desire for sex going down

[shaneawi]

I'm a 27 year old male and recent graduate of law school. Over the past few years I've found my desire for sex going down. I've rejected a handful of womens advances even though I knew I had a strong likelihood of sleeping with them.

For some reason I get more stimulation from doing other activities such as bodybuilding at the gym and I'm currently in the process of writing a book.

I don't want to appear like I'm better than women or that I'm above sex or anything like that. I love women and sex I just get more stimulation from other activities. Is this normal or do I need to reevaluate myself? Any advice would be great.

 

[Chase]

Shane-

Not too abnormal. Most men's sex drives fluctuate up and down over time.

And depending on your sexual experience, you may not have a lot of mental associations between certain types or looks of women and "hot, satisfying sex". When that's the case, a girl propositioning you is more of an intellectual proposal than a sexually exciting one, and if you're pushing yourself to pursue women intellectually it doesn't make you hard.

One suggestion would be the next time you're faced with a girl making an advance on your, ask yourself, "If I don't accept, will this be something I regret later or not?" If yes, then accept and see what happens. If no, then decline, and occupy yourself with another, more stimulating activity, and worry over it no more.

Chase