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Hey guys,
so I know the general progression from a casual relationship to a committed relationship, but I was on the phone with a girl I slept with two weeks ago. It was quite unlucky that I had to leave town for 3 weeks right after we slept together, but I'm keen on seeing her again. So for the past two weeks, she had been messaging me every 2-3 days and we've talked on the phone three times. Every time we're on the phone, we just have a lot of fun bantering and teasing.
I think I kind of pushed the asshole front a bit too far at times because every time we're bantering it always comes back to "me seeing other girls and ignoring her", and I had to kind of dial it down and tell her "na you're the only one", but she still wouldn't believe me. (in reality, I went on two dates last week and made out on both of them lol so I guess women's intuition is always right).
So yesterday on the phone, she told me she feels like she's not an important person to me. (At first she was reluctant to tell me what she's feeling, but she eventually opened up). And yes I've been told I can be a little too distant when it comes to texting and stuff, but that's because of I've been following GC's advise for the past two years and I'm just busy lol. I remember in my last relationship, I had to text a little more in the beginning too. So I told her I would rather talk to her on the phone like this than text her, then she told me she's too scared to call me, because on our first date my ex kept calling me and I just ignored it. So I laughed and admitted that I used to be "colder" I teased her for "being lucky because she now has the warmer version of me". Then she said "that's ok. You're not my boyfriend". I was a bit surprised by that and wanted to ask her "do you want me to be your boyfriend?" but I didn't because I felt like she was baiting me to ask that question, like "so what are we?"...etc. Instead, I told her the truth that I'm just as scared as her to be the first to reach out. She teased me if I'm scared of rejections. I laughed and said "no I'm ok with rejections. I'm still trying to figure this out." (she knows I approach girls a lot because I've approached her friend before) Then she said, "yea you're right. I can tell when you're being honest. Let's go on a date when you get back." Then I teased her I'll just send her a blank message when I miss her and we went back to more teasing and some sex talk.
Right before we hung up, she was happy that I finally booked the bus ticket to go back and she's going to cook for me as well. So what do you guys think? I've been going in the direction of a committed relationship, but when she threw out that "That's ok. you're not my bf", I'm not sure if she wanted to push me to commit, or was she just teasing?
My intuition tells me I need to have "the talk" once I get back.
so I know the general progression from a casual relationship to a committed relationship, but I was on the phone with a girl I slept with two weeks ago. It was quite unlucky that I had to leave town for 3 weeks right after we slept together, but I'm keen on seeing her again. So for the past two weeks, she had been messaging me every 2-3 days and we've talked on the phone three times. Every time we're on the phone, we just have a lot of fun bantering and teasing.
I think I kind of pushed the asshole front a bit too far at times because every time we're bantering it always comes back to "me seeing other girls and ignoring her", and I had to kind of dial it down and tell her "na you're the only one", but she still wouldn't believe me. (in reality, I went on two dates last week and made out on both of them lol so I guess women's intuition is always right).
So yesterday on the phone, she told me she feels like she's not an important person to me. (At first she was reluctant to tell me what she's feeling, but she eventually opened up). And yes I've been told I can be a little too distant when it comes to texting and stuff, but that's because of I've been following GC's advise for the past two years and I'm just busy lol. I remember in my last relationship, I had to text a little more in the beginning too. So I told her I would rather talk to her on the phone like this than text her, then she told me she's too scared to call me, because on our first date my ex kept calling me and I just ignored it. So I laughed and admitted that I used to be "colder" I teased her for "being lucky because she now has the warmer version of me". Then she said "that's ok. You're not my boyfriend". I was a bit surprised by that and wanted to ask her "do you want me to be your boyfriend?" but I didn't because I felt like she was baiting me to ask that question, like "so what are we?"...etc. Instead, I told her the truth that I'm just as scared as her to be the first to reach out. She teased me if I'm scared of rejections. I laughed and said "no I'm ok with rejections. I'm still trying to figure this out." (she knows I approach girls a lot because I've approached her friend before) Then she said, "yea you're right. I can tell when you're being honest. Let's go on a date when you get back." Then I teased her I'll just send her a blank message when I miss her and we went back to more teasing and some sex talk.
Right before we hung up, she was happy that I finally booked the bus ticket to go back and she's going to cook for me as well. So what do you guys think? I've been going in the direction of a committed relationship, but when she threw out that "That's ok. you're not my bf", I'm not sure if she wanted to push me to commit, or was she just teasing?
My intuition tells me I need to have "the talk" once I get back.
