Doing Party Game Instead of Cold Approach

[metomeya]

You still do cold approach, but you just invite them to a party (basically going out to the clubs on the weekend) instead of setting up a date or lay that same day (which can be a logistics pain if are trying to keep it unbeknownst to her...like, "Hey this just happens to be walking by the hotel I'm staying, come up with me I need to grab something.")

Anyways, the trick is you pregame at a spot (have everyone leave their cars there), go to the clubs (more drinks and some dirty dancing...make the girls super horny), then everyone HAS to go back to your place to get their cars, and while there everyone sneaks off to a bedroom or bathroom (works best if you pregame at a house with lots of rooms).

I've seen it before and it is very effective.

Best thing, I think a lot of girls are more willing to go party with you and a group than meet up for coffee or whatever later. Depends on the girl, but at least she knows she'll have fun and meet some people if she doesn't like you too much. Plus, since they sort of know you before the club, they are more willing to let loose.

Got the idea from Good Looking Loser:
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2014/02/17/an-introduction-and-misconception-about-party-club-game/

 

[Chase]

Metomeya-

I've only spent a limited about 5 weeks in Hollywood and wasn't a part of the "scene" when there (and didn't make any effort to meet people in it, though a few former Hollywood friends pointed me to the places to go to pre-game with the folks who were in it), though I've seen this a bit in San Francisco and San Diego. Several of my buddies in SD who always got laid a lot used to run their own pre- and after-parties like this. The sex always goes down at the after party. The girls tend to get passed around quite a bit though, so you've got to be more or less okay with sloppy seconds (or thirds... or fourths). That put me off when I ran into these scenes... don't so much mind friends of mine enjoying my leftovers, but I'm not much of a leftover sort myself. You can pick up fresh girls while out and invite them to the after party, but they're not as likely to hook up with you as girls who are already in the circle.

The trick here is getting set up with a circle like this. It's difficult to create one on your own, because even if you have the pad for it it can be surprisingly hard to meet cool people who like to party and are down to do this sort of thing. Unless you work in the nightlife industry (bartender, promoter, bouncer, etc.), you more or less need to get connected with these folks and hang with them. At that point this becomes sort of a big commitment in your life - you are going out all the time, maintaining and running this social circle, and if you're doing things right it does start to pay off in dividends (hookups). However, there is a "maintenance cost" you will be paying in time and energy.

If you love hanging out with the kinds of people you will meet in bars and clubs and parties, and drinking, and doing some smack, that maintenance cost will be nil and this is all fun for you, though. If you don't love it as much, pure cold approach without worrying about maintaining a going out circle and hanging out with folks every weekend and passing girls around and getting blasted off your trunk will tend to be preferable. I suppose it's down to tastes. Cocaine is a big part of these circles in California and you will have this offered to you repeatedly when you roll in these circles (which is why everyone in Hollywood is on it). I'm a pretty steadfast guy but even I was tempted on several occasions with as many times as I had it offered to me.

As an aside, if you hit it off with a girl during cold approach, unless you'll pull her that night or she's definitely the party girl type, it's generally more efficient to avoid party dates than to bring her along on any that are anything short of you being the alpha of the group: The Party Date: Don't Do It.

Chase

 

[metomeya]

How effective this strategy is depends on your friends. And a good friend can take care of your "maintenance cost." But more important is for you and your friends to create a fun time that allows for girls to let their guard down and get so horny that they are about to pop. If you are hanging out just to have a good time, it simply won't work. And it works on both men and women, trust me I was never more horny in my life than when I got invited to one of these situations and I ended up sleeping with the girl that drove me there only because she happened to be my ride home as well.

Once I processed the situation, I realized these guys had some hardcore team game going on. Miles ahead of other people I've met from the community (including some well known ones) and other people I met from just going out in general who were trying this strategy. What made them so good wasn't just how low key they were as individuals, but how low key they were as a group (just how professional athletes can almost read the minds of their teammates). And, of course, they were all on the same page.

The first time I saw this was with some bartenders I worked with at a high end restaurant. They were cool as shit and now I know why. It was all part of their game to have the girls let their guard down (they ended up sleeping with all the hot girls, even the ones with boyfriends). They were super nice to everyone (and why not, they were getting laid all the time). Turns out they would move to different cities, find bar jobs at fancy restaurants together and run this game on the hostesses and some waitresses. They would all rent a house together and would host pre and post parties there.

They told me later, a big part of their success (especially with good girls who rarely party or ones who had boyfriends) had to do with all or most of them working at the same restaurant so they could play it off as just coworkers hanging out. And if one of the roommates didn't work with them, they weren't allowed to stay there for the night because it would keep the girls from letting their guard down (talk about taking one for the team). Once they can get the girls to show up (and most importantly alone or with other coworkers), it was all downhill from there. They did say some girls would take two or three weekends of partying sometimes.

But their big thing is, whoever they had at the end of the night is whoever they had at the end of the night. No jealousy between friends (but I'm sure there was). And sloppy seconds didn't matter to them (and I'm sure on some level it did). As envious as I was of all the hot girls they got (they showed me a very nice collection of photos), it was pretty gross.

And their mindset is one that most guys (even ones who study PUA) will never truly embrace.

All I can say is that it works, even on girls who I thought would never fall for this stuff. But keep in mind, your friend just might end up with the girl you inviting from your cold approach even if she liked you more.