Hey guys,
Long read, but I think many intermediates/college guys will be able to relate to it well, and I'm sure all of us have been through this at some point. I just hope somebody could give it a look and offer an opinion.
The girls who want you will stick with you until they get what they want, until 3am or 6. These girls are almost always experienced, and they usually do get what they want. They're calm and collected, and if you take your time they will push for sex until you give it to them. They're never the prettiest, but I do enjoy having sex with them and I find that I can learn things from their buckets of experience.
Though I'm not a virgin by any means, the only girls I ever get with are sexually confident, very intelligent, and openly promiscuous. Call me a good looking loser, but by practical means I feel like a grossly over-competent VIRGIN. It almost feels like they game me, and I just can't get a girl unless she's the type that knows how to go for what she wants. I don't believe in labels, but I've yet to go the whole way with a girl who isn't an outright "slut".
I've had many nervous girls in bed or alone with me - yet I've never pulled the trigger because I could sense their anxiety and it would make me recoil - kinda of a turn off really. I've learned to associate quiet heavy breathing with lust, but when I'm meeting a girl on the street or on a date and I pick up on anxious/insecure body language, it makes ME anxious - and as a result I don't persist the way I naturally would and usually lose out.
It's maddening.
Most people would describe me as a very well put together, over-confident, intense but calm, even charismatic man. And I feel that way to my bones, though I know I need a few more solid experiences to really let it sink in. Recently I've noticed that girls almost seem intimidated by me, and I find that really bothersome because I don't mean foul to anyone. I've learned that I need to work with it, and help them cross the bridge to form a healthy connection, but nervous tells still shoot me down when it comes to closing. (a #, inv home, sex escalation)
I've been at it for a year now, and this shit needs to stop. I cannot tolerate letting another girl slip through my fingers, and I know that if I were 2-3 years older I would NEVER miss out on any of these often-times stunning women. But the solution is so damn elusive it's getting painful - I've been on a bad losing streak for months and the only thing that keeps me going is my belief that finding REAL success once will be like flipping on a light switch.
I made a point to make this a heavily emotional piece (feels good), but my question now is, what do you do to push for the next step when you can tell that a girl is nervous or anxious?
Do you backtrack and build comfort at the cost of intrigue/excitement, or surge forward as if it didn't matter at all?
What about girls that you know like you, but are too nervous to even acknowledge your presence and say hello? The ones that maintain shifty eye contact or even go out of their way to avoid you when they know your paths will cross.
Most insecure people try to avoid situations that aggravate their anxiety - how do you deal with a woman that's committed to an interaction with you but is emotionally flighty and perpetually unsure?
I could keep going, but I think 3 is enough for now. On a college campus, statistics dictate that 33% of all girls are virgins, and another third still have very low partner counts. I think this is substantial given that I'm neither 21 or in a high-access fraternity, and it simply means that I need to adapt.
Does anybody else have experiences similar to this or learned how to get past it? I know everyone here has met girls that come across as the nervous type.
Thanks,
- TR
Long read, but I think many intermediates/college guys will be able to relate to it well, and I'm sure all of us have been through this at some point. I just hope somebody could give it a look and offer an opinion.
The girls who want you will stick with you until they get what they want, until 3am or 6. These girls are almost always experienced, and they usually do get what they want. They're calm and collected, and if you take your time they will push for sex until you give it to them. They're never the prettiest, but I do enjoy having sex with them and I find that I can learn things from their buckets of experience.
Though I'm not a virgin by any means, the only girls I ever get with are sexually confident, very intelligent, and openly promiscuous. Call me a good looking loser, but by practical means I feel like a grossly over-competent VIRGIN. It almost feels like they game me, and I just can't get a girl unless she's the type that knows how to go for what she wants. I don't believe in labels, but I've yet to go the whole way with a girl who isn't an outright "slut".
I've had many nervous girls in bed or alone with me - yet I've never pulled the trigger because I could sense their anxiety and it would make me recoil - kinda of a turn off really. I've learned to associate quiet heavy breathing with lust, but when I'm meeting a girl on the street or on a date and I pick up on anxious/insecure body language, it makes ME anxious - and as a result I don't persist the way I naturally would and usually lose out.
It's maddening.
Most people would describe me as a very well put together, over-confident, intense but calm, even charismatic man. And I feel that way to my bones, though I know I need a few more solid experiences to really let it sink in. Recently I've noticed that girls almost seem intimidated by me, and I find that really bothersome because I don't mean foul to anyone. I've learned that I need to work with it, and help them cross the bridge to form a healthy connection, but nervous tells still shoot me down when it comes to closing. (a #, inv home, sex escalation)
I've been at it for a year now, and this shit needs to stop. I cannot tolerate letting another girl slip through my fingers, and I know that if I were 2-3 years older I would NEVER miss out on any of these often-times stunning women. But the solution is so damn elusive it's getting painful - I've been on a bad losing streak for months and the only thing that keeps me going is my belief that finding REAL success once will be like flipping on a light switch.
I made a point to make this a heavily emotional piece (feels good), but my question now is, what do you do to push for the next step when you can tell that a girl is nervous or anxious?
Do you backtrack and build comfort at the cost of intrigue/excitement, or surge forward as if it didn't matter at all?
What about girls that you know like you, but are too nervous to even acknowledge your presence and say hello? The ones that maintain shifty eye contact or even go out of their way to avoid you when they know your paths will cross.
Most insecure people try to avoid situations that aggravate their anxiety - how do you deal with a woman that's committed to an interaction with you but is emotionally flighty and perpetually unsure?
I could keep going, but I think 3 is enough for now. On a college campus, statistics dictate that 33% of all girls are virgins, and another third still have very low partner counts. I think this is substantial given that I'm neither 21 or in a high-access fraternity, and it simply means that I need to adapt.
Does anybody else have experiences similar to this or learned how to get past it? I know everyone here has met girls that come across as the nervous type.
Thanks,
- TR
