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Hi guys i just want to know personally what is the difference between men that is a nice guy and good guy?
what are the difference?
what are the difference?
Difference beetween a nice, good and a bad guy
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had a girl the other day told me that i am good man she did not say nice man there is difference right?
btw thanks Mb1 i am aware of those posts i just wanted to know if it is a huge difference!
btw thanks Mb1 i am aware of those posts i just wanted to know if it is a huge difference!
Yes, those are great articles.
Sometimes the girls even say that you are a nice guy because she just wants to give you a compliment, and she doesn't mean the Nice Guy complex that is being considered here...
Girls do want nice guys and they want good guys. But, you also have to have some features added to it that removes you from the classical Nice Guy that can't get laid.
Nice Guys are usually not confident enough, they are more passive, they are not exciting (they are rather boring). They don't go after what they want. They are perceived as weak because they don't have a spine. They are not assertive, they are not leading and not dominant enough. They have low self esteem and self respect. There is no adventures with them. They are too compliant with whatever she says,too apologetic. They are too friendly and slow with the girl, thus the are not appearing sexy enough. They are too shy, too emotional, too passive aggressive, too overreacting, too nice and too dramatic... Why would she want to deal with that she's got her own baggage...
Nice Guys are also too insecure, e.g. They want to "tie down" the girl into marriage as soon as they can, they can't stand when she talks or flirts with other guys. Which is a good thing if she is looking to get married because she knows he will be faithful and she can trust him. At the same time it is a bad thing if she is looking only for "fun", she simply knows she can't risk anything with this guy because he is too judgement, too honest and too critical. He cares too much, he's got everything in his life perfectly ligned up, there is no place for mistakes, no place for spontaneity... So he can actually be very sexy and very attractive, but he gets rejected nevertheless just because that's not what's she's looking for "right now"...
They want to date or see the girl every single day. If a week had 8 days, they would make sure they see her 8 days, at least three times a day. Great, she knows he is really attracted, but she can't move, she can't breath, he is on her ass 24/8... She knows right away that he is needy, clingy, insecure and too dependent... He worries too much what others and especially her thinks about him, and what she says, because he doesn't have his own mind that he can trust...
He is too ideal, he idealizes the girl.. He wants to save everybody and everything, he wants the to protect everyone. He wants to live in perfection, he does only the right things, and he's never wrong. He wants to create equality, his own pockets are empty but he still want to take away from others, and spread the wealth...
On the other hand, true Bad Boys are just criminals. Normal girl would have to be insane to go after a criminal, but there is just something attractive about criminal, perhaps the disrespect to rules and laws which is basically saying: Fuck it, I'll do it my way, I live the way I WANT, and I won't let anyone tell me what to do... That requires balls, that's risking, that's spine, that's dominance, that's adrenaline, that's testosterone... For the same reason, he doesn't give a damn what others think about him because he trusts himself, he's got his own mind... He doesn't see the world as ideal, he is more selfish, more practical... All attractive - and the good thing is that you don't have to be a criminal to have these...
Sometimes the girls even say that you are a nice guy because she just wants to give you a compliment, and she doesn't mean the Nice Guy complex that is being considered here...
Girls do want nice guys and they want good guys. But, you also have to have some features added to it that removes you from the classical Nice Guy that can't get laid.
Nice Guys are usually not confident enough, they are more passive, they are not exciting (they are rather boring). They don't go after what they want. They are perceived as weak because they don't have a spine. They are not assertive, they are not leading and not dominant enough. They have low self esteem and self respect. There is no adventures with them. They are too compliant with whatever she says,too apologetic. They are too friendly and slow with the girl, thus the are not appearing sexy enough. They are too shy, too emotional, too passive aggressive, too overreacting, too nice and too dramatic... Why would she want to deal with that she's got her own baggage...
Nice Guys are also too insecure, e.g. They want to "tie down" the girl into marriage as soon as they can, they can't stand when she talks or flirts with other guys. Which is a good thing if she is looking to get married because she knows he will be faithful and she can trust him. At the same time it is a bad thing if she is looking only for "fun", she simply knows she can't risk anything with this guy because he is too judgement, too honest and too critical. He cares too much, he's got everything in his life perfectly ligned up, there is no place for mistakes, no place for spontaneity... So he can actually be very sexy and very attractive, but he gets rejected nevertheless just because that's not what's she's looking for "right now"...
