First, I would like to think everyone who contributes to this site. I began casually reading the forum several years ago and the advice offered has assisted me in developing all facets of my dating and personal life. I have now reached a junction that I am unable to surpass based upon the current knowledge and experience. When I was just starting to improve my dating skills, I met a girl who I had instant chemistry with. We casually dated for a few months but did not enter into a long term relationship because I wanted to improve upon my dating skills. Fast forwarding several years, I have had had countless interactions and experiences with women but have always had this girl in the back of my mind. Recently, we ran into each other at an event and she was adamant that we get lunch. Upon meeting, our chemistry was off the charts and I could have very easily taken this girl home. I held back because she is currently in a long term relationship. How do I move foreword ? She has admitted that she still has feelings for me and I would love to hang out again, but I do not want to lose control of the relationship dynamic and be viewed as a friend if she is still in a relationship.
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Be a grown-up, have an affair.
Just invite her out to catch-up, or attend a mutual get together.
That's how I've pulled and that's also how a girlfriend has been yanked from me.
Nothing is fair.
Most of the time it blows up for the guy stepping in.
The guy the took my ex off my hands is now stuck with her and their two kids. I'm sure they're all happy, I know I am glad that it happened.
WIA
Just invite her out to catch-up, or attend a mutual get together.
That's how I've pulled and that's also how a girlfriend has been yanked from me.
Nothing is fair.
Most of the time it blows up for the guy stepping in.
The guy the took my ex off my hands is now stuck with her and their two kids. I'm sure they're all happy, I know I am glad that it happened.
WIA
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@Dusk dude! Your attitude should be if she's going to cheat, I'd rather it be with me.
I'm not the best "moral" compass, I'm not bothered if she has a boyfriend, engaged or married....
Put yourself first, she wants to meet. Her relationship is her problem not yours. Seduce as normal dude. Tell her a useless piece of information about yourself if it makes you feel better about it....
I'm not the best "moral" compass, I'm not bothered if she has a boyfriend, engaged or married....
Put yourself first, she wants to meet. Her relationship is her problem not yours. Seduce as normal dude. Tell her a useless piece of information about yourself if it makes you feel better about it....
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No Sir, you don't pursue girls in relationships. You can make a FWB out of this situation.
She still got feelings for you, Man. You should try to isolate her, tell her you have a GF and she has a BF so a relationship cannot work- as everyone's feelings would be hurt. But you both can have sex with no strings attached and nobody else needs to know.
This way she doesn't expect anything more than intimacy and a few cuddles plus everyone is aware and sincere about their relationships on the side. And you don't have to face relationship drama.
She still got feelings for you, Man. You should try to isolate her, tell her you have a GF and she has a BF so a relationship cannot work- as everyone's feelings would be hurt. But you both can have sex with no strings attached and nobody else needs to know.
This way she doesn't expect anything more than intimacy and a few cuddles plus everyone is aware and sincere about their relationships on the side. And you don't have to face relationship drama.