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Doubts about re-Escalating on a Pre-Kissing Resistance Date
Hi. skilled seducers
I hardly ever post on here...I spent several months 6 or so just focusing on me since I last dated a girl....
Taking up the Gym, improving habits, making money in freelance business....
And well although I talk to girls constantly to keep the skills sharpened well I wasn't that motivated or at least I hadn't been interested in asking out a new girl before I got my shit together.
Well only until yesterday I went back out with a girl I met through the Facebook couples app... and we had been talking for a couple of weeks not a lot but I had established a sexual framework with light text chat and flirting. And well she was interested in going out so we agreed to meet at a shopping mall.
My arrival was a little late for the appointment, the girl was almost going to leave. And I explained the delay I had. Well she understood and we continued our outing without problems... I took my arm out for her to take it and we went to a place with more atmosphere in the center of the city... we flirted a little, chatted about various things and vibrated.
I asked her: Do I still look like the hot guy you met on the dating app... and she said yes she thought he was hot and I qualified it by saying I thought he was sexy and his look was good too... and she asked me questions to get more information.
And she was asking me questions to get more information about me and to get an idea of what I look like.
Well when we arrived at the place a walled tourist site with a view of the sea where many foreigners and people come to visit and is something a little dark only with the floodlights illuminating lends itself to a romantic scene and climb without discomfort.
I was doing my usual climbing, cuddling and hugging, a night breeze cooled my hands a bit and she crossed herself or reiterated to me how cold she was and my hands felt a bit cold when I touched her... I told her that this way she warms me up as a flirty joke....
She asked me what I was looking for... I answered her... that I had no expectations for the moment I wanted to meet someone interesting, go out and if we had a great connection and we decided to continue seeing each other and we want a serious and stable commitment it doesn't depend only on me and well not to rush or force anything just give yourself enough time to get to know each other.
She agreed and answered me something similar if she wanted to meet someone and if it comes to a formal relationship well and if not then a friendship with the person and if the guy does not accept a friendship with her she understands if he decides not to see her again.
This is a single mother with a young son, she told me 6 months ago she did not date anyone she only met 2 guys in an application but things did not happen because one was from another city and they saw each other 3 times and the other one did not get to something at least stable apparently....
Well at one point I decided to do a routine that I apply on dates. An old routine I think I got it from Mistery's old writings... it's called "the routine of the 3 types of pictures". I took out my cell phone and told her now we will take 3 different pictures. A normal one, a Funny one and a Romantic one...
At that moment we took the normal one and she asked me which one is the romantic one and I told her what do you imagine it would be?
She answered, "A kiss? With a half smile I said Yes....
And she said NO.. NO.. With a serious expression on her face. And although I took a step back and did not insist on the kiss... At that moment I started to get discouraged, I mean I don't take the rejections personally but this girl was the first one that when doing this routine she rejected the Kiss. And that's why I was a little bit off guard, although I managed to go ahead and take the 3 photos and in none of them the Kiss was given. I stood my ground and didn't seem to be affected because she resisted my advance my pride and ego started to distract me each time and make me think that she wasn't attracted to me and that I should get cold and distant and reject her (I think it was me in self-rejection) that feeling clearly wasn't starting to get to me and I didn't want that to damage my state and turn me off and not escalate again later when she felt more comfortable and the Attraction was at a high peak.
Well I thought I do not think it is a problem of attraction if she finds me an attractive guy and we have been flirting and making mutual physical contact ... it must be that her anti whore defense was raised to not look easy and not to agree to my advance so that I did not persecute her as a whore and needed perhaps more comfort first ...
Well after there we went to eat something and talk somewhere else to maintain a good state and get up from that bad moment and then it occurred to me to take her to a discotheque and on the way in a slight flirtation I lifted her up and charged and went down immediately to show a little dominance and strength. And I thought sure in the disco with the music and dancing the climb will be smoother and she will not resist if I try to go again for the Kiss .
We went to the disco. It was with good atmosphere and music people every time came and filled up we went to the second floor she liked the balcony visit and the place in general... I started to start micro Climbing sitting crossing our hands and caressing her fingers with my thumb and she then did the same and caressing me with her thumb my fingers.. it was on and then we stopped to dance she was the one who was encouraged first and asked me to dance.. we danced a couple of songs and all good.
Then would pop up in my mind the previous memory of her rejecting my Climb and I don't deny it I was blocked even felt hesitant to climb again because I thought she might reject the Kiss again and I didn't want to feel that feeling of my ego and pride getting bruised and feeling like she wasn't attracted to me and end up ruining my status and shutting me down completely....
