Women are not that difficult to understand. There are couple things to consider:
Physical Disadvantage: She is say 140 pounds and you are 210 pounds, you are bigger, stronger, more muscular... Girls probably don't think about it consciously, but think about it - when you see somebody who is 70-80 pounds heavier than you, you probably have some (physical) respect by default; if it is muscular guy you feel naturally intimidated... She knows she can't manipulate guys physically, but she can manipulate guys emotionally...
Emotional Advantage: Girls have huge emotional advantage. This 140 pound girl can make the 210 pound man feel very happy, or very miserable. She goes for a date with you, she throws great vibes at you, and you are the happiest man on the planet. But if she rejects you, if she goes cold and distant on you, you may be in misery for months, even years... Girls are generally good at reading and creating emotions. Guys usually suck at understanding emotions, nevermind generating...
So women know they can make guys feel happy or miserable. Think about it, if she is pretty she has lots guys interested in her. It is flattering to her when guys show interest in her, yet at the same time she can't date and sleep with every guy she likes and talks to, even if he is sexy. So she has to reject.
Sometimes she rejects immediatelly, she can have great vibes with you, give you phone number to make you feel good (think about it from emotional and not logical perspective), but then she never replies to give you a hint that this will not go on. Which is frustrating to guys, they don't understand this logic, but in her mind it makes sense.
Think about it this way: If I meet you today, we can have a great conversation about girls. We can have a beer or two, and I may share my apple with you. Great time, you seem like a cool guy. But do I want to meet you next Sunday for lunch? Fuck no.
Other times she may reject you slowly, she wants to give you a fair chance to prove yourself, she is taking some time to make up her mind, but if you don't meet what she is looking for, there the boot comes... Most (normal) women don't really want to hurt guys by rejecting them, they know it hurts, so they do it as gently as possible (again, talking about normal healthy women) - which usually means they go colder and colder, they are slowly distancing themselves from you, they are slowly drifting away... Which is also frustrating and painful when you know that she is drifting away and you can't really do much to change it, but it makes perfect sense... Perhaps she hopes that she will generate neutral emotions in you towards her, she hopes that you "get it" without her explicitely telling you... Which is actually quite logical thing to do if we consider the emotional perspective...
I watched women distancing and drifting away from their mates for many months, while in the mean time they were looking for other potential mates... That was actually quite interesting experience. The guys in relationship are/were of course usually clueless; they miss all the red flags, they just realized "suddenly" that she is gone, then they started to throw fit, anger... what a drama, just like children... It is actually unbeliavable how most men are totally clueless about what is really going on...
Next, guys make their decisions based on logic. That is how we are wired, we chose the most logical option and we go with that.
Girls, on the other hand, make their decisions based on emotions. If the guy makes her feel something, she goes with that. If there are no feelings, or low feelings, she will reject. In reality it is of course more complex, for example she may be in relationship or married, and now she meets great sexy guy who makes her feel great - so she has to consider not only her feelings but also lots of other stuff: divorce, children, finances, how he fits into her family and so forth.
Because of the emotional instability, girls sort of behave like children. There are great vibes today, she promises you date, but then she flakes. She gives you phone number but then she never texts back. It’s because her feelings may have changed, she may have been thinking about the interaction with you but decided you are not what she’s looking for, or she may have met somebody else who made her feel more intensively… Again, frustrating for guys, but in her mind it makes perfect sense... She just has no feelings or desire big enough to go out - with you...
That is why guys are so confused because it seems that many times girls don’t make any sense. They say something but do the exact opposite… It is usually situational but once you realize that girls make decisions based rather on emotions and not logic, it is actually quite simple to understand their views…
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Which kind of leads us to "The Game". The Game is basically understanding on how women’s mind work and exhibiting behavior that generates attraction and sexual desire.
She can easily manipulate with her emotions guys who are more emotional and passive. She throws great vibes at a guy, and he is very happy. She says she wants this, he will do it. She says she wants that, he will bring it. He never asks anything in return because he doesn’t want to hurt he feelings. She will throw a shit test, he fails. He doesn’t know what he wants either, he has no clue what food he likes, what to do for fun, or where to go in life. So she goes cold for couple of days, doesn’t answer his texts… and now he starts bombarding her with texts… He starts calling her, leaving messages, asking her friends about her, sending FB messages, 100 likes in one day, and another 100 the day after… She knows right away he is not emotionally stable; he is immature and unstable himself, and there the boot comes… Imagine now the guy starts chasing her, he spills his emotions all over, he can’t get over her… What a nightmare is this guy for her, she has to run very very far away from him…
On the other hand, she can’t manipulate mature guys. She asks for something, and he will ask what she can do for him in exchange. He demands that she does things for him. He knows where to do for dinner and what to do over the weekend. He knows what he wants from life, he knows where he goes. She throws a test, stops texting - he doesn’t even notices for couple days. After 10 days he texts her: Hey want happened to you, did you get lost? She checks his FB, he hasn’t been on for 5 days. Her friends have no clue what is he doing because he didn’t ask them about her. She went silent, this guy went silent as well; he is not needy. So she shows up 2 weeks later to see him, he is happy to see her, acts as if nothing happened, doesn't ask her one question… She knows right away this guy is solid, he is for real, she cannot manipulate his emotions, he will not move an inch for her… She can't move this guy an inch, she feels powerless, which is so frustrating to her. And thus so sexy...
