Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschool?

[randomguy125612]

There's this one senior girl whos 18, I'm in college

I've heard rumors (and from my brother) that highschool girls take FOREVER to put out, I'm talking weeks and weeks, sometimes months (plural)

Do all the rules still apply to them or is it another game altogether?


(Sorry for repost, not sure which section this should be in)

 

[Bboy100]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

You don't have to move fast to get girls. I don't know where and why Chase came up with this idea, but it does not reflect real life. In fact, it flies directly in the face of contemporary research (see: http://thematinggrounds.com/how-to-be-a ... tic-proof/). Trust me, I spent a full year following that advice and I lost more girls than I can count because I came off as thirsty, overeager or needy. The point is to move as fast as she will allow you. That could be weeks or months, or it could be less than 10 minutes. Or anything in between. It's a matter of reading her cues. Not assuming that "because x amount of time or dates has passed, you have to sleep with her".

Having said that...

I've heard rumors (and from my brother) that highschool girls take FOREVER to put out, I'm talking weeks and weeks, sometimes months (plural)

I've seen two types of high school girls:
1. Virgin girls who take months to have sex with. Usually they equate sex with love, are very afraid and anxious about it etc. So they won't have sex with a guy until they've already been dating for a while.
2. Absolute sloots. And I don't mean this in a derogatory way. ...I just mean that they'll fuck almost everyone. I know a few girls who left high school having had sex with 25+ guys.

Strangely, I don't see too much in between the two extremes. I don't know why.
...Anyways, if you're looking to just have sex, go for that second category of girls. If you're looking for a girlfriend, go for the first.

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

You don't have to move fast to get girls. I don't know where and why Chase came up with this idea, but it does not reflect real life. In fact, it flies directly in the face of contemporary research (see: http://thematinggrounds.com/how-to-be-a ... tic-proof/). Trust me, I spent a full year following that advice and I lost more girls than I can count because I came off as thirsty, overeager or needy. The point is to move as fast as she will allow you. That could be weeks or months, or it could be less than 10 minutes. Or anything in between. It's a matter of reading her cues. Not assuming that "because x amount of time or dates has passed, you have to sleep with her".

Having said that...

I've heard rumors (and from my brother) that highschool girls take FOREVER to put out, I'm talking weeks and weeks, sometimes months (plural)

I've seen two types of high school girls:
1. Virgin girls who take months to have sex with. Usually they equate sex with love, are very afraid and anxious about it etc. So they won't have sex with a guy until they've already been dating for a while.
2. Absolute sloots. And I don't mean this in a derogatory way. ...I just mean that they'll fuck almost everyone. I know a few girls who left high school having had sex with 25+ guys.

Strangely, I don't see too much in between the two extremes. I don't know why.
...Anyways, if you're looking to just have sex, go for that second category of girls. If you're looking for a girlfriend, go for the first.

she said literally "I'm working all day today if you wanna stop by " and I just went "Hey! Let's figure out a time to grab a bite, how's monday or tuesday looking for you?"

She texted me at 12:30, I saw hers at 2:42 and texted her then, haven't gotten a response yet

Starting to panic

 

[Bboy100]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

If she's working all day, she's probably too busy to reply right away. Give her some time

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

If she's working all day, she's probably too busy to reply right away. Give her some time

Did I make the right call by deflecting her invite and just asking about getting together later? I met her last night at the same place she works

I mean I figured I need to chase frame things and showing up to her job after she invited me would make me look like I was chasing her, plus what could we even do or talk about right now anyways? She's at work

 

[Bboy100]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Yeah, you did the right thing. If she's not willing to find time to meet you for something as casual as coffee or lunch, she's probably not interested. So any other efforts you might make (including visiting her at work) would be a waste of your time.

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

If she's working all day, she's probably too busy to reply right away. Give her some time

Here's the transcript of us texting so far

Glad I ran into you tonight -randomguy 1005 pm
Same to you 1035pm
So you said you were a sophmore in college so like..how old are you?
Shit I scared you off didnt i 1055
What nah lol was away from phone 19 1055
Oh okay lol sorry 1056
Its all good 1057
Okay cool 1057




I'm working all day if you wanna stop by 1230 pm
X, hey! Let's figure out a time to grab a bite. How's Monday or Tuesday looking for you? 242 pm

 

[Bboy100]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Despite the fact that that some of your texts were pretty cringeworthy, (e.g. don't ask "Shit, I scared you off didn't I"), it sounds like she's still into you since she invited you to her work on her own. But then...

X, hey! Let's figure out a time to grab a bite. How's Monday or Tuesday looking for you? 242 pm

This looks scripted. Almost like a robot wrote that message or something lol. There's no need to include her name or a greeting if you were texting only two hours ago. You probably got that from the main site. And that's okay if like, a day or longer has passed by since you last texted. But if its only been a few hours, it looks weird. Not saying this to be a dick, just trynna help you: you have to think for yourself. If a generic piece of advice you read does not apply to your specific situation, don't use it. Either way, there's nothing you can do now. But there's still a good chance she'll text you back

Just chill, go play xbox or something. Get your mind off her. If she doesn't reply by tomorrow, we'll think of something else.

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Despite the fact that that some of your texts were pretty cringeworthy, (e.g. don't ask "Shit, I scared you off didn't I"), it sounds like she's still into you since she invited you to her work on her own. But then...

X, hey! Let's figure out a time to grab a bite. How's Monday or Tuesday looking for you? 242 pm

This looks scripted. Almost like a robot wrote that message or something lol. There's no need to include her name or a greeting if you were texting only two hours ago. You probably got that from the main site. And that's okay if like, a day or longer has passed by since you last texted. But if its only been a few hours, it looks weird. Not saying this to be a dick, just trynna help you: you have to think for yourself. If a generic piece of advice you read does not apply to your specific situation, don't use it. Either way, there's nothing you can do now. But there's still a good chance she'll text you back

Just chill, go play xbox or something. Get your mind off her. If she doesn't reply by tomorrow, we'll think of something else.

