Escalation on a date- what's your process?

moom

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Simple as the title- what's your process escalating on a date?

I find myself on dates finding it hard to build sexual tension, aside from touch here and there. Talk about sex, but still in my mind it feels platonic. What's your process? Curious from those who especially either day game/ dating apps and go on alot of dates.
 

TomInHo

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I love building tension on dates. When done right it can make even the most mundane interactions become magical. Here are a some of my favorite ways to create it

BE HORNY
I've noticed that when I go on dates and don't feel horny, generating sexual tension can feel artificial. So If I don't feel excited I may watch some porn while waiting for my date to show up to get in the mood

EYE CONTACT
The eyes are the window to the soul... nuff said

PROXIMITY
Getting into her personal space can definitely heat up an interaction. It doesn't even need to be super overt. Just sitting next to a girl can be enough to get some sparks flying

TOUCH
The whole point of building sexual tension is to eventually have sex. So it only makes sense to begin foreplay as soon as possible. Just don't overdo it, because too much touching can make you seem like you're chasing and kill the suspense. Instead sprinkle some touches throughout the interaction and avoid any overt touches until both of you are isolated so you don't raise her defenses of feeling like a slut in public

SEXY VOICE
I recently found this amazing trick to make your voice sound more powerful and sexier in an instant. Just YAWN! Yep YAWN. Simply do a big yawn and recreate that same tone with your speech. This makes you speak from your diaphragm and makes your voice sound more rich, resonant and seductive

VAGUENESS
This one is funny. But I've noticed girls seem to fall into a trance like state when I'm very vague in my speech. I tend to use a lot of open ended statements that force them to work harder to try and get to know me. It's almost like them trying to figure you out turns them on

TELL SEX JOKES
Use every opportunity to drop some sexual innuendo and get her thinking about sex with jokes. For example, when they ask me what I do for work I tell them I'm an exotic dancer. If they ask my age...69

TELL SEX STORIES
Tell a raunchy story to get the juices flowing. I usually frame the stories like I was the one getting seduced to avoid potential ASD and always color my speech with very descriptive language. Because I notice the more rich my descriptions are the more likely girl will go into a trance

SLOW DOWN
Slow everything down. Your speech, your well timed touches, your movements.... everything. This makes everything you do seem sexier, especially if you use pregnant pauses in your speech.
 
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Alpha13SC

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@TomInHo is on point. I'm doing all of this naturally. Didn't go too often at dates horny because sometimes I might just not focusing, but I think that's just on my mind.

Also, I recommend reading ESP model by @Warped Mindless and mirroring neurons on GS.

You can add some tech, like push/pull + touch. I use a lot of sexy smile, doing teasing + that smirk, and some some hypnotic ones.

Another things that you can do is to see her in a more sexual way, like just a sexual creature full of lust. You should start to behave more like a Lover.
 

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For general physical escalation look up the Vin Di Carlo Escalation ladder.

On dates I'd usually hold back to build up the tension. I'd want her guessing if I'm really into her, but do a little teasing and eye contact and just general flirting.


I'll put up my old reports in a while to give a better idea.
 

moom

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I love building tension on dates. When done right it can make even the most mundane interactions become magical. Here are a some of my favorite ways to create it

BE HORNY
I've noticed that when I go on dates and don't feel horny, generating sexual tension can feel artificial. So If I don't feel excited I may watch some porn while waiting for my date to show up to get in the mood

EYE CONTACT
The eyes are the window to the soul... nuff said

PROXIMITY
Getting into her personal space can definitely heat up an interaction. It doesn't even need to be super overt. Just sitting next to a girl can be enough to get some sparks flying

TOUCH
The whole point of building sexual tension is to eventually have sex. So it only makes sense to begin foreplay as soon as possible. Just don't overdo it, because too much touching can make you seem like you're chasing and kill the suspense. Instead sprinkle some touches throughout the interaction and avoid any overt touches until both of you are isolated so you don't raise her defenses of feeling like a slut in public

SEXY VOICE
I recently found this amazing trick to make your voice sound more powerful and sexier in an instant. Just YAWN! Yep YAWN. Simply do a big yawn and recreate that same tone with your speech. This makes you speak from your diaphragm and makes your voice sound more rich, resonant and seductive

