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Raqimus

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Venting- Skip if you'd like to

Hey guys... right now I'm pretty fucking upset with myself, like I normally don't get mad at shit like this but I'm fucking steaming there was shit i forgot and didn't do. I overcame a lot tonight and I moved things towards the end goal but I ended up taking my eyes off the main prize (the pussy) and focusing on another pair of lips. Read this shit, I'm posting this so I don't let myself forget, I overcame a ton of shit tonight but i fucking lost out and I feel like a bitch arghhh. Now I'm not mad at her she did nothing wrong, I'm just mad at myself because I fucking know better, and I forgot shit anyway on to the shit.

Texting
Met this girl at my job gave me pretty solid sign when I walked by her, whatever ended up checking her out and getting her number there, the ibe got weird but i still got the number and shit so it was all good. The text exchange to set up the date is below.

(ME)Jun 8, 8:14pm - Cool meeting you Rachael :) -Raqimus

(HER)Jun 9, 1:00am - Nice meeting you too!

(ME)Jun 10, 9:40pm - Hey Rachael hows it goin! Hopefully you got to enjoy your day. Thinking we should get together soon, when are you free to grab a bite or a drink?

(HER)Jun 11, 5:25pm - Hey Raqimus I ave the day off tomorrow, I've been having a pretty great day yea i slept in super late and have just been chillin with my roomies

(ME)Jun 11 7:40pm - Ok cool, it sounds like your having a really chill day hahaha, to match that how about we grab some ice cream or a shake tomorrow

(HER)Jun 11 7:55pm - That sounds great, there's a Fomu right near my house if you're into that or is there a place you want to go?
(HER)Jun 11 7:59pm - Yea I just went to a local play with my friend so it's been a reaaaally chill day

(ME)Jun 11 8:23pm - Fomu?! Never had it but i'd be interested in trying it, wheres it at?

(HER)Jun 11 9:39pm - It's dairy free ice cream but it's so good it's right near my house, I live in the xxxx/xxxx area right off of xxxx street

(ME)Jun 11 11:23pm - Alright cool, Ill meet you there how does 9pm sound

(HER)Jun 11 11:30pm - Well I have work early Saturday morning so I'm not going to want to be chilling late

(ME)Jun 11 11:42pm - Hahaha who said we'd be chiling late :p how about 8:00 then

(HER)Jun 11 11:44pm - I thought 9pm is pretty late for ice cream

(ME) Jun 11 11:46pm - Live a little grandma!

(HER)Jun 11 11:51pm - Oooookaaaaay
(HER)Jun 11 11:52pm - :p

(ME)Jun 11 11:59pm - A'tta girl

As you can read it's set up pretty nice and things are way in my favor, now to the next day

(ME)Jun 12 4:34pm - Still n for later?

(Her)Jun 12 5:09pm- Yea totally my address is xxxxx

(Me)Jun 12 5:54pm - Alright sounds good
Then I ran into trouble with the bus
(Me)Jun 12 8:39pm - Running late this bus is taking forever :\

(Her) Jun 12 8:43pm - Hey what's up?

(ME)Jun 12 8:48pm - The bus i really late, ill hopefully get there by 9:30, sorry

(Her)Jun 12 8:48pm - No worries I'm in no rush
(Her)Jun 12 9:24pm - Hey just so you know I have two front doors so you can just go through the first one

(Me) Jun 12 9:24pm - Ok cool, be there in 10

In the mean time I'd approached one girl and talked to like three others to kind of keep myself up. When I got to her place I gave her a ring and she let me in, one of her friends was leaving. I'd given Rachael a hug then asked her where her bathroom was cause I needed to take a major piss in those exact words. I went to the bathroom and I didnt say fuck the date because her other roommates from what I could hear were still upstairs and there was another roommate on the floor we were on. So we went to Fomu.
The date
It was a bit rough at first because i feel like we were both a bit nervous, but she offered compliance a lot and I accepted. I had gotten a smoothie she had gotten a tea and cupcake, and she shared the cupcake and we tried each others drink and we both ate the cupcake. Some dialogue below

When ordering our drinks
Her- I don't know what to get

Me- We'll what fruits do you like?

Her - I like all of them hmmm , maybe this its on the something nut menu

Me- Oh so you like nuts?

Her- Yea I like pistachios blah blah blah (She didnt bite so i continued with the thread a bit and broke rapport about how I didn't like pistachios)

We'd gotten our stuff and the place was packed when we got in so I'd decided we'd walk, a table near the window opened up as we were leaving so she suggested we sit there and I complied. On the way in I dived about school and her art, and at the shop I dived her about travel, and hobbies and a bit of fluff. As we were finishing up I suggested we get to walking, she still had some cupcake left and wanted to finish it so I told her she can always just shove it all in her mouth... Sexuality began getting positive results cool, then we left.

When we left, I suggested we hang back at her place and watch a movie and chat for a bit. She countered with going on walk and enjoying the outside, I said something about not wanting to be outside due to mosquitoes you know just making shit up, she wanted to go to a park I was like nah, I'd rather be inside. This goes on for a sec and we cross to her place I give her a little by us walking to the end of another street before we turn back. We then go up another street since she didn't want to go home immediately and we loop around to her house. We chill on the front steps for a bit just talking and shit. During the loop we were talking about tv shows, she mentioned how she loved American dad, and I suggested we watch it and she was like her roommate would love it too. I'm just like whatever. So back to the steps we are just talking and a dude shows up, one of her friends we introduce, and she introduces me as her friend, he ends up going into the back to hang with the other dude. We still talk and eventually her roommates come out, four girls. I'm just chilling while they chat and she introduces me as her friend, and these girls want my dick

They mentioned about randomly just going out an i took that as a sign she texted something to them about leaving, so good things are in my favor. We talk about relationships and she's just come out of one and is going with the flow... perfect. We go inside and she is smooth haha she suggests we hang in the living room, whatever we listen to some records and talk and shit. Eventually I get bored of this and asks if she thinks I'm attractive, she says yes and we makeout for a second. She's surprised we are moving so fast, I think I didn't set a proper frame for fast sex earlier so i began setting it now, we talk about slut shaming, i mention that first date sex is usually expected of me otherwise i never see the girl again.

