Proactivity,
It does, but not to the extent that you might be thinking.
When you're in college or high school, that is basically your entire world for that short period of time. So being the "cool" kids in that enclosure basically puts you at the top of a single hierarchy that exists. Since there is only one area, and one social structure, then it makes them seem like the "top" of the world.
In the adult world, these still exist, but they are now divided into smaller establishments that run within their own domains. So, for example, the nightlife scene in your area will have its own little hierarchy of dudes and chicks, but it is completely independent of say, the rich, business-class hierarchy that might exist at glamorous parties thrown by CEOs of giant companies. There is little to no overlap there, and neither hiearchy sees one or the other as "superior" and really could care less about each other.
Basically, the "fraternity" life gets removed from the college bubble and then just resides with a ton of other bubbles that all exist in same environment. Sometimes these bubbles overlap, but for the most part, Bubble A's hierarchy is exclusive of Bubble B's hierarchy, even though an individual might be part of both Bubble A and B. His position in Bubble A is completely independent of his position in Bubble B.
This is why it would be difficult for Oh Pry to now achieve what he wants: to be the "top" dog over everyone else. When you're out of the college bubble, you enter a world where there are hundreds of different bubbles for different types of people, and climbing the social ladder for one of those bubbles means nothing to any of the adjacent bubbles unless they exclusively overlap. And even then, there are still thousands of other bubbles that exist around a given city.
The only way to be the "cool" kid in college or high school, then, is to go back to one of those bubbles and become the "cool" kid. But, as you probably immediately realize, going "back" to high school is not really something that is feasible (and definitely unhealthy if you find it "desirable" to back to high school or college if you're older and have already completed it).
The best one can do at this point is find a passion or hobby that has its own bubble, join it, and then find out how to climb the social ladder within it. There are plenty of bubbles that contain beautiful women to meet and social ladders to climb, but it's going to be difficult to climb the ladder if you don't appreciate the passion or hobbies that revolve around it (and find yourself in it just because you want to be at the "top" of something without really appreciating what that something is).
- Franco
