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Prodigy

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Hola gents how do you handle flakes from easy dates ,e.g when she comes over for a movie or something then she cancels coz she is writing in a few days quick background context she was the one at first who invited herself over but I was like 10 mins late bcoz I was looking for my key and she got mad coz she was waiting outside in the cold and she cancelled I called a day later and told her I'd pass by her residence mind you we never had a meetup before so she came out and we talked I held the meet pretty well but it was just an info meet for like 20 mins or something and it was good she told me she was going to her hometown and we'll talk when she comes back okay it's cool she does text and we arrange another easy date but she had a dance competition coming up and she flaked last minutes okay but she rescheduled but she couldn't come coz she was writing,do I handle this the same way as let's say a regular flake or
 

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@Hunter O-2,

Just keep chatting with her, staying chill, and scheduling meets.

If she's responding and meeting you sometimes and setting meets and then only cancelling sometimes, she's just a regular flakey girl.

She'll probably stay flakey until you put your dick in her.

So make that the priority if you're over all the flaking :p

(now, if her behavior suddenly changes, and she becomes a lot less complaint, starts taking much longer to reply, starts declining meets, then it is time for a strategy change.. otherwise, continue to proceed as you have been)

Chase
 

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@Hunter O-2,

Just keep chatting with her, staying chill, and scheduling meets.

If she's responding and meeting you sometimes and setting meets and then only cancelling sometimes, she's just a regular flakey girl.

She'll probably stay flakey until you put your dick in her.

So make that the priority if you're over all the flaking :p

(now, if her behavior suddenly changes, and she becomes a lot less complaint, starts taking much longer to reply, starts declining meets, then it is time for a strategy change.. otherwise, continue to proceed as you have been)

Chase
@Chase So since she
@Hunter O-2,

Just keep chatting with her, staying chill, and scheduling meets.

If she's responding and meeting you sometimes and setting meets and then only cancelling sometimes, she's just a regular flakey girl.

She'll probably stay flakey until you put your dick in her.

So make that the priority if you're over all the flaking :p

(now, if her behavior suddenly changes, and she becomes a lot less complaint, starts taking much longer to reply, starts declining meets, then it is time for a strategy change.. otherwise, continue to proceed as you have been)

Chase
@Chase so since she cancelled yesterday how long do I possibly wait to schedule another easy date ?
 
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i personally don't like re-scheduling follow a flake, i go back to texting normal and following high momentum, soft closing then hard closing... I pretty much start from 0....

schedule>flake>re-schedule usually leads to more flaking or ghosting.. context dependent of course...
 

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i personally don't like re-scheduling follow a flake, i go back to texting normal and following high momentum, soft closing then hard closing... I pretty much start from 0....

schedule>flake>re-schedule usually leads to more flaking or ghosting.. context dependent of course...
Thanks skills for the reply I'll take it into consideration 🤝
 

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Thanks skills for the reply I'll take it into consideration 🤝
@Chase and @Skills the girl just attempted to friendzone me right now and I'm asking myself what went wrong because I tried to move fast , didn't text a lot ,never showed emotion ,displayed interest early,I even touched so I'm confused
 

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post text logs...
Me:You know I'm interested in you right and ever since I met you inner me has a good feeling about you overall that you are a good hun
Her:I don't know what to say
Me:Jokingly you supposed to have butterflies in your stomach
Her:I really thought we could be best friends 🥲
Me: Unfortunately we can't
 

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Me:You know I'm interested in you right and ever since I met you inner me has a good feeling about you overall that you are a good hun
Her:I don't know what to say
Me:Jokingly you supposed to have butterflies in your stomach
Her:I really thought we could be best friends 🥲
Me: Unfortunately we can't

Dude...
 

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Personally I would suggest going through a seduction method top-to-bottom.

I mean, the easy thing to recommend here is, "Your texting needs a drastic overhaul," and then point you to Skills's guides or my own (two different styles).

But this is more than just a texting issue.

You can't just text a girl that you like her and then hope she texts you that back and then the two of you happily get together.

Girls do not work that way..

The only time they work that way is if they are 30+ and "tired of fuckboys" and "ready to get serious with a good man" and "sick of the games" and all that. Then sometimes you can have dudes who tell the girl they like them and the girl says she likes them back and the dude is just over the moon... they get married 1 year later...