Now here i fuck up, I had completely forgotten about going to her room, the dude that was upstairs came down introduced himself and headed out back, so upstairs where the room's were was completely vacant, I should of tried to pull her upstairs, with something like give me the tour or something but I forgot, I was so focused on getting back to the makout I didn't keep moving things forward because she would kiss then give resistance to something further. It was short makeouts then resistance. Now I had also forgotten about going for the other lips and turning her on so that was another fault. So she was talking about how things are moving fast and I got past that. Her body language was open and I'm pretty sure she was open to intimacy had i tried to go for something more or move things upstairs.

We ended up watching American dad downstairs and shit, with bits of making out, and after American dad she said she had to go to bed, since she had to be up at 8 mind you it was 11:30, I tried to persist in saying it's still early, nights still young, but I didnt want to make a big deal out of it. I made her help pull me up off the couch and we made out a bit. As I was leaving she asked if I knew how to get home, maybe I should of tried something slick but I didn't.

I'd only realized all this stuff after I had left and I was pretty upset with myself, things were lined up for me but I took my eyes off the main goal and placed them on a smaller goal. I don't know if I'll see this girl again after messing all that stuff up. Aside from those fuckups I overcame quite a few of her objections, there was like 4 or 5 just to get back into her house lol, so with that I'm happy. Thanks for reading guys and may we all fuck mad bitches, I know I for one and going to approach way more. I want fucking pussy.
 
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maximus6004

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Alright basically from I saw your logistics were terrible. Within the first text message she clearly states that she has roommates then you bring up slot shaming in your talk near her friends. Regardless of what you say, she doesn't want to look like a whore in front of her friends. She introduced you as a friend so she has no intention of being in a relationship. Should have taken her back to your place or to the park. She was trying to take you to the park to be alone with you as her roommates were all home. Don't think anything else in this situation would have mattered. Don't beat yourself up I had a girl completely naked in my bed and sucking me off and she still left. Sometimes there is nothing you can do.

Remember they have feelings and they are human, yes it's a game but it's not a game of levels. It's an online match you will have resistance, people better than you. Some days you will be the best in the match while others you will have such shitty moments you give up for a couple days.

Keep your head high always ask about logistics. I would have also made a comment about "don't get any funny ideas in the park, I mean especially holding my hand. I'm just not that easy" grab her hand smile at her. If she says or looks at you like what are you doing. Something I do is pull my hand away and say see already starting with the hand holding bad bad bad naughty girl. Smile and change the subject as you grab her hand.

Like hitch says, she's out on the date with you. All you have to do is not screw it up.

You might have a second chance with her.
 

Raqimus

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Edit- please delete this
 

Raqimus

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maximus6004 said:
Alright basically from I saw your logistics were terrible. Within the first text message she clearly states that she has roommates then you bring up slot shaming in your talk near her friends. Regardless of what you say, she doesn't want to look like a whore in front of her friends. She introduced you as a friend so she has no intention of being in a relationship. Should have taken her back to your place or to the park. She was trying to take you to the park to be alone with you as her roommates were all home. Don't think anything else in this situation would have mattered. Don't beat yourself up I had a girl completely naked in my bed and sucking me off and she still left. Sometimes there is nothing you can do.

Remember they have feelings and they are human, yes it's a game but it's not a game of levels. It's an online match you will have resistance, people better than you. Some days you will be the best in the match while others you will have such shitty moments you give up for a couple days.

Keep your head high always ask about logistics. I would have also made a comment about "don't get any funny ideas in the park, I mean especially holding my hand. I'm just not that easy" grab her hand smile at her. If she says or looks at you like what are you doing. Something I do is pull my hand away and say see already starting with the hand holding bad bad bad naughty girl. Smile and change the subject as you grab her hand.

Like hitch says, she's out on the date with you. All you have to do is not screw it up.

You might have a second chance with her.

Maximus thanks for reading, and maybe the order of things was a bit confusing. I brought up the relationship stuff after everyone else had left. We got back to her place and were talking outside and then four of her roommates had to leave to go to a club to get a girl her shoes "randomly" the slut shaming stuff was when we were alone in house.

With the logistics I usually go for public escalations because my place is a no go, my entire focus had been on go back to her house and I ended up with tunnel vision forgetting about the park completely thanks for bringing that up. I had forgotten seduction was supposed to be a cooperative thing and completely disregarded her idea of moving to the park even though thats what I usually do... silly me.

Any tips you'd recommend for the second chance. I was about to just say screw and try a booty call and see if that worked, otherwise I'd try the date route although in her area again, and make a move to the park instead.
 

maximus6004

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Only saying it because I've been through the situation my friend. I had a girl invite me to the mall I said no no no come to my place. She didn't. Well come to find out she invites all the guys she likes to the mall then goes to their place.

I had a second chance with this girl and I fuck ed it up again. She looked at my camera and said I bet you video tape sex on this. I said, uh no.... and walked away. Slap in the forehead. Never got a chance with her again.

Now, with her, I'm not sure if she says no. Who cares move on then it's better to know than to not know.
 

Raqimus

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Damn dude thats harsh, and yea I'll just give it a shot again, thanks for the input friend :)
 

maximus6004

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No problem. We are all in that situation at some point. A different perspective.
 
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