I mean before you get into the Bed Room.
You're already "bossing her around" on date
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@Archie
Ok I got led astray by not reading the question properly.
The title is “do you guys do BDSM stuff during your pulls?”
Then there’s “bossing her around during the date”
But the posts asks if adopting a “Dom mentality and behaviour helps in every phase of the pull”
The answer to doing “BDSM stuff” is no. Definitely not. Because that would be talking about it. The actual stuff. And it will scare the absolute living crap out of her. Even if you’re talking about EXACTLY the same stuff that she has wet dreams over, you’ll blow it.
And that’s because she’s having wet dreams over the THEORY which includes a sexy competent lover / master / her not ending up dead in a ditch / not getting hurt - not more hurt than she wants to be anyway.
Most women know that most men don’t have the experience or control to deliver proper erotic dominance. You have to demonstrate that you can, and that they’re safe and can call a halt etc..
The answer to the “Dom mentality helping” is yes, I’m MOST phases, but probably not EVERY phase. I’m not conscious of how I do it, but you probably have to back off during comfort.
“Bossing her around” is not the same as dominance. It implies you’re just being “pushy” - which has links to being “needy” so a DLV.
But it is gonna depend on how you do it.
When any of my women come to my place and walk through the door, I might instantly get them by the hair and push them to their knees to suck my cock. But that’s not “bossing them around”, it’s domination and I’m expecting, and will get, compliance - even if I have to push through some “resistance”.
So If anything I’d think that’s counterproductive. A proper Dom doesn’t “boss around” it’s not like that. He takes the lead and takes her to a place and she submits willingly. Now he pushes her but she still submits until a boundary is reached. She either goes through that boundary willingly, or calls a limit.
It gets a bit more Technical around subspace, because at that level, the sub is so high on the endorphines that they may not be in control of their thoughts, but that’s a different league.