"Deselection"?

[Marty]

I kind of hesitate to ask this because I don't want to give an uncaring impression, but...

What policy did the more experienced members here adopt when they were going the following phase? At the moment, my fundamentals are a little off... I get the sense I am giving out a vibe of being open about sexuality and non-judgmental, but NOT one of abundance, and as a result I am getting a fair amount of attention from obviously low-value, unattractive women.

What is the best way to politely but powerfully brush off lunch invitations, accept/ignore compliments, etc., particularly when all this is being done in social circle and especially in earshot of attractive, higher-value women? How is this perceived... clearly you do not get the full preselection benefit, but is it actually negative "deselection"? What would you recommend for coming across as confident and remaining gracious?

I presume that this ceases to be a problem once you have abundance and your fundamentals thoroughly nailed down, at which point the undesired women instantaneously auto-reject.

 

[Zoro]

I'd like to point out an idea that has helped me with interacting with all kinds of people. I have noticed a strange thing occurs when "deep diving." I have often found the conversation goes in a direction that is very relevant to the things going on in my life and results in interesting interactions.

Quite a strange phenomenon.

So I'd say don't write them off too quickly. A little talking is okay and you may like it too.
If this is happening a lot then you have plenty of chances to practice conversation skills.

Now for the part about excusing yourself in a socially savyy way, I remember reading article on GC about this very topic.
If anyone knows it please link it, it was good stuff.