Every Girl Gets the Impression that I'm Hitting on Them... Good or Bad?

[AsianPersuasion]

It's been a while since my summer of field testing, and as soon as I went back to school, I scaled it back greatly, but immediately saw how the summer had affected the way I interact... I'm a lot ballsier than I was previously, the butterflies in my stomach effect is just about gone, and I give out compliments WAY more liberally... Also though, every single girl I end up talking to one on one ends up with the impression that I'm hitting on them. I follow the rules of social circle game with this one, or at least try to.

- I maintain the flirty eye contact and undertones in my voice when I speak
- I never verbally point out my interest
- I do this with EVERY girl and not just the ones I'm attracted to so I can have the benefit of the doubt
- And I still tease them in a flirty sort of way

I wouldn't be too bothered with a few girls just assuming I was hitting on them, but it's come to the point where every single one thinks so the moment I start talking to them one on one... And so now I've got a sort of reputation for hitting on people when I'm really not... I'm not sure if this is gonna bite me in the ass, or if it's just a sign I'm progressing.. I actually kind of think it's kind of fun when I have to inform a girl that I was in fact NOT hitting on her, and then she either gives me an expression as if to say "Well why not? So what, am I not good enough for you then?" or even more interestingly, they say it verbally.

Anyway, I want to see what input you guys might have on this... Do I scale it back or only do that with girls I'm actually interested in? Am I exactly where I should be and should I kick it up a notch? It's my senior year, and this will probably be the last year I'm in touch with anyone, so I'm open to try anything.

 

[Smurf]

Hey AP!

You should post more often, I enjoyed your summer posts a lot!

Since it's your senior year, I'd say why not kick it up a notch. If anything it's saying you're a sexual man. That's my advice.

Jake.

 

[Mr.Rob]

AP! Sup buddy, hope everythings going smooth on your side of the country.

That's kind of funny that your having that problem, though I can't relate or give you much advice this is what I do have to say. You've always had a fairly gamey style and I have the feeling that it's somewhat ingrained into how you interact with women no matter what. To me it sounds like it's obviously a vibe issue so I would try and correct that to become a little more natural feeling to the conversation.

Though I could be wrong, so apologizes if this doesn't sound like your problem, if it does sound like you I would try and change up the vibe a little amigo.

Miss your field reports dude. I still have trouble pushing myself to open sets in the situations that you did to get yourself booted from the mall lol.
Whats your deal these days? You got a girlfriend? Getting any lays? I'm sure by now you are if you continued at the pace you were at the last time you were on here.

Cheers AP!

-Rob

 

[AsianPersuasion]

Jake D., thanks man! It was fun last summer. I would post more if I wasn't so busy all the time with school. I honestly have had no time to do any sort of pick up, but surprisingly though my interaction was better when I met someone new earlier this month even though I haven't been doing anything these since last summer... I just got finished posting about it actually. Great hearing from you again once more! I'll be tweaking things here and there to see what I can do with my senior year.

Rob, I hate saying this, but honestly no haha. I become a work zombie during school, and that combined with the fact that I no longer have a mall to go to that's close enough to my house, makes it so that the pace I set for summer pretty much ends come September. Strangely enough though, the experience I gained from that summer seemed to sink in more as I had time to reflect during the fall, and I found out that I had gotten better a few weeks ago. I just posted a field report if you were interested in seeing it. Like I said to Jake D., I'll always be tweaking things from time to time since this is my senior year and nothing can really bite me in the ass in the future... And don't be so eager to lose yourself a good hunting ground so quickly like I did! Hahaha

Hope you two have been well all this time and I hope both of you are finding great success with this!

 

[PinotNoir]

I think this means three things:

1) You have become more extroverted through all of your FRs. You're not the "shy" guy anymore.
2) You have become a more sexual man; a man that is bold, not afraid to talk with women, and goes for what he wants. Women can sense it.
3) Are you in high school or college? I forget. If high school, then there are so many shy/introverted/nervous guys, it makes you appear to always be flirting because of such a stark contract between you and other guys.

If a woman says this, play back with them:
You: "Why are you wanting me to flirt with you? "
or
You: "I think you're projecting your thoughts on me! "

In high school, this may or may not be a good thing, since it's like one big social circle. However, I think it's great in the long run.

I have a coworker that is just like this (one of my good friends now actually). People say that he flirts with everyone. And right when a new employee starts, he's already met them and learned her name. But the thing is, he never says innuendos or anything; he's just friendly, extroverted, and just gives off this vibe to women. He stands up straight and relaxed, talks to them like they've known each other for years, holds strong eye contact, and makes sure every conversation is not 100% work but has another lighter/interesting side- question/topic as well.

In short, he does well with women. He's terrible at clubs though; I'm actually better at clubs for whatever reason, and I hate clubs. He kind of has all of these women in a net outside of work that he has met. Like, he has all of these women "friends," but they never hang out, and they still think they're close friends and that he's a great guy. It's like he's living in between lover-zone and friend-zone with a lot of women, and he could just pull them either way if he chose to.