Did I Deep Dive too Soon?

[Sandman]

I'm in a really busy period of my life. I usually go to work, come home at night and go to work again.

I have to take some lessons from the Bar in order to complete my internship and be a certified lawyer. This will last for a month. I also have to work in the classes.

I met this cute girl after the end of a class. She was working in class same as me and after everybody left I opened her jokingly saying something like "you have to work as well huh? Happy to meet a fellow slave" or something like that after some small chitchat I left.

Next day (yesterday) she sat beside the chair where I have been sitting for two days (at the back corner of the class). I led her outside in the break for a coffee, was touchy as usual (leading her by touching the small of her back etc.). And I flirted and deep dived her. After class we went to the area (half an hour) where my office was and departed there. I continued to deep dive her, qualify her, touch her and flirt with her.

The conversations were light but still I deep dived a lot. Can't help it, whenever I meet with someone I deep dive asap. There's a public holiday next week so I'll probably be free monday (and maybe tomorrow night). I already think I might have shown too much interest (she was receptive though) and deep dived too much, moved too slowly.

Now, I'm asking this question from a pure learning perspective. I will still make my move and no big deal if she doesn't reciprocate. Still, what would you do if you were in my place? Should I have delibarety tried to hold myself from deep diving? Should I have not walked with her? Or because I'm in social circle it doesn't mean matter all that much? My lays come from deep diving and occasional cold-approach so I'm not very experienced in social circle stuff. I expect to sleep with the girl same day. My instincts may be wrong...

What do you guys think? Any input is appreciated

 

[andersen09]

Think of deep diving as literally deep diving in an ocean to catch a fish.

When you go see a fish you like as a fisherman, you take a deep breath, go into water, get the fish, comeback up for air, and as your lung capacity improves, you learn to go deeper for longer, and comeback, and so on.

You want to treat the girl you first see as that.

When you deep dive, keep it brief depending on how she responds. You can go deeper if she's receptive, but it's always better to play it safe and comeback up for the air as you're 100% sure you don't be making an error.

When you do "comeback up for air" you just go back to being playful, and keeping it non-serious. And next time you deep dive, you go further and comeback up, and so on.

And really, whether you go TOO FAR or NOT TOO MUCH, depends on the girl and how much receptive she is to you.

 

[nolimits]

Brother,

Hard to Say without reading a dialogue but still, great point from Andersen here.

Looks like u aren't releasing/ fractionating enough.

If u don t constantly lighten up deep dive with playful banter, the whole things loses its power and go from "pretty magic" to "bit too heavy".

Make sure u light things up with things such as " hey they ll give us a nobel prize If we keep on being this deep here ".
At which point she'll laugh, u can be a bit less deep for 20 seconds and go back to deep dive after!

Give it a try next time ,

Nolimits