Doing something audacious. Advice would be appreciated

[Humay]

I'll try to keep this short and not write a book. Nevertheless, please bear with me. I do place great importance on not hurting a girl and keeping my integrity. I also know from GC that no girl is worth a certain amount of effort. But as a beginner, i've yet to find my boundaries. So please correct me if i'm going the wrong way about this.

This summer i'll be going to the city where i met the girl who was my first love. That was a few years ago, and memories of her have driven me crazy (due to 'unfinished business' with her). I need to find her and romance her again (hopefully long term one day) for the sake of closure and my sanity. I tried all the tricks of moving on, even being with prettier girls. But if anyone's ever been in my position, you'll know that losing a girl due to circumstance before you even had a chance to appreciate her beauty is the most painful thing. And i'm not one to pass on a challenge.

This summer while i'll be in her city, it'll be the last month she'll be at her school and her city before she goes to university (we're 18 now). And the chances of finding her fall to virtually naught after that month, meaning i'll have to give up if i can't find her (she could go to any university). So this summer, i gave myself the challenge to find out where she'll go to university.
I figured it's the wrong time to actually find her and meet her. I don't want a long distance relationship when i leave her city again after the summer. The past would probably repeat itself and i'll fall short again from my inexperience.
So i thought it would be best if i found out which university she goes to, meaning i can put her off my mind and enjoy myself with new girls during my university years. I'll then find her after i got my degree (when i've got the experience to really seduce her).

What does everyone think about this? The reason this gets twice as tricky is because i'll only find out which university she'll go to (i suppose) by seducing her female classmates and casually ask them subtly. They don't know who i am, but i don't want to arouse their suspicions to think that i would come back for a girl after 4 years. They and the girl would think i'm crazy if they knew i was coming back for her. I don't have any experience in seducing women to find something out (i'm not James Bond!).

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading

 

[trashKENNUT]

Humay,

This summer while i'll be in her city, it'll be the last month she'll be at her school and her city before she goes to university (we're 18 now). And the chances of finding her fall to virtually naught after that month, meaning i'll have to give up if i can't find her (she could go to any university). So this summer, i gave myself the challenge to find out where she'll go to university.
I figured it's the wrong time to actually find her and meet her. I don't want a long distance relationship when i leave her city again after the summer. The past would probably repeat itself and i'll fall short again from my inexperience.
So i thought it would be best if i found out which university she goes to, meaning i can put her off my mind and enjoy myself with new girls during my university years. I'll then find her after i got my degree (when i've got the experience to really seduce her).

You could probably meet her, hook up and go on seperate lifes in a different university. But when you got experience to seduce girls, often the prior girl is just another girl, and you might not want her again, or just want her to hook up, then off you go.

What does everyone think about this? The reason this gets twice as tricky is because i'll only find out which university she'll go to (i suppose) by seducing her female classmates and casually ask them subtly. They don't know who i am, but i don't want to arouse their suspicions to think that i would come back for a girl after 4 years. They and the girl would think i'm crazy if they knew i was coming back for her. I don't have any experience in seducing women to find something out (i'm not James Bond!).

It makes things better if she sees you with other women, and if you both end up in the same university.

Zac

 

[Humay]

Hey, thanks Zac I don't know if i will just forget her through experience though. She seems different.

 

[Franco]

Humay,

Women only seem different and scarce when you don't have an abundance of them.

Are there personalities that are more rare than others? Sure. Are there girls that will click with you more than most? Of course. But leaving yourself such a long-term goal of trying to get a specific girl back is going to severely hurt your game. You'll lack the aggressiveness to approach high quality women because you'll figure that they aren't what you'll really want in the end anyway, and as anyone who has vigorously had to practice cold approaching women knows, any negative thought or excuse in your mind before you approach a woman is enough to make you not approach her.

You need to believe that you can meet women of her quality (or higher), and that she is replaceable -- because she is. But, like anything, it will require hard work.

I don't even know anything about this girl that you speak of, but I already know that I am capable of getting her or a girl just like her. And this has very little to do with her or who she is or what qualities she may have -- this comes from a change in mindset about the way you see women. Although this website tends to refrain from cliche ideas and phrases about women, there is one phrase that is immensely more true than any other, and that is, "there are lots of fish in the sea." And if I were to add an addendum to that, I would say that there are lots of amazing fish out there in the sea.

Give Chase's current article a read entitled Lower Your Standards (and Date Hotter Girls) if you haven't. It's a good read that will probably start driving you in the right direction as you head into college.

- Franco