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Hey guys! First Post!
This is for absolute beginners like me. Hopefully, it's a bit motivational.
Now I have to add a disclaimer. I don't have much room to talk (see the space monkey), but I feel it's a disservice to not help others who may be struggling, even if I am facing my own unique challenges to gain experience.
For my fellow newbies, you don't have to learn things the really hard way, and you can thank the Girls Chase team for that. The beginning of my journey illustrates how learning the really hard way can be thankfully avoided because the Girls Chase team already did it and because they share their experiences and learned lessons. My journey started with upgrading my fundamentals and mindsets, which are still a work in progress; however, partially because I started looking for girls' signs of interest and partially because I had tighter fundamentals, I noticed I can attract many more girls than I thought I could. (I previously thought I could only attract very few who weren't the prettiest.) I could also command more respect from others, men and women alike. So go out there and work on them! They really help and they are the easiest things to fix because you don't need to screw up and get rejected for these to get better (as far as I know.)
With these better fundamentals, I eventually ended up attracting a three rather pretty girls that I was also interested in without going through a typical cold approach. One was so interested, that I had multiple obvious opportunities to "make things happen," but I blew it despite our mutual interest because I did not have the courage nor the knowledge to make a move. (Here's where the fun begins.) Despite knowing that attraction has an expiration date (https://www.girlschase.com/content/attra ... ation-date), I thought my situation was unique and I still had a chance despite missing my opportunity. It was unique, just like every other situation; however, it's uniqueness doesn't make much of a difference. As I grew to chase the girl and not stop thinking about her (for quite a while might I add), believing I could make this happen, I nearly missed the opportunities I had with the other two girls. I also missed countless opportunities to meet new girls. The whole time I asked for typical dating advice from friends and the internet. Now you guessed it, this advise wasn't helpful, and just made me chase and fall for her more when she wasn't interested. In fact, she started going after another guy who she is dating right now.
Concerning the other two, they weren't as interested as the first, but they showed enough interest in me for me to take notice. Then, I proceeded to screw it up again for not moving fast enough and "hiding the bananna." (A term Chase used in this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-u ... -get-girls). In addition, I was somewhat bitter about the first girl and considered her a failure instead of a learning experience. (Negative attitudes suck and don't help!) Now what stopped me from thinking about any of these girls I was interested in? The same advice in this article, https://www.girlschase.com/content/cant- ... more-girls, meeting new girls.
Now what does my rocky start have anything to do with learning the hard way? Everything. If you are smart enough to learn from others' mistakes, keep reading. You'll learn a lot and progress much faster than me. If you are like me and need to learn new things the hard way, don't worry. Girls Chase throughout their many articles has already discussed where you may/will mess up while learning. I messed up exactly like they mentioned most beginners/typical men mess up with women in their many articles, but unlike most men, I understand that my skills with women can vastly improve. Also, unlike the Girls Chase team and most men, I don't have to analyze my mess ups too hard to figure out where I went wrong. (I simply did not make a move or create a vibe where making a move was much easier. This happened a while back so I'm fuzzy on some details.) I don't even have to analyze my interactions too hard with women to find out that attraction has an expiration date or that meeting more girls can help me stop thinking about one particular girl. Girls Chase already has articles with this information and a helpful forum. You just have to read, learn, and, in my case, confirm that they're right because I'm hard-headed. Learning this information without any help like this site would be learning the REALLY hard way.
So for us newbies, keep it up!! The journey is not going to be easy, but based on the success stories I have read about all over Girls Chase and the forum, the rewards appear to be worth the effort. Just trust in those who've been in their unique but similar situations to yours. Lastly, be glad you don't have to learn the really hard way. Even if you have to learn and continue to learn some very basic lessons the hard way like me, you won't spin your wheels and waste time trying to figure out what Girls Chase has already figured out for you.
Keep up the work! We'll reach the top together along with a few girls who will be with us when we get there.
