably will never tell anyone again this is my business/personal life

The guy i was with i barely know, he works with me and is a cool guy and all but he is a pussy to try an approach lol he has a girl who lives elsewhere far away, he gave me credit on my balls to approach.

He got into my head today and made me question if "pick up" is worth it. I beat AA today i was great there, i was super confident later on as i complimented girls and started doing more small talk. This guy I just dont know if I should listen to him, since he is no Neil Straus lol

Could use feedback guys, do you guys keep pickup a secret from your friends and family?

 

[theemann31]

Re: ORelt with AA,but...

I hear ya ocantu,

My first semester of college was in a new state and I had 0 girls there (and 0 back home) but I told my friends who had cars and girlfriends this and that I didn't like any of the girls on campus (I go to a tiny engineering school) and asked them to take me out to the mall or grocery stores to talk to some of the pretty girls there in hopes that I could get a girlfriend and they just laughed their asses off at me and alienated me and made me feel like a piece of crap.

So I vowed to never tell anyone outside of PU about my sex life as they just don't get that this is a real thing and that it is skill building and not something that creepy desperate guys do that annoys the hell out of pretty girls. My thoughts are that you should keep your pickup life to yourself and Girlschase and anyone else who would understand this.

And don't stop approaching, I'm probably at the same place as you right now running mall game and grocery store game and getting rejected over and over again and we can pm each other and check up on each other if you want, I'm game

-Josh

 

[ray_zorse]

Re: ORelt with AA,but...

Yeah man I already wrote in your journal but honestly this dude is FOS... he's probably not consciously aware of this, but he's jealous and trying to cut you down... what I find particularly offensive about this is his telling u that people are laughing at u, a lot of beginning PUAs are sensitive to this (and to getting blown out in front of an audience) and it can ruin a dude's confidence. He's just probing for your weak spots, he can go fuck himself.

Frankly IDGAF who knows I'm into PU, my family know I have a pretty crazy dating schedule although I don't think they know everything unless they've compared notes... all my friends really know is that I'm good at starting conversations which they can then join into... and that I grind with a lot of women on any given dance floor... and that I can give texting tips... hahaha

Well AMOG buddy convinces himself I've read "the game" or some other 80s bullshit and that because of that I think I am a hotshot... so I was doing some waitress game in his presence, got her number and he immediately put me down, telling me it's a fake number and she was laughing at me and just doing it to shut me up etc, think he was jealous. Exactly the same shit you're dealing with. Difference being I know I'm good at this shit and so it doesn't affect me, I'm just annoyed w myself for seeking his approval. Unfortunately, I was drunk and failed to save the number, so I can't prove him wrong, however I went back the next day to apologize for being drunk and it seemed to spike attraction even more.

-Ray

 

[ocantu1987]

Re: ORelt with AA,but...

Thanks for the support ray & Josh! I needed it man. I didnt think that he could be jealous lol interesting thought, i think youre right. Im casting this guy out. He certainly affected my confidence in a negative way.

but yeah, i think from now on I will only tell people who do what I do, approach women. You guys are the best!