First off, I'd really like to see one of the authors do an article on emotional control/stability/volatility. That being said, I'll put my thoughts on the matter here.
By emotional volatility, I mean a measure of how resilient a person's emotional state is to external and internal pressures. People with high emotional stability are even-keel, confident, and generally happier. People with high emotional volatility tend to produce drama, have more psychological issues, and are less happy overall. Thus emotional volatility is, in my opinion, the most important trait after looks in determining a mate's attractiveness.
Furthermore, from what I've seen, just as "on average" people tend to pair with others who are roughly as physically attractive as they are, people tend to pair with others who are roughly as emotionally volatile as they are. Usually, like attracts like in this regard.
Now, the honest truth: I'm pretty low on the emotional stability spectrum. Meaning, if I am to be honest with myself, I'm maybe like a 4/10. I've put in immeasurable effort over the years to work on it, and I've come a long way (I was probably a 2/10 at age 18, I'm 25 now) but the truth is, I really struggle with my emotions. It's cost me more jobs, relationships, and friendships than I'd like to admit.
Now, having this awareness of the situation, i tend to avoid women who are also low in emotional stability. The problem is, women with high emotional stability tend to avoid me. What do you guys think? What can I do to fix this?
By emotional volatility, I mean a measure of how resilient a person's emotional state is to external and internal pressures. People with high emotional stability are even-keel, confident, and generally happier. People with high emotional volatility tend to produce drama, have more psychological issues, and are less happy overall. Thus emotional volatility is, in my opinion, the most important trait after looks in determining a mate's attractiveness.
Furthermore, from what I've seen, just as "on average" people tend to pair with others who are roughly as physically attractive as they are, people tend to pair with others who are roughly as emotionally volatile as they are. Usually, like attracts like in this regard.
Now, the honest truth: I'm pretty low on the emotional stability spectrum. Meaning, if I am to be honest with myself, I'm maybe like a 4/10. I've put in immeasurable effort over the years to work on it, and I've come a long way (I was probably a 2/10 at age 18, I'm 25 now) but the truth is, I really struggle with my emotions. It's cost me more jobs, relationships, and friendships than I'd like to admit.
Now, having this awareness of the situation, i tend to avoid women who are also low in emotional stability. The problem is, women with high emotional stability tend to avoid me. What do you guys think? What can I do to fix this?