This is for absolute beginners like me. Hopefully, it's a bit motivational.
Now I have to add a disclaimer. I don't have much room to talk (see the space monkey), but I feel it's a disservice to not help others who may be struggling, even if I am facing my own unique challenges to gain experience.
For my fellow newbies, you don't have to learn things the really hard way, and you can thank the Girls Chase team for that. The beginning of my journey illustrates how learning the really hard way can be thankfully avoided because the Girls Chase team already did it and because they share their experiences and learned lessons. My journey started with upgrading my fundamentals and mindsets, which are still a work in progress; however, partially because I started looking for girls' signs of interest and partially because I had tighter fundamentals, I noticed I can attract many more girls than I thought I could. (I previously thought I could only attract very few who weren't the prettiest.) I could also command more respect from others, men and women alike. So go out there and work on them! They really help and they are the easiest things to fix because you don't need to screw up and get rejected for these to get better (as far as I know.)
With these better fundamentals, I eventually ended up attracting a three rather pretty girls that I was also interested in without going through a typical cold approach. One was so interested, that I had multiple obvious opportunities to "make things happen," but I blew it despite our mutual interest because I did not have the courage nor the knowledge to make a move. (Here's where the fun begins.) Despite knowing that attraction has an expiration date (https://www.girlschase.com/content/attra ... ation-date), I thought my situation was unique and I still had a chance despite missing my opportunity. It was unique, just like every other situation; however, it's uniqueness doesn't make much of a difference. As I grew to chase the girl and not stop thinking about her (for quite a while might I add), believing I could make this happen, I nearly missed the opportunities I had with the other two girls. I also missed countless opportunities to meet new girls. The whole time I asked for typical dating advice from friends and the internet. Now you guessed it, this advise wasn't helpful, and just made me chase and fall for her more when she wasn't interested. In fact, she started going after another guy who she is dating right now.
Concerning the other two, they weren't as interested as the first, but they showed enough interest in me for me to take notice. Then, I proceeded to screw it up again for not moving fast enough and "hiding the bananna." (A term Chase used in this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-u ... -get-girls). In addition, I was somewhat bitter about the first girl and considered her a failure instead of a learning experience. (Negative attitudes suck and don't help!) Now what stopped me from thinking about any of these girls I was interested in? The same advice in this article, https://www.girlschase.com/content/cant- ... more-girls, meeting new girls.
Now what does my rocky start have anything to do with learning the hard way? Everything. If you are smart enough to learn from others' mistakes, keep reading. You'll learn a lot and progress much faster than me. If you are like me and need to learn new things the hard way, don't worry. Girls Chase throughout their many articles has already discussed where you may/will mess up while learning. I messed up exactly like they mentioned most beginners/typical men mess up with women in their many articles, but unlike most men, I understand that my skills with women can vastly improve. Also, unlike the Girls Chase team and most men, I don't have to analyze my mess ups too hard to figure out where I went wrong. (I simply did not make a move or create a vibe where making a move was much easier. This happened a while back so I'm fuzzy on some details.) I don't even have to analyze my interactions too hard with women to find out that attraction has an expiration date or that meeting more girls can help me stop thinking about one particular girl. Girls Chase already has articles with this information and a helpful forum. You just have to read, learn, and, in my case, confirm that they're right because I'm hard-headed. Learning this information without any help like this site would be learning the REALLY hard way.
So for us newbies, keep it up!! The journey is not going to be easy, but based on the success stories I have read about all over Girls Chase and the forum, the rewards appear to be worth the effort. Just trust in those who've been in their unique but similar situations to yours. Lastly, be glad you don't have to learn the really hard way. Even if you have to learn and continue to learn some very basic lessons the hard way like me, you won't spin your wheels and waste time trying to figure out what Girls Chase has already figured out for you.
Keep up the work! We'll reach the top together along with a few girls who will be with us when we get there.
