Do opposites attract most of the times when it comes to looks?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Over the past few years, I have noticed something when it comes to game among two of my friends who are naturals.

One of my close friends is a darker skinned guy, closely resembles the Jason Momoa type of look (exotic and good looking) and I notice that he cleans up with hot girls that are white but more on the pale end. Guy is a huge hit with redheads, natural blondes, and pale brunettes.

My other friend is a stereotypical all American blond haired pretty boy, he cleans up with Asian and Hispanic girls but I notice that with white girls, those who are more darker or ethnic. Italian chicks seem to have a massive hard on for him, he doesn't even have to approach. Same with Greek girls and Eastern European girls with that kind of look.

Then I notice it even when browsing through random Instagram accounts of hot girls. Almost every hot blonde is with a dark haired guy while every hot brunette is with a blond guy or a guy much whiter than her.

Why it matters?

Sexual strategy 101 I guess.

If you're more of a redheaded or blond white guy, target darker white girls and minorities.

If you are a minority or a darker skinned white guy, target blondes, redheads, and pale girls.

Thoughts?

 

[foggy]

All you need to do is target the girls who are attracted to you and your game. If those girls happen to have a hair color on the opposite side of the colour wheel from yours, then so be it.

You should also read this. This will give you some insight into this pressing matter:

https://www.girlschase.com/comment/82241

 

[Bboy100]

We tend to pair up with people who are of equal physical attractiveness to ourselves. Hair color or specific traits do not correlate with one another. Just generally speaking, your partner is statistically likely to be about as good looking as you are

 

[Sprezzatura]

So here is my profile: I am medium height with athletic build with dark hair and brown eyes. Over the years I have noticed an interesting phenomenon - girls who are very similar to me looks wise (also black hair and brown eyes) are the least interested in me. On the other end, brunettes, blonde (even bombshells), Asians and redheads usually give me the greatest amount of attention, approach invitations or even blatant bedroom eyes/deer-in-headlights look. It has always been so, even when my fundamentals were shit. The only type of women that showed interest when my fundamentals improved were bombshells, otherwise the initial attraction that I get hasn't changed much over the years. So my conclusion is that the concept of fascination (raw attraction) that the woman feels for you is bound to your genetic compatibility. When there is too much similarity the woman can feel even disgust or repulsion for you. So when I meet a raven woman I usually have to put much more effort into her to get her - I have to create excitement and over the years I found that I do not derive much satisfaction from girls that require this much work - they are not a good long term match for me.

Be advised however, that looks can be deceiving - I have met a few women over the course of the years that were very much like my twin of the opposite sex, yet found me irresistible - apparently our genes were compatible. I realised that the best hook ups I have are the ones, where the woman is equally or more fascinated by me, because the process is then more natural and the seduction is inclusive - she seduces me, I seduce her. The gut feeling should be your guide - the feeling of raw attraction that you experience when you first meet her gaze. This feeling, butterflies in the stomach is nothing more than two people recognizing that they are compatible, they just haven't acknowledged it yet. I strongly suggest you go for the women that meet that criteria - the hooks ups and relationships with them are way better.

Funny thing is - my previous girlfriend was like my twin - she had similar facial features, same hair and eye color like me, vivid personality and she said she was enamoured with me the moment our eyes met. We had a 2-year relationship that was fun and fulfilling, however life circumstances have interevened...If we broke it down into science and get large enough sample group we could probably put together some rough criteria for what looks attracts what looks, but otherwise we are just overcomplicating things. At the end of the day hair color doesn't mean much - it is the genetic and personal compatibility. Follow your instinct - the gut feeling is always right!

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

What's the difference between a brunette and raven girl btw then?

I relate with you in the sense that my ego is massive as well, if a girl is being a bitch then she is a bitch. Now that being said, I also understand where you are coming from if by raven women you mean Italian and darker complexioned white girls. I live in an area with a massively growing Italian American population due to people from NY and the northeast moving here, it is rare for me to go to a club and find a hot Italian looking chick with a dark haired and tanned skin guy. Most of the times I find them with ginger and blond men who are not even Chris Hemsworth-tier looks.

Think it is also due to what my Sicilian friend told me, southern Europeans desperately want to avoid any affiliations with minorities due to the image of them not being white among some. I've met Italian guys who love women of all races but the women tend to be more neo-nazi like in their preferences.

Yet at the same time, latinas love darker skinned dudes from what I see.

 

[Sprezzatura]

Raven is basically black haired.
I agree with you on cultural/racial bias - some girls have huge issues in that regard. I also find it funny when girls of certain looks have BF that have certain features (blond, blue eyes) but otherwise look like a trainwreck, with zero game or charisma. When out on the street I often chuckle when I see hot girls with average guys that are her polar opposite. But this is not to be underestimated - some of this is genetic attraction at play.

The reverse is also true - there are times when I see a girl who is my opposite (hot blonde, blue eyes and dressed to the nines) and I notice a huge fascination on her part even before I preopen her. The interactions with them more often than not, go silky smooth and sometimes I ask myself what I am even doing right to get that kind of positive attention from them. Sure, some of it is game and fundamentals, but there are clearly some genetic traits that attract them. I never specialised in blonde bombshells but these are the girls that fall for me the hardest - and to be clear I don't like them very much personality wise - too much status obsession for my taste. My personal favorite type of women are black haired with blue eyes, probably because they are pretty rare in my country.

