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Finally got some after more months than I'd like to admit. . .
Briefly, this is a girl from the WeChat GPS function i.e. online gaming; no social circle ties, not even faint ones.
She's a solid 6/10 in looks, very nice, unassuming, career focused mid-20s girl.
Lives with a friend at walking distance from where I am.
We had awesome rapport from the start - not surprising for a girl who has only/mainly had foreign boyfriends and is (rightly) disgusted by the backwardness and sheer uglyness of the local culture.
Went out for dinner twice and it was difficult to sexualize things until the second time and even then she had to give me a heads up (online) even after: "I was expecting you to kiss me".
The third time she wanted me to go watch a movie with her and I said "no, let's meet up for a bite at this place, instead" (near my uni) and she (surprisingly to me) agreed to my logistics which were not so comfortable for her.
I was resolute to take her to my room but the dorm janitor stopped us and even slut-shamed her. I was misled by the "having guests" policy board - according to him that 10 item policy is to have guests over in a little public lobby under his surveillance; that or he is another sh*thead into the "must prevent bad foreigners from taking our good girls" mentality.
It took her a while to relax after that but she agreed that we go to her place. (slut-shamed by some old git who probably earns half her income, has half her education and can't even speak English BTW).
We cuddled together with a movie but by the end I hadn't escalated much and she started going "Oh, tomorrow I have to get up early. . ." so I just thought "oh, c'mon this is ridiculous" and just went for the kiss and she was more than receptive.
Only downside was that she was self-conscious about her coming period (and probably her flatmate in the other room) so even after persisting several times she only allowed me to finger her from outside her panties and even after having her breathing hard and moaning for like half an hour I still couldn't get her to come. She offered and gave me a nice blow job after.
Some conclusions I'm drawing:
- If my fundamentals seem to tell all kinds of people I get girls right and left - whereas I don't normally get any at all - would it just be that I'm not talking about sex enough? This girl only got sexual to the extend I pushed things in that direction.
- Things were so smooth, maybe because she was outside social circle? Things seem stalled at all kinds of points with girls I have acquaintances in common with; even if they contact and even go out with me 1-on-1.
- In reality, there are always some girls that chase me and very obviously want to have sex with me - but I mostly reject them as I don't find them attractive enough. I don't think I lowered my standards here, particularly if we take into account she's just so cool to hang out with. But the doubt nags me: How do I know I'm finally on the right path?
My problem:
This has happened before; we have sex one day, she wants to see me again the next. I know I'm good but. . .
This one is pushing the envelope with the us-going-to-the-cinema-together idea. . . and while it's a movie I'd like to watch and she's really cool to hang out with - it doesn't take a genius to see this is leading to boyfriend-land fast. I don't want that yet. Also, I already saw her yesterday. I know she's crazy about that movie but if I am to agree going to the cinema with her I'd rather do it like a week from now. . .
I don't want to have to cut her off completely or make her bitter. . . but I'd rather be friends with benefits with her. . . or something.
Not sure how to ride this part. . .
Briefly, this is a girl from the WeChat GPS function i.e. online gaming; no social circle ties, not even faint ones.
She's a solid 6/10 in looks, very nice, unassuming, career focused mid-20s girl.
Lives with a friend at walking distance from where I am.
We had awesome rapport from the start - not surprising for a girl who has only/mainly had foreign boyfriends and is (rightly) disgusted by the backwardness and sheer uglyness of the local culture.
Went out for dinner twice and it was difficult to sexualize things until the second time and even then she had to give me a heads up (online) even after: "I was expecting you to kiss me".
The third time she wanted me to go watch a movie with her and I said "no, let's meet up for a bite at this place, instead" (near my uni) and she (surprisingly to me) agreed to my logistics which were not so comfortable for her.
I was resolute to take her to my room but the dorm janitor stopped us and even slut-shamed her. I was misled by the "having guests" policy board - according to him that 10 item policy is to have guests over in a little public lobby under his surveillance; that or he is another sh*thead into the "must prevent bad foreigners from taking our good girls" mentality.
It took her a while to relax after that but she agreed that we go to her place. (slut-shamed by some old git who probably earns half her income, has half her education and can't even speak English BTW).
We cuddled together with a movie but by the end I hadn't escalated much and she started going "Oh, tomorrow I have to get up early. . ." so I just thought "oh, c'mon this is ridiculous" and just went for the kiss and she was more than receptive.
Only downside was that she was self-conscious about her coming period (and probably her flatmate in the other room) so even after persisting several times she only allowed me to finger her from outside her panties and even after having her breathing hard and moaning for like half an hour I still couldn't get her to come. She offered and gave me a nice blow job after.
Some conclusions I'm drawing:
- If my fundamentals seem to tell all kinds of people I get girls right and left - whereas I don't normally get any at all - would it just be that I'm not talking about sex enough? This girl only got sexual to the extend I pushed things in that direction.
- Things were so smooth, maybe because she was outside social circle? Things seem stalled at all kinds of points with girls I have acquaintances in common with; even if they contact and even go out with me 1-on-1.
- In reality, there are always some girls that chase me and very obviously want to have sex with me - but I mostly reject them as I don't find them attractive enough. I don't think I lowered my standards here, particularly if we take into account she's just so cool to hang out with. But the doubt nags me: How do I know I'm finally on the right path?
My problem:
This has happened before; we have sex one day, she wants to see me again the next. I know I'm good but. . .
This one is pushing the envelope with the us-going-to-the-cinema-together idea. . . and while it's a movie I'd like to watch and she's really cool to hang out with - it doesn't take a genius to see this is leading to boyfriend-land fast. I don't want that yet. Also, I already saw her yesterday. I know she's crazy about that movie but if I am to agree going to the cinema with her I'd rather do it like a week from now. . .
I don't want to have to cut her off completely or make her bitter. . . but I'd rather be friends with benefits with her. . . or something.
Not sure how to ride this part. . .
