Emergency stop for a girl's flurry of tests

[DArtagnan]

Hi guys,

Today something really annoying happened to me, something I haven't had problems with for a long time now.

Have it ever occurred to you, when you are having a rough day and not feeling inspired, that some girl tests you, even if very softly, then you surprisingly fail the test, then she gets annoyed and enter in "probing" and testing mode, launching a flurry of tests, critiques, and frame battles onto you? And because you already lost the grip after the first few tests, you continue to fail miserably all the remaining ones, giving weak answers or not answering at all, while she continues with her battery of tests? It's downright humiliating.

Do you have any "emergency stop" tactic to use in these situations?

I would love to confess directly "Hey, please stop playing this little tricks, I'm having a bad day and it won't work right". However, I know that in most social situations this will sound really weird. I can bet that most women will answer with something like "What are you talking about? I'm not testing you! What's the problem?" and the situation will escalate downwards even more.

So, any hints?

Something that just came to my mind is to "enter in game mode" even harder, that is make sure you are flirty when you are down, and if it doesn't work, at least you would be at the "offensive" and she would not auto-reject.

 

[DArtagnan]

I'm talking maily about social circle. Of course, there's the solution of just leaving, but even this might sound strange. Girl is launching tests at you, then you just say "excuse me, I need to grab a drink". I think I have done it before and it looks really weak.

 

[Ratata]

I sometimes get this women I'm forced to be with, or platonic female friends who suddenly get testy cuz... Well, dafuq do I know! Women!

Romantic interest types tend to throw different tests tho. But they're more the fun or cheeky kind. This didn't strike me as the fun kind, though. Unless you're in a relationship. And if that's the case, have yer quarrel and have makeup sex afterwards I guess. Sometimes I wonder if it's one of the things needed just to get the juices flowing...

Either way, the clue is to not react to it. (Harder than it sounds.) Or to have a comeback, but this advice is really for when you don't have a comeback, which - face it - is most of the time...

In fact, in some cases the best you can do is just to STFU and kind of mini-meditate for a bit. Like if you're forced to stay there, or can't just get up and leave, and you also have zero comebacks. So go kind of into yourself for a while, and just breathe and do not react to her, just to your inner thought. As if you suddenly started wondering where you put that one LEGO piece you know is in the barefoot section of your living room.

If all else fails, do a takeaway. Pretend you didn't hear her - which may also fail if she then goes ballistic and screams "Didn't you hear what I said???". Upon which your only option is really to change the topic and just let her be annoyed. Which is kind of a win anyway, cuz by omitting the test you at least didn't outright fail it. Call it a tie, idk...

Like, what can an annoyed woman do to you anyway? It's not like you'll die from a girl being a bit testy. It's annoying, sure. But... Just let her be testy. You're not obligated to reply to bs. So try to keep your stoic calm.

The best one I got recently, was from some girl who had a bad day. Suddenly she accused me with "Did you just call me babe?" In the blink of an eye I thought to myself "Wtf just happened now then?" And then I gave her the "peering over newspaper look" and went "No?" (like the kind of "no" when someone asks you something so ridiculous that you're equally puzzled and amused.) In my mind I went, "Like, why the hell would you think that?" But then after an art pause, I went: "I'm sorry." Like I'm actually, genuinely, sorry for not calling her what she wanted me to call her lol... Yes, this is a slight burn, but... at this point she thoroughly deserved it! And she stopped testing me after that.

 

[Absolutely_Human]

You should totally try the "Hey, please stop playing these little tricks" bit x) So funny

But I mean, if you truly can't handle the shit-test spam attack, I think the wisest thing is to just leave for a bit to regroup.

The excuse will be dependent on the situation... But a simple "Hey, I need a bit of fresh air, brb" should work. Even if you don't even come back, you can also approach other women too. This will DHV and give you a rest from that girl at the same time.

Also, I like sometimes being serious and keeping a distance, it's some sort of anti-monkey jumping. And shows that you have a fucking life, when this is properly delivered it won't be interpreted as a pussy move, at least for me (ofc the rest of your game should be in place).

 

[Absolutely_Human]

If all else fails, do a takeaway. Pretend you didn't hear her - which may also fail if she then goes ballistic and screams "Didn't you hear what I said???". Upon which your only option is really to change the topic and just let her be annoyed.

I did this some time ago, and she literally screamed that exact question.

I ignored that too and lead her and a friend inside of a room where some musician was playing (we were standing in a cute hipster garden that had an entrance to a little stage where musicians rotate and play a couple songs each).

So, I just bypassed it, and kept looking for fun. Ofc, some situations are easier to bypass, but in general you can always leave for a few minutes at least. I'm not very keen on lying in general, but as a Plan B you can say "hey I totally forgot to text a friend, she's been waiting since yesterday, brb" (I'm not a native speaker, so you can say smth that's smoother sure).

PD: This girl was dating a friend of mine at that time, but I'm pretty she was attracted to me too (e.g. bantered with me, grabbed my face when joking, shit-tested me, wondered why I deleted her from IG when she broke up w/my friend, etc...)

 

[Absolutely_Human]

Ok, I just thought of two quick ones that happened to me where not responding was even be productive (not just for my mental health):

I was at a bar with a group of coworkers and friends, there was a girl that was like a manager for my team, who I later ended up k-closing on another day. So, we were talking about food and at some point she said "oh so you think I'm fat!" (she was skinny) I reacted with a laugh and she insisted with "but you do think that, right?" (all of this was not in a sad nor jokingly way, but in a challenging way) and then I sighed while smiling and drank from my beer, we continued as nothing happened.

The other one, I was in a whisky tasting event with a friend, it was outside with food trucks and such, and we approached two girls... Some seconds in, and 'my girl' said "you'll buy me a drink first" (a classic) and I reacted with a big (and 100% honest) laugh, she responded with "ok ok, there's no need", also we continued as nothing happened.

Silly examples and I get that laughing may not be on the cards at the time, but my point is that you can just shake your head with a smile and talk to other people or change subject.