Do or Die

[empath]

For fix dates online 2 things works for me

Pacing and leading
Ex. Its a boring day... I think u want it to be better.
She yes
Me I wish we can do somthing about it

(If its based on boredom then, a yellow is comig, need tighter game)


Qualifying - u seem fun to grab drinks
She yes
Then proposing we should grab one
She yes

Now fix the plan

Activity based

What activities you like xyz
She bla bla bla
Me - we should do this
(Can work well for movies)

(Again tighter game, she came primarily for activity)

Lastly
I am losing interest

 

[empath]

Online you can follow 2 models.

-> standard low effort.

Few message and templates.

Or

You can try to be different then other guys

Suck her into a good banter then do above.

If you go banter route and she don't agree for date immediately need more comfort.

If she replies with geneiune text, she is interested just need more comfort and push to go out.

Keep convo refereshing for.

Better to lose her than be boring

Only if this girl likes to text.

 

[empath]

A short interaction at airport.

I really wanted to up my cold approach skills, so I checked out an article on how to pick girls on airport.

Soo, this is how it goes.

I was motivated.

Washed my face and went toward, my gate to the flight.

There was a long que.

I decided to walk near seats and saw a girl sitting there.

I look around a bit and then think of sitting next to her, she had her stuff on seat so I finger point her and she removes it.

I sit, don't look at her or anything.

Then I open my bag and pull out a book.

Then she gets up and is thinking about walking to the que.

At this point I ask her about the flight and comment its a long que.

Then she sits again.

I browse my book for some more time.

And make comment and going back home.

She responds warmly.

I settle a bit and then she asks me question about me.

Now I share and we both talk.

Then its time to get into line.

Some motherfucker cuts the line we are separated. ( i am chill not thiking of picking her anyways.)

Then I see her in bus.

Comment excited about monday.

Talk a bit again. Time get in line.

Our seats are faraway.

In morning I see her on exit and she greets me.

I am too Tired by then so we handclasp and I exit.

I love stationary sets.

 

[empath]

I approached 2 girls today.

First on a smking shop.

U seem to be planning for a house party.

She smiled and said no.

She was busy on a conversation over phone.

2nd one.

Waiting for rikshaw.

Made a comment tough to find rikshaw in this area.

Then one more comment like came for a take away?

Now she responded and I said we tag along for a rik.

Now she we had 15 mins.

Made a few cold reads, I got them right but she was shy and did not participated much in convo.

She was cute but not hot.

 

[empath]

Its been a while I have wrote in my journal and there is lot to dump idk even where to start to I will keep dumping my thouhts here.

Whatever comes to my mind.

First i am in far better position to handle my oneitis now, when a girl pulls back her attention.

Like there is one girl I am seeing for last 2 months.

Avoidant type.

She gives mix signal, like I don't text but when I do. She leaves me on seen.

I want to tell her but I know its not the best move to say it over text so I am waiting now and investing my energies into other girls or pursuit.

Still it has not completely stopped me from thinking or feeling but its less intense and i don't care honestly.

Also, figuring out my drive which is fame has allowed me to work better.

 

[empath]

In terms of dating skills and sdl they are subpar.

1 I don't have much time and logistics issue.

But I value my time more and feel I don't honestly have as my time to chase girls, rather I work on myself learn life skills.

 

[empath]

I can open in cold approach my missing skill is feeling hooking in a girl normal.

Also, then conciously controlling the frame and conversation past few dates have been purposeless for me.

 

[empath]

I can open in cold approach my missing skill is feeling hooking in a girl normal.

Also, then conciously controlling the frame and conversation past few dates have been purposeless

 

[empath]

This is the text I left her with.


I wanted to tell you in person but I wanted to tell you I really liked "if not me with whom will you share your feelings".

Now its on seen.

I want to send her multiple texts like.

1. If you don't want to respond to my texts why do you even say I don't text you enough.

Typical response from her
-> agressive and push her away
Or
-> I was busy

2. I guess I came too stron

Response
-> yeah
Or
-> no, I'm just busy


Best move

She texts or call me

I reply coldly hmm

Until I see more investment from her no need to put anythhing.

 

[empath]

Also, I'm not sure if she is someone I love.

She has some value that I love and I feel sex and getting her into relationship is a way for me to obtain it.

Like ... She has access to parties I want to go and the friend circle.


2nd her dad is rich I guess

She is social and smart

Yeah these 3.

But to rule out as a someome who is worth of being wife.

She smokes not good.
Sourounded by male friends.
Parties a lot with them.
Lost virginity to one-night stand conciously
Avoident attachment

Too much negatives.

I guess it was her easy proximity and close location which made sex easy which made me think I might love her.

 

[empath]

Maybe its easy access to sex thats why.

Lastly I have realised, its more fun flirting with someone you have had sexual relation, there is more comfort in it. Different girl, one girl hooked up with other country, I like to text her when bored and its fun. I know we won't be meeting again but its low-key fun.

 

[empath]

Travelling so I have nothing better way to use my time.

Cleaning old notes thought of collecting them here.

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1. The barney role play would have probably made her think of us together and at least put us in a casual sex frame. (But other girls like her and says he is pure innocent and loyal etc. so who knows but acting is important)

2. If girls talk about her kninks or what turns her on -> sex is certain

3. Tell a sex story, by saying its explicit but don't tell her easily let her ask for it a few times

4. Also, I asked her about the creepy jokes other people were making and I was really curious about what sheb heard and then teased her also told her she should have joined them ... that also got us close. (What makes me tease her idk, alcohol helps but it did not with the illustrator I went on the date, I need to tap this state more and more)

5. I asked her about what time she has to go and I knew she sleeps late, and then I can always frame things like stay late for a bit, let yourself lose even she wants to leave.

6. Talking about turn ons etc like this accent is sexy... I have heard... Do you have a friend in london or british accent you find sexy or a movie actor etc... can set mood for more sexual topic.

7. How comfortable she is to touch ... can lead to ... Her comfort for sex talk... If she is very inexperienced then avoid sex talk but spike her emotions to meet her later.

8. With my gf2 it was connection and touch... Deep diving plus teasing.

9. Also, sex talk ... without pull is risky getting to know her logistics or at least she is comfortable sleeping late.

 

[empath]

Reading articles primes my brain. I should continue reading and use the information more. Especially articles focoused on outer game and tech.

 

[empath]

Will write a proper LR, later.

I went to a date, had to use pings and replying on the stories first.

The girl was very sweet and touchy and letting me touch her but.

She is fixated on marrige shit.

Like I want to get married so I had to do a lot of bf disqualifers.

I managed to pull her below my apartment but couldn't make her come upstairs or kiss her, when she was leaving I had tried kissing her on lips she was like cheeks.

She was very clear about no sex on first date.

Now idk if I like her enough to go on a second date.

I can surely go though, she is into me.

Called me sweet lover boy.

 

[empath]

Don't do long goofy text in starting until the girl does it herself.

Build it slowly

 

[empath]

Don't share the pain and waste it. It the greatest fule.

Use it wisely.

Pain drives me.

 

[empath]

New spin on my past relationship for making it conducive for fast causal sex.


I had beautiful relationships with my two girlfriends but they had to leave the town, but it led to personal growth for both of us and romance and feelings were real and both of them started casually anyways.

So sometimes something spontenous can lead to some fun.

And being as busy as we are with careers we can not put pressure of relationship on us so why force it let it develop naturally and see where it leads.

Frames the casual sex as postive and ensures that she does not fear time commitment esp. good for avoidant types who are independent with a busy life.

Probably not great for clingy types so in that case I can leave the last paragraph.