Drunk girl- Should I have?

[thedude]

Hello guys,

It has been a while since I posted something. Some general updates, I am getting closer to success you could say.... But still have not broken through yet and I realize now it being November that I need to work harder...........

What this post is about though is a party last weekend at my fraternity house. At some point during the night I start talking to this cute asian chick. At am buzzed when I do this but even then I realize that this girl is drunk and very obviously so. She stumbled around a bit when I was talking to her, it was very noticeable. She was very hyper-affectionate as described in the article "how to tell when a girl is horny". Hell she even just went up and started kissing me like a minute or 2 in.

In the end I lead her downstairs to where her friends are and leave her there because I just didn't feel right, would I have been taking advantage?

At first I thought I had done the right thing, but now as I keep telling myself that I need more experience, I need to have more sex(I have only had 2 one night stands and I was so piss drunk it wasn't fun).

I feel like I really fucked up now, it was a golden opportunity that fell into my lap and I let it go.

Did I make a mistake?

 

[PinotNoir]

I don't think you made a mistake. I wouldn't worry about it.

If a girl's too drunk, she may try and pull the "rape card" the next day, as has happened in small towns due to reputation. If you're both too drunk, you may forget a condom...

At the same time, it's possible that some other guy took her home that night. You weren't willing to sleep with her, but some other guy had no problem with it.

But, could you wake up the next day and feel fine about it? If you had doubts, then I think you made the right choice for yourself.

Next time if it happens, you can also take her home and not have sex. Just make out and whatever. If it's early in the night, you can sober her and yourself up a little more. If you both weren't completely shit-faced (no hangover), you can possibly just wait until the morning (after sleeping together in bed) and try to have sex with her then. So, I think you still could have tried some stuff and gotten some experience without having sex with her and without feeling like you took advantage of someone, but still, that's slim that sex wouldn't occur.

In a drunken state, it's a hard judgment to make.

But, personally, in my life, I regret most of the women that I have kissed or more when drunk (as in stupid drunk). It's a lot more satisfying when sober. However, if you're a little tipsy and she's a little tipsy, no problems there. It just depends on the level of drunk.

 

[Franco]

CollegeSophomore,

I remember this topic coming up somewhere before on the boards, but I think my general rule was this: if she needs help walking and can't stand up on her own, then she's too drunk to take home.

Anything less than that and I could tell that the girl was conscious enough to be making an informed decision that she could remember. But if a girl can't walk on her own beside you without the help of someone holding her up, then it's likely she'll barely even remember what happened the next day, especially since girls don't like to tarnish their reputation by looking "too drunk" -- even though they do it all the time!

You'll have to draw a line somewhere in your head so that you don't beat yourself up over these types of situations, but since you mentioned that she was "stumbling," then it was probably the right choice. I was never turned on by the idea of having sex with a girl that couldn't walk to the bedroom on her own two feet.

Hope this helps!

- Franco

 

[thedude]

Thanks for the replies guys. I appreciate it.


Some updates about myself.

1. I am a vegan now, it is the optimal nutrition and damn am I in the best shape of my life

2. I have worked on myself with fashion a lot and dress pretty damn good if I don't say so myself.

3. I have gotten close to sealing the deal but twice now I have gotten far and failed, I did not put FU's up and that is my fault.

4. I made a bet with my suite mate to see who could screw more girls before the end of the semester. He is at 3, though they were not the cream of the crop he is ahead and hell tonight he may be sealing the deal with an actually attractive girl tonight.

^ I guess this adds to my overall frustration with what happened with that drunk girl. I don't dwell on moves I make and fail but this one that I did not do I fumed over for like an hour. Plus I am losing the bet and will end up being him dinner at the end of the semester if I lose...

In the end I just need to talk to more girls, I am not afraid too but I never focus my time on it to just walk about campus to do it and then on the weekends when I head about my fraternity brothers getting laid I get angry that I am wasting time. Not making progress and it is all my fault.