ED Issues

[Bboy100]

So, I've been having the strangest form of ED as of late. Basically, what happens is, I'll get hard with a girl no problem, fuck her for a while, usually cum. Then after that, I'll have trouble getting hard again for at least another 15 mins, in some cases, at all.

I was a little worried about the long down time given my age (22), but it wasn't something I worried too much about. But after today, I'm starting to think its something else entirely. Here's the story:

I was having sex with one of the girls I've been seeing for a while now in my car. At first it was going great. I got hard really easily, felt really horny etc etc. Then, without me cumming, we took a break for a while. Mainly because I got really really sweaty and tired (I sweat a LOT and car sex is uncomfortable). After I tried to start up again, I couldn't get hard. Not only that, but I felt a lack of desire for her. That hornyness I had at the start...gone. The feeling of wanting to tear her clothes off...gone. Really, the only reason I was still even trying is just cause I wanted to cum, and I'm not going to see this girl again for a while and I just felt like I should always be dtf lol. After that, it just became a downward spiral of anxiety. I felt bad because I couldn't get hard (despite the fact that I hadn't even came once yet), and said bad feeling made it even harder for me to get hard. Rinse and repeat.

And now that I think about it, every other case of ED was similar. I just kind of randomly lost my desire for the girl.

What do you guys think?

 

[Franco]

Bboy,

It sounds to me like your expectations are a bit high on this one!

Generally when I have sex with a girl, it takes, on average, about 30 minutes for me to be able to get hard for her again. There's definitely nothing abnormal about that; it's not necessarily the fastest that some guys can get hard again, but it's also not slow, either. I'd say it's pretty average.

If you're capable of getting hard (and cumming) the first time you have sex with a girl every time you see her, then I would say you don't have ED. Guys who have ED usually have trouble getting hard and staying hard even on the first round of sex, and that's a problem that might need some attention.

- Franco

 

[Bboy100]

It sounds to me like your expectations are a bit high on this one!

Ahh,ok! Good to know. For some reason, I thought that guys my age where supposed to be able to get hard like, 5 mins after cumming.

But what about cases like in the story I described where I didn't cum at all and I still lost my desire for her and went soft?

 

[Franco]

Bboy,

But what about cases like in the story I described where I didn't cum at all and I still lost my desire for her and went soft?

It can happen to any guy at any time. =)

Unless it's a frequent thing, it's nothing to worry about. There are so many variables that can affect your mood at any time, so it's totally possible that the right (wrong?) combination of variables hit you right at that moment that you just weren't able to perform for whatever reason. Just do your best to analyze what factors in that specific scenario caused you to be unable to perform with that girl, and try to avoid them as much as possible whenever you plan on sleeping with her or any other girl.

- Franco

 

[Bboy100]

Just do your best to analyze what factors in that specific scenario caused you to be unable to perform with that girl

Yeah, I was super sweaty...like, it looked like someone sprayed me with a hose lol. And I was still wearing my clothes, so it felt really disgusting. Plus, it was car sex which is uncomfortable in of itself. And she still had most her clothes on as well which is kind of a turnoff for me. So yeah, I could see why those things might be a factor.

Thanks for the help Franco

 

[JRob]

That sounds pretty normal to me. I am a good bit older though. Basically, when you first meet a girl you have the mystery and excitement factor. Later on that fades a bit, especially if she's not a dime. Then if you feel pressured to make it happen that makes it feel like a chore rather than fun.