Didn't really bother with any of the attraction rules before as things happened naturally for me most of the time. Looking back to it after having now gone through some materials, the times when I totally charmed a hot girl to be my girlfriend etc was when I accidentally did everything right and fast. I'm a catch though, have the looks, success etc. Just need to get back my game. so, I broke up with my gf a while ago. took it really hard and personal. after a while finally figured out what happened and managed to get into the mindset to meet some other girls but I still was not really into it, and cut them all pretty short.
in the fall, I really briefly met this younger chick through a friend who was dating her at the time. they didn't work out. she asked something about him and we ended up chatting from time to time. she wasn't in my country, so I didn't really meet her at the time. I had some other things going on too though. So I wasn't even sure if we'd be too compatible. But we seemed to get a long nicely and when she came back for a period of time, I asked her out. I think it went great except I was stupid enough not to do anything intimate with her, didn't really make any moves. I wasn't afraid or anything, but still thought something maybe a bit awkward as I knew she had been recently dating a dude I know. And I also knew she is going away again shortly. I don't know why that stopped me. It should have been the other way, haha. She tried to meet more once, I was busy that night and she went away again for 2 months. We still chatted after this (maybe too much even). Now she came back again. The first weekend we met, I was really drunk and it went maybe a bit stupid, anyway we went our separate ways that night. I decided to correct it and asked her out two days later. She seemed to have changed her mood a bit and seemed colder, and that made me a bit apprehensive. Thought maybe she sees me as a friend now. I probably had done all for this too, haha. But I still asked her home, she came and we had sex. Took her home in the morning etc.
After this I maybe made a mistake to ask her out already too soon. She was flirty but turned it down. I of course asked her to one specific public thing in 2 weeks, so maybe that wasn't the smartest move anyway.
I'm wondering what to do next. As she doesn't seem to initiate conversation any more. So far she always had. I've acted too much of a nice guy of course, too much of a "boyfriendy" (I kind of had that mindset or aura after my breakup but I know I have to get rid of that), way too slow to escalate, too much beta. Know that now. But I think she really dug me at some point and I seemed to have her if I wanted. Btw, the girl is really hot and she for sure has lots of guys orbiting her.
Should I just stop talking with her for the time being. I'm anyway really busy the next two weeks. She will go out a lot during that time of course I know. I was slow to escalate and seal the deal but I did in the end. And she seemed to have fun time. So, maybe if I back away, she comes back for more? I finally figured it out that I like her. Well, I've always did. More so, that I figured it out that I'm finally over my last relationship and ready for new adventures. Any advice?
in the fall, I really briefly met this younger chick through a friend who was dating her at the time. they didn't work out. she asked something about him and we ended up chatting from time to time. she wasn't in my country, so I didn't really meet her at the time. I had some other things going on too though. So I wasn't even sure if we'd be too compatible. But we seemed to get a long nicely and when she came back for a period of time, I asked her out. I think it went great except I was stupid enough not to do anything intimate with her, didn't really make any moves. I wasn't afraid or anything, but still thought something maybe a bit awkward as I knew she had been recently dating a dude I know. And I also knew she is going away again shortly. I don't know why that stopped me. It should have been the other way, haha. She tried to meet more once, I was busy that night and she went away again for 2 months. We still chatted after this (maybe too much even). Now she came back again. The first weekend we met, I was really drunk and it went maybe a bit stupid, anyway we went our separate ways that night. I decided to correct it and asked her out two days later. She seemed to have changed her mood a bit and seemed colder, and that made me a bit apprehensive. Thought maybe she sees me as a friend now. I probably had done all for this too, haha. But I still asked her home, she came and we had sex. Took her home in the morning etc.
After this I maybe made a mistake to ask her out already too soon. She was flirty but turned it down. I of course asked her to one specific public thing in 2 weeks, so maybe that wasn't the smartest move anyway.
I'm wondering what to do next. As she doesn't seem to initiate conversation any more. So far she always had. I've acted too much of a nice guy of course, too much of a "boyfriendy" (I kind of had that mindset or aura after my breakup but I know I have to get rid of that), way too slow to escalate, too much beta. Know that now. But I think she really dug me at some point and I seemed to have her if I wanted. Btw, the girl is really hot and she for sure has lots of guys orbiting her.
Should I just stop talking with her for the time being. I'm anyway really busy the next two weeks. She will go out a lot during that time of course I know. I was slow to escalate and seal the deal but I did in the end. And she seemed to have fun time. So, maybe if I back away, she comes back for more? I finally figured it out that I like her. Well, I've always did. More so, that I figured it out that I'm finally over my last relationship and ready for new adventures. Any advice?