They want to date or see the girl every single day. If a week had 8 days, they would make sure they see her 8 days, at least three times a day. Great, she knows he is really attracted, but she can't move, she can't breath, he is on her ass 24/8... She knows right away that he is needy, clingy, insecure and too dependent... He worries too much what others and especially her thinks about him, and what she says, because he doesn't have his own mind that he can trust...
He is too ideal, he idealizes the girl.. He wants to save everybody and everything, he wants the to protect everyone. He wants to live in perfection, he does only the right things, and he's never wrong. He wants to create equality, his own pockets are empty but he still want to take away from others, and spread the wealth...
On the other hand, true Bad Boys are just criminals. Normal girl would have to be insane to go after a criminal, but there is just something attractive about criminal, perhaps the disrespect to rules and laws which is basically saying: Fuck it, I'll do it my way, I live the way I WANT, and I won't let anyone tell me what to do... That requires balls, that's risking, that's spine, that's dominance, that's adrenaline, that's testosterone... For the same reason, he doesn't give a damn what others think about him because he trusts himself, he's got his own mind... He doesn't see the world as ideal, he is more selfish, more practical... All attractive - and the good thing is that you don't have to be a criminal to have these...
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Hi Drck
thanks a lot for the feed back!
i am more of a good man but have some bad guy quality, i treat woman with cold approach these days
but just a couple of days ago a girl called me a good man/good guy is that mean i am a nice guy? i think to myself there is no way me a nice guy never
one of those white knight lunatics!
make me understand more wise drck
thanks
thanks a lot for the feed back!
i am more of a good man but have some bad guy quality, i treat woman with cold approach these days
but just a couple of days ago a girl called me a good man/good guy is that mean i am a nice guy? i think to myself there is no way me a nice guy never
one of those white knight lunatics!
make me understand more wise drck
thanks
I don't know what she meant by telling you that you are a nice guy. Most likely it was just a compliment, she didn't mean any harm by that. But that is not important.
What is more important is your attitude:
Worry less about what she thinks and says about you, and worry more about what you think about yourself. For example, if you think and believe that you are a great, sexy, confident and attractive guy, and that the girls want you, her telling you that you are a nice guy has no effect on you at all. You just answer her with sexy smile and perhaps say in playful way: I know you want me babe but hold your horses, not so fast! That is an attitude that what you want to achieve, that is a confidence that you want to have.
So by working on your belief system and correcting your overall attitude, you will become behaving that way - and she will perceive you that way. With this belief you can actually be anything - you can be Nice Guy, White Knight or whatever - and you will still be attractive.
Trust yourslef, trust that you are a great, sexy, confident and attractive guy that all girls want - and one day it will become reality...
What is more important is your attitude:
Worry less about what she thinks and says about you, and worry more about what you think about yourself. For example, if you think and believe that you are a great, sexy, confident and attractive guy, and that the girls want you, her telling you that you are a nice guy has no effect on you at all. You just answer her with sexy smile and perhaps say in playful way: I know you want me babe but hold your horses, not so fast! That is an attitude that what you want to achieve, that is a confidence that you want to have.
So by working on your belief system and correcting your overall attitude, you will become behaving that way - and she will perceive you that way. With this belief you can actually be anything - you can be Nice Guy, White Knight or whatever - and you will still be attractive.
Trust yourslef, trust that you are a great, sexy, confident and attractive guy that all girls want - and one day it will become reality...
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Hi Drck
thanks again for the feedback i really appreciate what you said here i will keep in mind that i must be this man that woman want most,
so i have to appreciate myself alot more and think that i am the sexy man they want and you are right by doing this, things will
come into place sooner then expected ;-)
Thanks alot
Cheers
thanks again for the feedback i really appreciate what you said here i will keep in mind that i must be this man that woman want most,
so i have to appreciate myself alot more and think that i am the sexy man they want and you are right by doing this, things will
come into place sooner then expected ;-)
Thanks alot
Cheers