Different race/culture: Amplify it or suppress it?

[Humay]

I was raised like any other English guy. I have english mannerisms, behaviour and spoke in my local tongue/slang/accent (if anyone listened to just my voice, they would think i'm 100% english). And i understand english humour (which is basically a test that distinguishes an englishman from a foreigner).

But, as someone who has dark hair, darkish skin and taller than most, i'm very different from the common white english image. My ancestors were Persian, and i can speak/understand a bit of persian too. But the thing is, apart from those in the middle-east/california, no-one has no real idea on what a persian is (apart from a few rough assumptions based on '300'.)

So, the reason i'm asking, is should i amplify my Persian traits to make myself more mysterious/intriguing to women? Or will it damage my chances (might intimidate them)? I think this might be similar to what Chase was talking about in his peacocking article, but surely there's a point where most people just dismiss what's too unknown to them?

I'll be visiting east asia this summer, and i'm not sure whether or not to do this. East Asians have literally no knowledge of the middle-east. 99% think that if you travel west of China, you'll suddenly walk into Germany.

From speaking to many of them, there are only four kinds of people (in rank):
Natives
Westerners
Other East Asians
Indians

(As Persians are closest appearance-wise to Indians, i'll be slotted/labelled there. Which won't be good news unfortunately if i try to accentuate Persian qualities).

 

[DanBloom]

Hey Humay,
I guess the question would be based on what your end-goal is. Sure most east-Asians have no knowledge of the middle east
and being as 'white/Westerner' as possible is seen as more attractive than middle-eastern. You'll have to tweak yourself differently.

I have a darker look to me as my mother is Algerian and my father is white American.

What has worked for me is to show a Western front at first but when they go back to my place I'll show my middle Eastern culture with

• hookah

• Arabian lounge music

• Arabic carpets

etc...

So I'd recommend showing your British front first and then revealing your 'Persian' side as the date(s) continue. Where in East Asia
will you be going to?

Dan

 

[Chase]

Humay-

I'd say, tailor this depending on your demographics.

"English" is generally considered high class and exotic most parts of the world outside England - much more so than almost any other nationality (including Persian). In England, it's the norm. So, I'd lean more Persian in England, and more English on your travels (Asia, the Americas, other parts of Europe, etc.). The only women who will be "used" to English men you meet while traveling will be the women who are absolutely foreigner crazy, and those aren't girls you'll want as girlfriends - as rolls in the hay, well, it probably doesn't really matter what you sound like, so long as it's different the the locals and relatively classy in reputation.

Skin-color wise, there's a preference for darker skin among Caucasian women; meanwhile, Asian, African, and Latin women typically prefer lighter skin. However, you can find exceptions among all of these groups; e.g., East Asian women who love dark-skinned men, and Caucasian women who won't date them. A lot of it really comes down to "it depends on the girl."

Chase

 

[DanBloom]

Yeah I agree with Chase.
Also you might even be happier with a woman who's more open to your 'Persian'
side.
Or you might enjoy a woman who's more into your 'English' side.

You might even find women who are attracted to
the mix of it.

Dan

 

[Humay]

Hey, thanks for the guidance Chase and DanBloom. It's great to hear from people who actually know what they're talking about

P.s. i wish i had hookah in my house!