The rest of the time, you need to use flirtation, teasing, mixed signals, repartee, push-pull, intrigue-building.

You know... game.

Just to suggest my own stuff here, because I know my own stuff best, I would recommend you pick up a copy of my book. Read that, then do all the homework in it.

That will get you oriented with how these gals' minds are working and what works with them vs. what doesn't.

Chase
 

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Personally I would suggest going through a seduction method top-to-bottom.

I mean, the easy thing to recommend here is, "Your texting needs a drastic overhaul," and then point you to Skills's guides or my own (two different styles).

But this is more than just a texting issue.

You can't just text a girl that you like her and then hope she texts you that back and then the two of you happily get together.

Girls do not work that way..

The only time they work that way is if they are 30+ and "tired of fuckboys" and "ready to get serious with a good man" and "sick of the games" and all that. Then sometimes you can have dudes who tell the girl they like them and the girl says she likes them back and the dude is just over the moon... they get married 1 year later...

The rest of the time, you need to use flirtation, teasing, mixed signals, repartee, push-pull, intrigue-building.

You know... game.

Just to suggest my own stuff here, because I know my own stuff best, I would recommend you pick up a copy of my book. Read that, then do all the homework in it.

That will get you oriented with how these gals' minds are working and what works with them vs. what doesn't.

Chase
Thanks chase so in this issue Doni cut her off permanently or ? I haven't chased or anything but what now
 

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Thanks chase so in this issue Doni cut her off permanently or ? I haven't chased or anything but what now
Another thing I wasn't really going for confession of feelings like I know they don't work about 80% of the time
Thanks chase so in this issue Doni cut her off permanently or ? I haven't chased or anything but what now
Plus on that meetup I said I arranged I was using stuff such as teasing,flirtation, and intrigue building I have been like a regular reader of your blog for like 5 to 7 years and I have been applying your stuff and been getting some serious results from it so yeah it was like a bald headed mistake 😅but I do have the book though haven't spent much time on it coz I've noticed that many of the things you said there are on the articles, of which I used to up my fundamentals and game of course this was honestly just experimental
 

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Personally I would suggest going through a seduction method top-to-bottom.

I mean, the easy thing to recommend here is, "Your texting needs a drastic overhaul," and then point you to Skills's guides or my own (two different styles).

But this is more than just a texting issue.

You can't just text a girl that you like her and then hope she texts you that back and then the two of you happily get together.

Girls do not work that way..

The only time they work that way is if they are 30+ and "tired of fuckboys" and "ready to get serious with a good man" and "sick of the games" and all that. Then sometimes you can have dudes who tell the girl they like them and the girl says she likes them back and the dude is just over the moon... they get married 1 year later...

The rest of the time, you need to use flirtation, teasing, mixed signals, repartee, push-pull, intrigue-building.

You know... game.

Just to suggest my own stuff here, because I know my own stuff best, I would recommend you pick up a copy of my book. Read that, then do all the homework in it.

That will get you oriented with how these gals' minds are working and what works with them vs. what doesn't.

Chase
So you think I got friendzoned because of texting ?
 

Chase

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So you think I got friendzoned because of texting ?

The texting was bad, yeah.

However, I don't know if the texting caused her to pull a 180 from where she was at before, or if she was already leaning toward it and the texting was simply the straw that broke the camel's back.

You'd need to write the field report for that to be clear.
 

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The texting was bad, yeah.

However, I don't know if the texting caused her to pull a 180 from where she was at before, or if she was already leaning toward it and the texting was simply the straw that broke the camel's back.

You'd need to write the field report for that to be clear
Okay chase ,I've managed to talk to her and use some callback humour and ive reversed the situation to a funny misinterpretation on her side,I was planning on meeting her today any tips ?
 

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Okay chase ,I've managed to talk to her and use some callback humour and ive reversed the situation to a funny misinterpretation on her side

Well, nice going.

Although I hope it wasn't by telling her you didn't mean it like how she thought and you actually just have friendly intentions!

I was planning on meeting her today any tips ?

I don't have enough info to give you specific tips.

Just follow best practices as best you are able.

You might want to review these articles:




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