Bro no SHE said she scared me off

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Glad I ran into you tonight -randomguy 1005 pm (Me)
Same to you 1035pm (Girl)
So you said you were a sophmore in college so like..how old are you? (Girl)
Shit I scared you off didnt i 1055 (Girl)
What nah lol was away from phone 19 1055 (Me)
Oh okay lol sorry 1056 (Girl)
Its all good 1057 (Me)
Okay cool 1057 (Girl)

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Despite the fact that that some of your texts were pretty cringeworthy, (e.g. don't ask "Shit, I scared you off didn't I"), it sounds like she's still into you since she invited you to her work on her own. But then...

X, hey! Let's figure out a time to grab a bite. How's Monday or Tuesday looking for you? 242 pm

This looks scripted. Almost like a robot wrote that message or something lol. There's no need to include her name or a greeting if you were texting only two hours ago. You probably got that from the main site. And that's okay if like, a day or longer has passed by since you last texted. But if its only been a few hours, it looks weird. Not saying this to be a dick, just trynna help you: you have to think for yourself. If a generic piece of advice you read does not apply to your specific situation, don't use it. Either way, there's nothing you can do now. But there's still a good chance she'll text you back

Just chill, go play xbox or something. Get your mind off her. If she doesn't reply by tomorrow, we'll think of something else.

Out of nowhere today she texted me inviting me to come see her at work, and I didn't wake up until like 2 hours later and then I responded saying what I said

Should I go see her right now? Just show up? I feel like the answer is no but I'm not sure

 

[Bboy100]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

No, don't do that! Wait for her to text you back

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

No, don't do that! Wait for her to text you back

ok

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Damnit I know its generic but none of you wrote anything about what do you do if she break the script and texts you out of nowhere I didn't know what to do and I knew if I waited too long to text her I'd look like a dick

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

not my fault
i didnt know what to do and yeah now i can jus think to myself "I'd love to but I'm really busy today, let's grab a bite to eat later though, how's monday or tuesday look?"

this sucks im not 21 so i cant get into bars or clubs to practice more, and its winter break so everyone went home, i want to keep practicing but there are no girls around to do it and there should have been something attached to the "how to text girlss" guide about what to do if they break protocol and text you out of nowhere

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Alright so she literally just texted me


"What time would you wanna go? Also sorry for not replying been working"


I know I need to wait AT LEAST 30 minutes before responding
I wanna take her to a local ice cream place and hopefully get her to agree to joy ride around in this mustang
"But you need to move to her place or yours fancy toys dont get girls"
Problem is we both live with our parents so that's a no go
Plus I figure the combination of me being older, in college, having the whole "girls are cute and silly" mentality (I finally understand it) law of least effort, etc, that it will all combine nicely for a cool intriguing package, and riding around in a mustang just talking about whatever and shooting the shit will probably ramp it up a notch



We are both on winter break now so no school, but I don't know what her work schedule is so I'm afraid to pick a time and have her go "I can't"


What do I do guys?

 

[Raqimus]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

STOP FREAKING OUT.

You don't have to wait any amount of time, just reply when you get to it. sometimes i text fast sometimes it takes me a while. No rules just do as you please but just dont respond too fast all the time.

Yes do it, go get ice cream. Have fun with her and if you have a car, if your having fun just ask her if she wants to go take a spin and listen to music in the car. If shes down just go someplace relatively isolated and make a move.
How's that?

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

STOP FREAKING OUT.

You don't have to wait any amount of time, just reply when you get to it. sometimes i text fast sometimes it takes me a while. No rules just do as you please but just dont respond too fast all the time.

Yes do it, go get ice cream. Have fun with her and if you have a car, if your having fun just ask her if she wants to go take a spin and listen to music in the car. If shes down just go someplace relatively isolated and make a move.
How's that?

Update

644pm (girl) What time would you wanna go? Also sorry for not replying been working
757pm (me) Its all good. Why don't we do Monday at 1pm? I'm thinking we meet at (ice cream place)
857pm (girl) I'm lactose intolerant
929pm (me) Hmmm, can you eat frozen yogurt? I'm thinking (frozen yogurt place), if not that we can grab some (pizza place)

No response
Where she works should have closed almost an hour ago

 

[Smurf]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Bboy makes good points

Good shit on the texts, she seems semi interested at least. Just get her to hang out and take it from there. It looks like you have most of the power at the moment, so going for the date shouldn't be too hard. Just don't over think things and take it one step at a time.
Raqimus is right here, too. Reply when you feel like it. The reason people say to wait is to not seem needy or making the girl the center of attention. Of course if you're busy crafting other aspects of your life like a social circle and your future, you'll likely have moments where you text back right away and where you text back hours later.

Moral of the story texting isn't gonna be your secret weapon into her pants.

Jake.

 

[randomguy125612]

Re: Do all the rules of speed and escalation (date 1 sex etc) apply to highschoo

Bboy makes good points

Good shit on the texts, she seems semi interested at least. Just get her to hang out and take it from there. It looks like you have most of the power at the moment, so going for the date shouldn't be too hard. Just don't over think things and take it one step at a time.
Raqimus is right here, too. Reply when you feel like it. The reason people say to wait is to not seem needy or making the girl the center of attention. Of course if you're busy crafting other aspects of your life like a social circle and your future, you'll likely have moments where you text back right away and where you text back hours later.

Moral of the story texting isn't gonna be your secret weapon into her pants.

Jake.

Can you look at my update post? Starting to worry again