Been in this relationship for 8 months. Sex is good, always have fun together, but I feel she is still playing games with text messages. We text good morning and good night most days, but the past few days she won’t respond, will take a long time, or won’t reply at all. So I called her about 30 min after a goodnight, getting ready for bed text and told her that I expect responses to my texts in a reasonable amount of time, it takes two seconds, if she has time to scroll through Facebook she has time to text me back. She got pissed and told me I was being “demanding” and she didn’t like it. I told her that I want open and transparent communication in a relationship and that if that’s going to be an ongoing issue then that’s going to be a dealbreaker for me. It doesn’t need to be a big deal. She seemed to agree but also just wanted to get off the phone to go to sleep. I don’t think it will be an ongoing issue. She was mad but not steaming, however not sure if it was a strong or weak position. I felt I had been true to my own masculinity but I had mixed emotions after the call.
But now I feel as if I was being overly controlling and showing insecurity. To the point I want to apologize for my controlling behavior and let her know it just makes me feel good when I hear from her throughout the day. But this also feels weak. I regret having even made this a thing in the first place because now I feel I’m between a rock and a hard place.
But now I feel as if I was being overly controlling and showing insecurity. To the point I want to apologize for my controlling behavior and let her know it just makes me feel good when I hear from her throughout the day. But this also feels weak. I regret having even made this a thing in the first place because now I feel I’m between a rock and a hard place.