VAGUENESS
This one is funny. But I've noticed girls seem to fall into a trance like state when I'm very vague in my speech. I tend to use a lot of open ended statements that force them to work harder to try and get to know me. It's almost like them trying to figure you out turns them on

TELL SEX JOKES
Use every opportunity to drop some sexual innuendo and get her thinking about sex with jokes. For example, when they ask me what I do for work I tell them I'm an exotic dancer. If they ask my age...69

TELL SEX STORIES
Tell a raunchy story to get the juices flowing. I usually frame the stories like I was the one getting seduced to avoid potential ASD and always color my speech with very descriptive language. Because I notice the more rich my descriptions are the more likely girl will go into a trance

SLOW DOWN
Slow everything down. Your speech, your well timed touches, your movements.... everything. This makes everything you do seem sexier, especially if you use pregnant pauses in your speech.
Bro, you're a legend, this is good stuff. I didn't respond the day of, but used this on my last date 2 days ago and scored. This + 3 bounce method should help skyrocket my date closes
 

moom

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@TomInHo is on point. I'm doing all of this naturally. Didn't go too often at dates horny because sometimes I might just not focusing, but I think that's just on my mind.

Also, I recommend reading ESP model by @Warped Mindless and mirroring neurons on GS.

You can add some tech, like push/pull + touch. I use a lot of sexy smile, doing teasing + that smirk, and some some hypnotic ones.

Another things that you can do is to see her in a more sexual way, like just a sexual creature full of lust. You should start to behave more like a Lover.
The whole watching porn right before a date really helped me
 

moom

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For general physical escalation look up the Vin Di Carlo Escalation ladder.

On dates I'd usually hold back to build up the tension. I'd want her guessing if I'm really into her, but do a little teasing and eye contact and just general flirting.


I'll put up my old reports in a while to give a better idea.
Sure, thanks for the response. I follow that escalation ladder already like second nature. I'll keep my eyes peeled for the reports!
 

DonGately

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Kino is key for sure. Telling sexy stories or even sexy and funny stories also helps. Girls will always be fascinated by your sexual history, I mean how many of us/them get to hear real sex stories about another couple?
 

climbingup

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I love building tension on dates. When done right it can make even the most mundane interactions become magical. Here are a some of my favorite ways to create it

BE HORNY
I've noticed that when I go on dates and don't feel horny, generating sexual tension can feel artificial. So If I don't feel excited I may watch some porn while waiting for my date to show up to get in the mood

EYE CONTACT
The eyes are the window to the soul... nuff said

PROXIMITY
Getting into her personal space can definitely heat up an interaction. It doesn't even need to be super overt. Just sitting next to a girl can be enough to get some sparks flying

TOUCH
The whole point of building sexual tension is to eventually have sex. So it only makes sense to begin foreplay as soon as possible. Just don't overdo it, because too much touching can make you seem like you're chasing and kill the suspense. Instead sprinkle some touches throughout the interaction and avoid any overt touches until both of you are isolated so you don't raise her defenses of feeling like a slut in public

SEXY VOICE
I recently found this amazing trick to make your voice sound more powerful and sexier in an instant. Just YAWN! Yep YAWN. Simply do a big yawn and recreate that same tone with your speech. This makes you speak from your diaphragm and makes your voice sound more rich, resonant and seductive

VAGUENESS
This one is funny. But I've noticed girls seem to fall into a trance like state when I'm very vague in my speech. I tend to use a lot of open ended statements that force them to work harder to try and get to know me. It's almost like them trying to figure you out turns them on

TELL SEX JOKES
Use every opportunity to drop some sexual innuendo and get her thinking about sex with jokes. For example, when they ask me what I do for work I tell them I'm an exotic dancer. If they ask my age...69

TELL SEX STORIES
Tell a raunchy story to get the juices flowing. I usually frame the stories like I was the one getting seduced to avoid potential ASD and always color my speech with very descriptive language. Because I notice the more rich my descriptions are the more likely girl will go into a trance

SLOW DOWN
Slow everything down. Your speech, your well timed touches, your movements.... everything. This makes everything you do seem sexier, especially if you use pregnant pauses in your speech.
Apologies for bringing up an old thread but this segment of text is pure gold! Thank you for commenting it.
 
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