I have been putting this girl on pedestal for too long, like paying for dates, sending letters of my own professed love, giving her free money even! It's embarrassing to mention them.
She too, has enjoyed the company of a lot of men putting her on pedestal, which she only keeps them to serve her purpose. I had the satisfaction of removing this pedestal, by calling out her numerous misbehaviours during our last date. She was very surprised by my sudden change in attitude. Thinking, she could not manipulate me any longer.
Background:
After sensing I had ceased contact with her the day before the date (she knew I deleted her line account, after she deleted mine), she initiated contact, asking if I am free to meet up tonight. Thinking I could have sex with her, I quickly rushed her to the hotel (we had sex before, but I was extremely needy afterwards and no followed up sex - stupid!). She said she did not expect sex tonight and I got a hard "No". I told her if there is no sex, then what am I to her? Shopping buddy, I told her? But this is not the way to proceed, so we walked around a bit hoping I could mellow her later.
1) During the date, she spoke on the phone with her friend for too long. I took out my phone and wrote to her that she should stop talking and ignoring me as it is rude. After which, she told me younger girls are like this,. She told me I could take out my phone and play games to pass time? To which I said again, you are rude. You always make guys beneath you when it should be on equal footings. She went on to say, her ex-bfs never complain as much as I do and my age do not reflect my maturity. I replied to her thats because you are used to stepping on guys, and I am not as weak as them.
2) In the past dates, when I asked her for a little investment like buying coffee for me in return for a decent lunch, she refused. In our last date, I only spent a cup of Coke from McDonald's. The shops were already closed anyway as it is 10pm. It was a big difference to past dates when I paid extravagantly.
3) She wanted to go home as our feeling were quite unpleasant. Basically, I wanted sex and she just used me to past time. In my car,
- I asked her why she asked me out tonight? She said because she is bored. I told her she is just wasting my time if we are not having sex.
- I clarified what is our relationship status is. She said nothing. I told her I admit I want sex, if there is no sex involved between us, then you have no value to me. (She knows that I have a high income)
- She said because she is pretty, even with her behaviour, men will still chase her, put her on pedestal. She said I am lucky she added me into her line, and she thinks I am lucky that I get to spend time with a pretty girl like her. I replied, are you even human to say these things? I have now come to hate you.
- I told her I am glad we had this date, because I now know where I stand in your eyes and your true colours. I said it will make me so easy to forget about her now. She certainly wanted to keep me as her orbiter even when she is gone for good.
- As the final straw, I told her she should return the free money I gave her, because you provided no benefit to me. Of course she didn't.
I think I made it crystal clear that she has no power over me any more. Something that she is certainly not used to.
I dont know how things will pan out. I am afraid she will do some sort of revenge stuffs on me. (Tongue in cheek) Do you think she will one day submit to me for sex, if attraction has not soared by now? Or decline spectacularly.
She too, has enjoyed the company of a lot of men putting her on pedestal, which she only keeps them to serve her purpose. I had the satisfaction of removing this pedestal, by calling out her numerous misbehaviours during our last date. She was very surprised by my sudden change in attitude. Thinking, she could not manipulate me any longer.
Background:
After sensing I had ceased contact with her the day before the date (she knew I deleted her line account, after she deleted mine), she initiated contact, asking if I am free to meet up tonight. Thinking I could have sex with her, I quickly rushed her to the hotel (we had sex before, but I was extremely needy afterwards and no followed up sex - stupid!). She said she did not expect sex tonight and I got a hard "No". I told her if there is no sex, then what am I to her? Shopping buddy, I told her? But this is not the way to proceed, so we walked around a bit hoping I could mellow her later.
1) During the date, she spoke on the phone with her friend for too long. I took out my phone and wrote to her that she should stop talking and ignoring me as it is rude. After which, she told me younger girls are like this,. She told me I could take out my phone and play games to pass time? To which I said again, you are rude. You always make guys beneath you when it should be on equal footings. She went on to say, her ex-bfs never complain as much as I do and my age do not reflect my maturity. I replied to her thats because you are used to stepping on guys, and I am not as weak as them.
2) In the past dates, when I asked her for a little investment like buying coffee for me in return for a decent lunch, she refused. In our last date, I only spent a cup of Coke from McDonald's. The shops were already closed anyway as it is 10pm. It was a big difference to past dates when I paid extravagantly.
3) She wanted to go home as our feeling were quite unpleasant. Basically, I wanted sex and she just used me to past time. In my car,
- I asked her why she asked me out tonight? She said because she is bored. I told her she is just wasting my time if we are not having sex.
- I clarified what is our relationship status is. She said nothing. I told her I admit I want sex, if there is no sex involved between us, then you have no value to me. (She knows that I have a high income)
- She said because she is pretty, even with her behaviour, men will still chase her, put her on pedestal. She said I am lucky she added me into her line, and she thinks I am lucky that I get to spend time with a pretty girl like her. I replied, are you even human to say these things? I have now come to hate you.
- I told her I am glad we had this date, because I now know where I stand in your eyes and your true colours. I said it will make me so easy to forget about her now. She certainly wanted to keep me as her orbiter even when she is gone for good.
- As the final straw, I told her she should return the free money I gave her, because you provided no benefit to me. Of course she didn't.
I think I made it crystal clear that she has no power over me any more. Something that she is certainly not used to.
I dont know how things will pan out. I am afraid she will do some sort of revenge stuffs on me. (Tongue in cheek) Do you think she will one day submit to me for sex, if attraction has not soared by now? Or decline spectacularly.
