Disagreements with Logistics Via Text

[TheWrangler]

This comes up every so often when you hit it off well with a girl and even more so with Tinder, brief interactions, etc.

You're texting, you agree to meet for a drink/coffee/etc. and you suggest a time and a place. She comes back with a counter suggestion. Does anyone have any success with a certain response? It's either staying strong with your suggestion (which is a crap shoot, works sometimes, other times they think you're being unreasonable/not listening to them) or giving in a little and making a counter offer.

And I'm referring to counter suggestions where the girls has a somewhat legitimate reason: doesn't want to drink and drive too far, wakes up at 5am, etc.

And example a girl doesn't want to meet you at 8:30pm because "that's late" "meet me earlier in the day." Wondering how you guys handle this?

 

[Franco]

Wrangler,

And I'm referring to counter suggestions where the girls has a somewhat legitimate reason: doesn't want to drink and drive too far, wakes up at 5am, etc.

Generally it's not a good sign if a girl is putting restrictions on your first date, and it usually means she either (a) isn't extremely intrigued by you or (b) has already boyfriend-zoned you pretty hard in her mind so she's setting herself up to be chased. Both signs are usually bad signs.

As far as online dating and Tinder go, you'll get this pretty often because most girls don't really have high expectations when they use those applications, and you can't make the same first impression on a girl as you could have with cold approach. So sometimes you just need to kinda roll with the punches.

And example a girl doesn't want to meet you at 8:30pm because "that's late" "meet me earlier in the day." Wondering how you guys handle this?

It really depends on your logistics and whether or not you think you can still get the lay within that time frame. If she wants to go out earlier and that is still an available time for you, then there's no reason to argue over it. If you can't make it because you have prior obligations, then you just send her a text back letting her know that you work late (or whatever the reason is) and that that is the earliest you can do. You can then ask her if there's another available day where she can meet with you at a later time.

Again, don't worry too much about having frame battles over texting with women. That's a terrible time to be doing it. Just go with what works reasonably with your logistics, and if you know it's not conducive to getting a lay, then just politely let her know you can't make it, and ask if she'd like to reschedule for a better day.

- Franco

 

[TheWrangler]

This is perfect. Thanks Franco.