So even though there were good moments like when she came back from the bathroom for a moment and faced me and danced with me or when we danced and I grinded her ass and she felt my bulge... I didn't dare to climb back in because of insecurity that she would reject me.
Then we left the club and on the way I did not take her hands I was a little serious and had withdrawn my physical contact to see if she also climbed me and then at one point she was the one who took my arm and crossed it with hers. We hardly exchanged words though.
At the end of the night we shared a cab to our places. In the ride we did not talk almost nothing there were other passengers it was a shared cab... and then she took my hand and climbed back to the physical contact intertwining our fingers and then the memory came back to me of the rejection of the Kiss in the photo... and before I got off the car she made a move to say goodbye exposing me to kiss her cheek but I did not do it and did not even shake her hand I was a little cold and dry and just said "write me when you get home".
She 1O minutes later.
In the text exchange. She wrote me also something cold with monosyllable "I arrived".
I replied "Ok. Have a rest
Her: same. Thank you.
Y pues yo subí los vídeos que me grabé con ella en la discoteca y más tarde una de las fotos que me tome con ella..
Ahora mi pregunta. Para CHASE. Alek, Skills.. y demás grandes seductores si les ha pasado algo similar y que han hecho para recuperar su estado y no dudar en volver a escalar por temor a que la chica vuelva a rechazar o resistirse.
Que me recomiendan hacer cuando esa situación suceda con una chica. Y como creen que deba proceder con esta chica si creen que podría volver a verla o que espere a ver si me escribe y sigue interesada hasta ahora no lo ha hecho pero pues.. nunca me había pasado esto con alguien y pues aunque no soy un novato tengo cierta experiencia no estaba preparado para este escenario.
Gracias por leerme. Espero sus comentarios que puedan ayudarme y a otros aprender dei experiencia.
I uploaded the videos I took with her at the disco and later one of the pictures I took with her.
Now my question. For CHASE. Alek, Skills.. and other great seducers if something similar has happened to you and what have you done to regain your status and not hesitate to climb again for fear that the girl will reject or resist again.
What do you recommend me to do when that situation happens with a girl. And how do you think I should proceed with this girl if you think I could see her again or wait to see if she writes to me and is still interested so far she hasn't but well... this had never happened to me with someone and well although I am not a newbie I have some experience I was not prepared for this scenario.
Thank you for reading me. I look forward to your comments that can help me and others learn from my experience.
Hi. skilled seducers
I hardly ever post on here...I spent several months 6 or so just focusing on me since I last dated a girl....
Taking up the Gym, improving habits, making money in freelance business....
And well although I talk to girls constantly to keep the skills sharpened well I wasn't that motivated or at least I hadn't been interested in asking out a new girl before I got my shit together.
Well only until yesterday I went back out with a girl I met through the Facebook couples app... and we had been talking for a couple of weeks not a lot but I had established a sexual framework with light text chat and flirting. And well she was interested in going out so we agreed to meet at a shopping mall.
My arrival was a little late for the appointment, the girl was almost going to leave. And I explained the delay I had. Well she understood and we continued our outing without problems... I took my arm out for her to take it and we went to a place with more atmosphere in the center of the city... we flirted a little, chatted about various things and vibrated.
I asked her: Do I still look like the hot guy you met on the dating app... and she said yes she thought he was hot and I qualified it by saying I thought he was sexy and his look was good too... and she asked me questions to get more information.
And she was asking me questions to get more information about me and to get an idea of what I look like.
Well when we arrived at the place a walled tourist site with a view of the sea where many foreigners and people come to visit and is something a little dark only with the floodlights illuminating lends itself to a romantic scene and climb without discomfort.
I was doing my usual climbing, cuddling and hugging, a night breeze cooled my hands a bit and she crossed herself or reiterated to me how cold she was and my hands felt a bit cold when I touched her... I told her that this way she warms me up as a flirty joke....
She asked me what I was looking for... I answered her... that I had no expectations for the moment I wanted to meet someone interesting, go out and if we had a great connection and we decided to continue seeing each other and we want a serious and stable commitment it doesn't depend only on me and well not to rush or force anything just give yourself enough time to get to know each other.
She agreed and answered me something similar if she wanted to meet someone and if it comes to a formal relationship well and if not then a friendship with the person and if the guy does not accept a friendship with her she understands if he decides not to see her again.
This is a single mother with a young son, she told me 6 months ago she did not date anyone she only met 2 guys in an application but things did not happen because one was from another city and they saw each other 3 times and the other one did not get to something at least stable apparently....
Well at one point I decided to do a routine that I apply on dates. An old routine I think I got it from Mistery's old writings... it's called "the routine of the 3 types of pictures". I took out my cell phone and told her now we will take 3 different pictures. A normal one, a Funny one and a Romantic one...
