direct. opener break down

[fearlessuk]

Approach 1

F: I went direct.

NOTE: feeling a bit scared and it showed in my face. I was not comfortable with my approach that day. My back was hunching a bit. I was just not confident. I think it was the argument I had with my family. I think also back in the caveman days if you family isolates you, It brings in survival mode in you. Back in the days, if you family is not supportive, you will be eaten by dinosaurs. Its a matter of life and death. I was also not in top form.

NOTE: I think I need to approach more and push past the feeling until I don't feel that way

NOTE: you voice is too high pitched because you were too nervous. You should have a breaking rapport tonality.

F: excuse me, sorry um, I just saw you from over there..and I think you look very cute.

F: I repeat in Mandarin, I think you look cute.

HB excuse me and walks away.

NOTE: try this next time

F: direct with pauses in the right places. (be present and don't think when sarging)
F: I can tell, your from Korea ain't you (say it like a statement)
F: then speak your cute in there language.

NOTE: your non verbals tells the girl you are not worthy enough

NOTE: your not delivering the opener properly. You also need to pause a bit more in the right places.

NOTE: eye contact needs to be better.

NOTE: invade personal space.

 

[fearlessuk]

Approach 2

F: I saw you from over there....and ............I think you look very cute

HB: Thank you

F: sorry to

HB: it's okay

F: wait, you don't sound English at all, you sound a bit American or something

HB: yeah

F: are you from America or

HB: yeah

F: okay, so what you doing down here then

HB: I work here

F: so you don't like Amercia no more

HB: no hehe

F: it's because of Trump ain't it hehe, I'm just kidding

NOTE: you did well, up until you said you were just kidding. When you're joking and smiling, she knows your kidding. You don't need to say it. Less is more.

F: my name is F by the way

HB: Hanna

F: Hanna is not a Chinese name

HB: that's korean

F: Korean

NOTE: you're doing well with short sentences. it allows her to talk more an invest more into the interaction

F: do they have a Hanna in Korean. A Hanna in Korea

HB: yes

F: seriously

HB: yeah

F: wow, i didn't know that, I thought that, I thought your name will be Yumie or

HB:

F; no, nothing like that

HB: no

F: what are you doing today, you look like your shopping
NOTE: Great your making an observation which is specific to her situation. It sounds like a very in the moment kind of thing to say

HB: yeah running errands

NOTE: looking back I realise she wasn't interested, now that I'm typing this FR
F: yeah it looks like your on Holiday or something.

NOTE: I should have said "the way you look, looks like your on hoilday

HB: no

F: so what is it you do, you look very professional or something.
Good observation

HB er, yes I work
NOTE: losing a bit of interest

F: er

HB: yes I work.
NOTE: not investing herself

F: you look like you work in an office or something

HB: yes, you?

F: me, what do you think I do
NOTE: next time, just say "take a guess"

HB: I don't know, you talk to strangers

F: yes, it's not my fault, its your fault because your very pretty.

HB: thanks

F: I thought, why not, the worst you can say is "go away, bugger off"

HB: yep

F: Hanna, are you free right now, because I feel like a cup of coffee and

HB: no, I'm meeting a

F: Oh no

HB: I'm meeting a friend

F: your meeting a BF
NOTE: This is good, to not waste too much time. This is good especially when your game starts to get advanced. If she is interested, she will say no anyway even she does. If she doesn't have a boyfriend and she isn't interested anyway, why waste your time. Better talking to other girls or break down more FRs

HB: with a friend

F: A friend ok, ok, how about this, why don't we meet up some other time for coffee

HB: yeah it's okay
Letting me down gentally

F: No it's not okay, ahh, I didn't do a good job, alright

HB: thanks a lot, you made my day

F: Okay bye bye
NOTE: this is kind of perfect, you qualified her and established that she wasn't interested. You were also in the present moment which is good

 

[fearlessuk]

Approach 3

F: sorry, excuse me errr........I know this is quite random..........but......... i saw you from over there............and.............I think you look very cute (pointing
NOTE: perfect delivery, the only problem is you need to deepen your voice.

giggles.

HB: thanks

F: where you from.......you sound British?

HB: yeah, I am

F: Oh, my name is F by the way
next time say "and you are"

HB: nice to meet you, I'm on my way to meet my BF

F: oh you have a BF, dam

HB: yeah

F; sorry about that anyway

HB: that's okay, that's nice to meet and say hi

F: so ahhh, yeah em, thanks a lot okay
NOTE: lol wasn't sure whether to plow or not for practice.

HB: okay see you around

F: okay bye

 

[fearlessuk]

Approach 4

F: excuse me..........i know this is random..........but I ...............just saw you from over there ............and I think you look very cute

HB: oh thank you

F: where you from, you look like your travelling?

HB: no I'm in Colchester

F: Colchester, oh you look like you study fashion or something?

HB: no ha

F; what do you do?

HB: I'm studying marketing

F: marketing...oh so like um.....like how to grow a business , like that, right?

