Does my age require a different path..?

[lemar12234]

Hello humble readers of Girls Chase! My name is Lemar and this is my first post. *Takes numerous bows*

I've been a reader of Girls Chase for about 2 months now and it has already really upped my game with girls that I was already intimate/ semi-intimate with. Definitely increased my lay amounts .

One thing has been getting to me though in terms of cold approaching (Which by the way I am fine with, very minor approach anxiety) is the process of getting to the date stage. It feels like I am a complete stranger asking a girl to get a coffee or grab some food, to which If i were them i would not be up for because of just general risks.

I am 17 turning 18 soon, so I suppose my real question to you guys (especially the younger guys) is how do you transition between cold numbers to first dates? Do you text right in with asking her schedule and stuff, or do you try to warm her up first (Another thing I find awkward and unsure without having had a long dialogue with them in person). I've tried calling, but half the time they apologise for not being able to pick up, or sound very scared/surprised on the phone.

Sometimes I feel that much of the material on Girls Chase can be applied to my age girls, but in general somethings are more suited to older, more confident and experienced women as opposed to younger girls without cars, experience etc.

P.S just a final question, Right now my logistics are less then favorable considering I live with two younger brothers and a sister plus both parents... on a first date I would like for it to end up in somewhere where I could escalate (Say my room). So what can be done about this? Has anyone tried to get themselves invited to the girls house for the first date?

Sorry for such a long post btw this wasn't originally the plan lol.

Kind Regards
Lemar

 

[lemar12234]

Owch no replies! Tough crowd.

 

[Chase]

Lemar-

Welcome to the boards, and happy to hear you're already seeing some success.

My comments:

One thing has been getting to me though in terms of cold approaching (Which by the way I am fine with, very minor approach anxiety) is the process of getting to the date stage. It feels like I am a complete stranger asking a girl to get a coffee or grab some food, to which If i were them i would not be up for because of just general risks.

This sounds like you just need to start asking girls out as much as you can just to get past this worry. Some will say no, but be polite about it; others will say okay, sure. The more you get these polite rejections, and comfortable yesses, the more you'll start to realize that asking girls out is a totally normal thing and women are happy to be asked by a normal, attractive-enough guy even if they've just met.

I am 17 turning 18 soon, so I suppose my real question to you guys (especially the younger guys) is how do you transition between cold numbers to first dates? Do you text right in with asking her schedule and stuff, or do you try to warm her up first (Another thing I find awkward and unsure without having had a long dialogue with them in person). I've tried calling, but half the time they apologise for not being able to pick up, or sound very scared/surprised on the phone.

The big question here is "Why are you getting cold numbers you haven't already grabbed on the premise of going out on dates with yet?"

You should only be getting numbers normally after telling a girl, "We should grab food or a drink sometime," or something similar, and having her say, "Okay, sure!"

This article goes into it in much greater detail:

How to Get a Phone Number from a Girl Every Time You Ask

The reason you do this is twofold:

• 1. It makes it infinitely easier and more natural to ask for her phone number
  
  2. It makes it infinitely easier and more natural to get her out on a date once you have the number

Then once you have it, it's just sending her an icebreaker text, and following up later to sort out schedules and logistics for your meet.

Sometimes I feel that much of the material on Girls Chase can be applied to my age girls, but in general somethings are more suited to older, more confident and experienced women as opposed to younger girls without cars, experience etc.

Poke around these boards a bit; we have a number of younger members in the 16 to 18 range (think we even have a guy on here who's 15?). Zphix was posting lay reports when he was 17 I think, and we had one a week or two back from a 16-year-old if memory serves. Check out these guys and see what (if anything) they are doing different from what you get out of the material.

There are also a number of posts on the boards for and about guys in high school.

P.S just a final question, Right now my logistics are less then favorable considering I live with two younger brothers and a sister plus both parents... on a first date I would like for it to end up in somewhere where I could escalate (Say my room). So what can be done about this? Has anyone tried to get themselves invited to the girls house for the first date?

Check out these articles / forum posts for some logistics ideas:

• How to Go to Her Place Smoothly, Even If You Just Met
• Sex Logistics: How to Get Intimate in Unusual Places
• Out of Town Pickups
• Best way to work car sex?
• Car Sex

Chase