Didn't show enough interest now she doesn't chase me!

[Anonymous]

So I just started my last year in high school.There's a new girl in my class.the first few days of class she will stare at me constantly.She would walk by me in lunch and try to initiate conversation but I ignored because I wasn't interested.She finally decided to introduce herself to me and asked me for my name.She would keep chasing me and trying to talk me.One day I decided to give her a chance and we talked for about an hour,and that's when I feel attracted to her.We kept talking for days.She asked me why I didn't hug her,and so I started to hug her.We broke the touch barrier.This girl was nuts she chased me around the school touching me,hugging me from behind etc.I showed some interest but I tried to be mysterious.She even texted me and I ignored her.I never chased after her.She told me she feels like I abandon her sometimes and that se was pissed off.Her chasin went for about a month.in one of our conversations she mentioned her ex boyfriend but didn't say much about him.Then all of the sudden she stops chasing me I felt confused.Then I heard her talking about how her ex asked her out on a date.I was crushed but I tried to ignore it.Fortunately the date didn't happen,but ever since she has become more distant.She still interacts romantically with me from time to time but It isn't as frequent.I know she's still at least a little attracted,but I think she gave up.I don't wanna lose this girl but i don't want I chase her and push her away.Most of your are going to tell me to move on and find another girl,but I want her!Please help me!

 

[Ross]

If you like a girl, make a bold move, and make it fast. They won't chase you forever.

Focus less on getting the girl to chase you, and more on asking her out on a date and sleeping with her.

 

[Drck]

You don't want to lose that girl but you don't do anything either. Within a reason, for how long did you really expect her to chase you?

You did a lot of excellent things:
1. Good attraction, she was staring at you, chased you. She was initiating conversations. Finally she introduced herself to you. Damn, she was really after you!
2. She kept chasing you, and you finally gave up - you talked to her for an hour. Good, she is still very much into you.
3. She still want more: you talk for days, now she even requests hugs. Damn, that is good! She initiates, she is touching you, hugging you from the back. Still very good!
4. Now she is telling you she feels abandoned and pissed. So she pulls another card to get you going - her BF asked her for date. Are you going to do anything about her? In her mind, if you care about her you would. Of course the date didn't happen, she had no intention to date her ex-BF. Her intention was to get you going, moving things forward...

All the above is mastery, that is how it - ideally - should be. Of course you can't expect this to happen with every girl, but it happens. You did nothing, she was hitting on you, she was going after you for long time, she was asking you to hug her (get physical) and so on. She would jump in your bed only if you allowed it.


You did poorly in the following:
1. Once she was chasing you and you were already not only talking to her but also touching her, you should have started to move things forward. She wanted more, she wanted to be more physical. She wanted sex. But you didn't "allow it" to happen, meaning you didn't lead. You should have lead, at least a little - all you had to do is to take her to your place and she would jump in your bed, she would take her clothes off and jump you you. I bet, if you listened to her carefully, she was talking about being alone with you either at her place or your place, maybe even several times. All you had to do is to "allow it"...

Talk about fucking mastery, even most intermediate guys on this forum don't understand that yet - they would argue with you that it just can't be like that!
2. She pulls up her ex-BF. Now it is getting serious, she is giving you last chance - either you or another guy who she know well. She is telling you: Dude, you got to move or you will lose me. Of course she eventually stops chasing you, she is tired of chasing you and getting nothing. She likes you a lot and she wants more, but you don't "allow her" to have it...

So yes, if you want her you got to move. Aloofness/mystery/being distant ignorant works only up to 80%. The rest 20% is, you still have to take her to your place, and eventually pull your dick out. Or at least let her do it, otherwise she will be forever gone, looking for someone else...