HB: yeah

F: my name is F

HB: oh hi

F: so how long you staying down here for?

HB: I been here for almost 8 months

F: do you like it

HB: yeah

F: you sound a bit shy like

HB: yeah I am

HB: I'm moving next month so

F: your moving where

HB: to Japan

F: to Japan, oh your Japanese?

F: door more, car knee chi wah. sushi, wasbi, um teriyaki chicken.
NOTE: too much self amusement "door more, car knee chi wah will be fine

NOTE: I do like how your in the moment and free associating stuff

F: I only know food, so haha

HB: where you from

F: I was born here but my parents are from HK

HB: she speaks a sentence in Chinese

F: why you know Chinese

HB: no, I don't understand

F: haha how can you speak Chinese then

HB: I use to study it for 2 years but I forgot

F: but i love your Japanese American English.

HB: really

F: yes I would say it's American.

F: Do you know what, I feel like a cup of coffee right now......and............i want you to join me
NOTE: good line to instant date

F: there's a Starbucks down there or something, just for 5 minutes, I have to meet my friend later on
NOTE: good time constrain

F: so come, come and join me

NOTE: Next time, just start walking and point toward a direction

She seems reluctant but I wanted to instant date to practice.

HB: 5 minutes

F: 5 or 20 minutes, what ever, there no pressure

HB: I was think of going to the tearoom.
I think she was just trying to get away from me but I persist.

F: where the tea room, okay I walk you down there.

 

[fearlessuk]

Continued

F: whats a tea shop, oh you mean a special Chinese or a special Japanese tea or something.

HB: Nah, I just want to get a British tea

F: ah...okay, earl grey, so you are a tea fan?

F: do you like scone and cream

HB; yep

F: sandwich

HB: yeah

F: is it this one

HB: yeah

F: oh, ok, lets take a look inside

Inside tea shop

F: this is something you can do, when you buy something for your parents, yeah but I don't think there is a place to sit down here.

HB walks alway from me. Just trying to think outside the box and get some reference experience. It didn't work and she walked further away from me. I then decided to leave the shop.

 

[fearlessuk]

Direct

F: you look like a tourist, I don't know, you don't look like your travelling.

HB: er

F: so your not from around here right?

HB: no

F: your from Taiwan

HB: China

F: knee how, knee jeye jer ley joe somemore.

HB: I go shopping

F: to go shopping? so you travelled all the way from China to come here for shopping.

HB: yeah

F: really

HB: yep

F: you look like you study fitness or something.
NOTE: better to say " you look like you work in fitness or something.

F: what you study

HB: business

F: business like Donald trump

F: you want to be the next Donald trump right?

hb giggles

F: I can see you running for president and you know........being the first China President......have we ever had a Chinese president

HB: where are you from?

F: where do you think I'm from India or Africa?

HB: er Japan

F: not India, not Africa?

HB: no no no

F: a lot people say I'm from Korea or something but I was born here. My parents are from HK

HB: ok

F: have you been to HK

HB: yeah

F: can you speak Cantonese?

HB: no

F: why you have such a good accent, I don't if its American or Canadian.

HB: no in China

F: really, how did you learn to speak like that? Did you learn to speak like that when you were 5

HB: no 4 years ago

F: you need to teach me, how to learn languages quickly

HB

F: what are you up to today, you look like your shopping?

HB: I'm coming to meet my friend

F: sure sure um, do you know what, I like to have a cup of coffee right now. and I want you to join me for 5 minutes

NOTE: this is good but you shouldn't expect and answer from her, assume its happening and start walking.

HB: No I have to meet my friends

F: do you come with your friends or you came to visit them
NOTE: i think I panicked and forgot she studies business.

mins 2.49

 

[fearlessuk]

continued

F: did you come here with your friend or did you came to visit them? oh your studying in Uk is it?

HB: yeah

F: I see, I see, I don't know why, I got this impression your studying abroad

HB: no

F: I tell you what....I know your busy..but i still like to have a cup of coffee with you

F: I like to get your number and we go for a coffee sometime

HB: okay

F: sounds good, what is your number then?

HB: what about my instagram

F: I don't have instagram

HB: what about facebook

F : I dont have facebook either

HB: haha

F: I tell you what, I give you one text message, if you don't want to come out, you know, I let you decide. If you want to come out for a cup of coffee we go, if you don't, I will understand

NOTE: next time say " I tell you what, I give you one text message. If you reply back, then we have a cup of coffee. If you don't reply back, then I understand, your not interested.

HB ok

F: give me your number, thank you

We exchange details

F: alright, see you later Vicky

HB: bye

NOTE: okay just take note, you will have to push for kino. You are kinoing but you have to push for it more. If not you won't get laid. You can always calibrate back down later on. Even if you feel uncomfortable, just get comfortable with it. Also start invading the girls personal space. It's an amazing feeling, when she is into you and you're kinoing her. If the girl is into you, she loves it when you touch her. Secretly, women love men they are attracted to escalating the interaction all the way to sex.