Donjohn's journal

[Donjohn]

Hi all,

I just read Chase's article on effort aversion and for the sake of accountability I decided to start this public journal. I'm sick of myself reading blog articles on the site and not taking any actual action apart from small things (like within social circles), so I've decided to seriously step it up a notch.
First off, I'm a student, not much experience with women, I believe myself to be decently good but I have a lot of things to work on, and I want to get way better.

To start I've decided to pick one venue this week, which is the supermarket, I always notice so many good-looking girls doing their evening grocery shopping. I'm going to open to 3 different women, using situational openers and if I muster the courage direct openers. I'm going to start off simple as I have literally never done a cold approach. I'm not seeking to get any numbers just establish contact.
As long as I haven't accomplished this I stay in the supermarket, so if I don't do it I will eventually know every aisle by heart and look like an idiot doing tours and tours of the supermarket.
Also note to myself to not go too late as the place gets way too crowded.

Cheers,

Don John

 

[Donjohn]

Update:

Well I went to the grocery store and failed. Went there around 2:30, realised when I got there it wasn't very busy. But there were girls, but I just couldn't get it out there. I admit pretty much complete defeat. I scored the aisles taking my time to get my groceries, crossed around 6 girls but could not get it out there. I maintained eye contact gave a small smile but thats it. I think just being there with that motive made me feel awkward and unable to step out of the comfort zone. I lingered around there for about more then an hour before running out of things to buy and left. Well I feel defeated.
I really need to do this, a couple of excuses for myself are that I went at a bad time and barely talked to anyone the whole day so I was not feeling warmed up.
But I put all the blame on myself.

So I decided to recalibrate:
1) I have to find more venues, the problem with the grocery store is that I can't really stay there for ever
One is the nightclub/bar area around my neighbourhood, it gets really busy at night (the streets surrounding it)
But I need to find more, I'm thinking the bookstore near campus but I need to take a look
I'm going to think of more over the weekend
2) I'm currently working on my fundamentals:
-posture, I practice walking with my back straight
-voice, i have a naturally deep voice, but it does sound kind of nasal
-eye contact, I'm going to practice holding eye contact and note my observations here
-smile I'm going to work on having a small side smile when walking around
3) This week is not over:
-this weekend I'm hitting the nightlife near my place and will open to at least 4 girls

If any users have any suggestions on making that first step or anything else, please share your advice, its always welcome.

Dj