Looks aside, there is one aspect that is a deciding factor if a girl has any chance with me longterm and that is personality. I like driven women with vivacious personality with a special spark to them, since so many women today are like cold fish. No interest in anything, personality of a dried trout with low to nonexistent attention span.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I don't know if it is anything about genetic diversity of if it just has to do with these women having deep rooted issues, Asian American women are known for this sort of stuff to the point they are famous for it.

I know for a fact that Italian Americans in general are insecure about their whiteness and they tend to lash out by being extra racist and extra white worshiping as a result. My thoughts are this rubs off on the women themselves which is why I see so many hot girls who are good looking for Italians (lets be honest, its not the sexiest ethnicity of women) with a James Corden lookalike.

Not sure how you're having success with blonde bombshells though being a darker skinned individual, are you in the USA by any chance? Just saying, these women tend to be picky as fuck and a lot of them aren't even natural blondes anyways. Maybe it is because I am in arguably the most racist state in the US but I rarely see these types of women going for darker men other than black athletes and that is more of a niche thing if anything.

 

[Sprezzatura]

I was (un)lucky enough to have had an older sister who is a hot blonde. She was ashamed of me for a long time, said I was a disgrace for her, I always stood in her shadow.
She wouldn't even allow me to hang out with her friends. Then at the age of 14 I started to work out and got a really nice body as a result. She finally saw
some merit in me and then she helped me to dress better. Then she started to be proud of me - however her approval was never permanent - whenever I would slip ever so
slightly in a social situation, she would become furious with me. You noticed correctly that most (hot) blondes are not natural - they have bleached hair. My sister was no exception -
she is a brunette who is status obsessed and was extremely picky of who she hanged out with and consistenly chose two types of men - those that were well connected or
those who were exceedingly good looking. In the end she married an average nice guy that has a prestigious job and is well connected. So I understand blonde bomshells pretty well
and can get them pretty consistently, but they are the least interesting women for me. I am looking for a wife material and they are not it.

I am not in the US so I cannot comment on that. Here in Europe we also have some racial bias, however here people are judgmental based more on ethnicity - the country you come from.
People from Bosnia or former Yugoslavia are frowned upon in my country. These women are similar to your Italian women (except they are better looking on average). They much prefer
guys who are not of the same origin.

With all that being said - I think it is possible for any guy to get almost any type of woman if he specialises in them. When I started out I found it easiest to make friends with the type of
women I wanted as girlfriends - then when I got to know them really well, I could get similar women as GF. However there is always a question of ego - how far would you go for any woman?
I am a very proud person and I drawn a line at any extremist behaviour. Whenever a woman in my life tries to impose her way on me by force and ultimatum (eating habits, religion, racism, what friends I have, what job I have)
that is the moment she has already lost me and I go find another one. I am a very tolerant person and accept people of all walks of life and people with extreme views just don't mix well with me.
A polar opposite of my sister - no wonder people keep saying they cannot believe we are related

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I just do not get the logic of going for women who do not see you as the prize though, there has to be a happy medium too because you can't take whatever you can.

At some point, I mean just go see an escort if you have a particular type you like. For example, one of my friends is a latino guy with a thing for darker white girls and tanned white girls in general with dark hair. After seeing more success with blondes and especially redheads, he smashed them and treated them well. He also went to a place where seeing an escort was legal and just fucked the kinds of escorts who fit his type to get it out of the system but the reality is, why waste so much energy or investment into a niche that hates you?

I mean I get if it is style oriented or attitude oriented I get it but other than that, why waste your fucking time?

I mean why spend time chasing women of groups that are mentally damaged?

As a white guy, I am not chasing white women who diss white men and think we are emasculated which is why I avoid white girls who are too into hip hop or talk like they are from the hood. On the same token, Asian guys should avoid white washed Asian women that diss them. I also think that guys with darker features should avoid women that are insecure about being darker.

 

[Sprezzatura]

I think the most important thing for us as men is to have pride and set of principles we follow. And part of pride is also our ego - the ego always wins. I rather ditch women who have extremist behavior that I mentioned previously, because over time they can damage your ego and try to reshape you in their own image. If her principles cannot be aligned with yours then there is no point in seeing each other except to shag.

You made an excellent point when you said that there has to be balance. I had a period when I was even ofended if a girl approached me or was to "easy" for me and I saw her as lower value. Today I know these are only more aggressive chicks and I appreciate them for what they are. As I said earlier, the best seductions are the ones where both parties are seducing each other. It is best if the woman shows slightly more insterest as you, however usually that will not be the case. I put much stock into "fascination" - the raw attraction that you feel for the woman and she feels for you. If this is missing from the equation, you can still seduce some of these women with game, however the sex and possible relationship with them will be less satisfying for both of you.

As an aside, I really don't get it why people are so judgmental today. People discriminate against each other based on race, religion, status, money, fame, what part of town you live in, your job, who your friends are etc. It makes no sense to me.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I feel like as our society gets more looks focused due to dating apps and so much going online, this is going to matter a lot.

 

[foggy]

if opposites attract then how come im not attracted to ugly women?