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Do you guys ever do something and later realized you messed it up?
I went on a date tonight with a girl I met on the shuttle that goes to my campus. We had a great conversation on the shuttle and I got her number, texted her, and set up the date fine.
We met at Starbucks and she was working on studying for an exam she has tomorrow. I asked if she was ok with time and she said probably. We had a great discussion and then I suggested we go for a walk, which she agreed to. As we walked outside, she noticed Christmas stuff in a nearby Lowe's that she wanted to look at. So I suggested we walk over there and did. We walked through the store for a bit, messing with different things and just having a good time. Then we left and she said she should probably go home soon (we met at 7:30 and it was now around 9). I countered that since its cold we should hangout out in my car and talk a bit. She said ok and we bussled in my car.
After talking a bit, I said "want to do something crazy" and then kissed her. She was kind of surprised and kissed back but then pulled away. She said she had a weird thing with kissing to which I asked why and she said she just does. I told her I didn't want her to be uncomfortable. I also should mention she had started her car remotely when she first got in my car. She then said she was surprised when I first asked for her number, as most guys ask her for social media. She also said it was ballsy that I kissed her. I asked if that was a good thing in a teasing way to which she said she guessed so. She also said she wouldve left if it had been a bad thing. She then said she should probably get home and began to leave. So I told her to give me one last kiss, which she kissed me twice (with a bit more tounge) then said "Ok that's enough" and got out of my car. I said "jeez what a tease" and she laughed. She turned and said "talk to you soon" then left to her car.
As I was driving home, I realized two things I messed up:
First, I gave her a bit of power when deciding that two kisses was "enough" as she left, leaving her the one making the decision. I should've said "No no no one last good kiss" or something so it was on my terms.
Second, I failed to fight her frame about going home at 9 :15 PM. I should've asked her to stay longer or to reason her that it was only 9 and she could go home and sleep 8 hours and still be fine if she stayed longer.
I also went in with hopes to lay her on the first date, but it didn't get past kissing. Its was a very cold day and snowy out. As she said "talk to you soon" I'm hoping I get a second shot, but I know deep down I probably won't. What is your guys take on it? I was aiming for a car escalation to sex after we'd make out for a few minutes. That obviously didn't happen. I'm waiting for her to text that she had a good time so I'm not texting her till she texts me first.
I feel so stupid I made simple mistakes. I built compliance throughout having her show me clothing or pictures or go for the walk or join me in my car. We had more shared experiences at Starbucks then Lowe's. I broke the touch barrier multiple times. When it came to reframing her thoughts at the important part, I failed.
What do you all think? Feedback/tips/think I still have a shot? All appreciated!
I went on a date tonight with a girl I met on the shuttle that goes to my campus. We had a great conversation on the shuttle and I got her number, texted her, and set up the date fine.
We met at Starbucks and she was working on studying for an exam she has tomorrow. I asked if she was ok with time and she said probably. We had a great discussion and then I suggested we go for a walk, which she agreed to. As we walked outside, she noticed Christmas stuff in a nearby Lowe's that she wanted to look at. So I suggested we walk over there and did. We walked through the store for a bit, messing with different things and just having a good time. Then we left and she said she should probably go home soon (we met at 7:30 and it was now around 9). I countered that since its cold we should hangout out in my car and talk a bit. She said ok and we bussled in my car.
After talking a bit, I said "want to do something crazy" and then kissed her. She was kind of surprised and kissed back but then pulled away. She said she had a weird thing with kissing to which I asked why and she said she just does. I told her I didn't want her to be uncomfortable. I also should mention she had started her car remotely when she first got in my car. She then said she was surprised when I first asked for her number, as most guys ask her for social media. She also said it was ballsy that I kissed her. I asked if that was a good thing in a teasing way to which she said she guessed so. She also said she wouldve left if it had been a bad thing. She then said she should probably get home and began to leave. So I told her to give me one last kiss, which she kissed me twice (with a bit more tounge) then said "Ok that's enough" and got out of my car. I said "jeez what a tease" and she laughed. She turned and said "talk to you soon" then left to her car.
As I was driving home, I realized two things I messed up:
First, I gave her a bit of power when deciding that two kisses was "enough" as she left, leaving her the one making the decision. I should've said "No no no one last good kiss" or something so it was on my terms.
Second, I failed to fight her frame about going home at 9 :15 PM. I should've asked her to stay longer or to reason her that it was only 9 and she could go home and sleep 8 hours and still be fine if she stayed longer.
I also went in with hopes to lay her on the first date, but it didn't get past kissing. Its was a very cold day and snowy out. As she said "talk to you soon" I'm hoping I get a second shot, but I know deep down I probably won't. What is your guys take on it? I was aiming for a car escalation to sex after we'd make out for a few minutes. That obviously didn't happen. I'm waiting for her to text that she had a good time so I'm not texting her till she texts me first.
I feel so stupid I made simple mistakes. I built compliance throughout having her show me clothing or pictures or go for the walk or join me in my car. We had more shared experiences at Starbucks then Lowe's. I broke the touch barrier multiple times. When it came to reframing her thoughts at the important part, I failed.
What do you all think? Feedback/tips/think I still have a shot? All appreciated!