At that moment we took the normal one and she asked me which one is the romantic one and I told her what do you imagine it would be?
She answered, "A kiss? With a half smile I said Yes....
And she said NO.. NO.. With a serious expression on her face. And although I took a step back and did not insist on the kiss... At that moment I started to get discouraged, I mean I don't take the rejections personally but this girl was the first one that when doing this routine she rejected the Kiss. And that's why I was a little bit off guard, although I managed to go ahead and take the 3 photos and in none of them the Kiss was given. I stood my ground and didn't seem to be affected because she resisted my advance my pride and ego started to distract me each time and make me think that she wasn't attracted to me and that I should get cold and distant and reject her (I think it was me in self-rejection) that feeling clearly wasn't starting to get to me and I didn't want that to damage my state and turn me off and not escalate again later when she felt more comfortable and the Attraction was at a high peak.
Well I thought I do not think it is a problem of attraction if she finds me an attractive guy and we have been flirting and making mutual physical contact ... it must be that her anti whore defense was raised to not look easy and not to agree to my advance so that I did not persecute her as a whore and needed perhaps more comfort first ...
Well after there we went to eat something and talk somewhere else to maintain a good state and get up from that bad moment and then it occurred to me to take her to a discotheque and on the way in a slight flirtation I lifted her up and charged and went down immediately to show a little dominance and strength. And I thought sure in the disco with the music and dancing the climb will be smoother and she will not resist if I try to go again for the Kiss .
We went to the disco. It was with good atmosphere and music people every time came and filled up we went to the second floor she liked the balcony visit and the place in general... I started to start micro Climbing sitting crossing our hands and caressing her fingers with my thumb and she then did the same and caressing me with her thumb my fingers.. it was on and then we stopped to dance she was the one who was encouraged first and asked me to dance.. we danced a couple of songs and all good.
Then would pop up in my mind the previous memory of her rejecting my Climb and I don't deny it I was blocked even felt hesitant to climb again because I thought she might reject the Kiss again and I didn't want to feel that feeling of my ego and pride getting bruised and feeling like she wasn't attracted to me and end up ruining my status and shutting me down completely....
So even though there were good moments like when she came back from the bathroom for a moment and faced me and danced with me or when we danced and I grinded her ass and she felt my bulge... I didn't dare to climb back in because of insecurity that she would reject me.
Then we left the club and on the way I did not take her hands I was a little serious and had withdrawn my physical contact to see if she also climbed me and then at one point she was the one who took my arm and crossed it with hers. We hardly exchanged words though.
At the end of the night we shared a cab to our places. In the ride we did not talk almost nothing there were other passengers it was a shared cab... and then she took my hand and climbed back to the physical contact intertwining our fingers and then the memory came back to me of the rejection of the Kiss in the photo... and before I got off the car she made a move to say goodbye exposing me to kiss her cheek but I did not do it and did not even shake her hand I was a little cold and dry and just said "write me when you get home".
She 1O minutes later.
In the text exchange. She wrote me also something cold with monosyllable "I arrived".
I replied "Ok. Have a rest
Her: same. Thank you.
Y pues yo subí los vídeos que me grabé con ella en la discoteca y más tarde una de las fotos que me tome con ella..
Ahora mi pregunta. Para CHASE. Alek, Skills.. y demás grandes seductores si les ha pasado algo similar y que han hecho para recuperar su estado y no dudar en volver a escalar por temor a que la chica vuelva a rechazar o resistirse.
Que me recomiendan hacer cuando esa situación suceda con una chica. Y como creen que deba proceder con esta chica si creen que podría volver a verla o que espere a ver si me escribe y sigue interesada hasta ahora no lo ha hecho pero pues.. nunca me había pasado esto con alguien y pues aunque no soy un novato tengo cierta experiencia no estaba preparado para este escenario.
Gracias por leerme. Espero sus comentarios que puedan ayudarme y a otros aprender dei experiencia.
I uploaded the videos I took with her at the disco and later one of the pictures I took with her.
Now my question. For CHASE. Alek, Skills.. and other great seducers if something similar has happened to you and what have you done to regain your status and not hesitate to climb again for fear that the girl will reject or resist again.
What do you recommend me to do when that situation happens with a girl. And how do you think I should proceed with this girl if you think I could see her again or wait to see if she writes to me and is still interested so far she hasn't but well... this had never happened to me with someone and well although I am not a newbie I have some experience I was not prepared for this scenario.
Thank you for reading me. I look forward to your comments that can help me and others learn from my experience.
