Logistics Exit Door

[Just_Dave]

Hey Guys,

Whether it's online dating or a girl you met at a party or your home town or whatever. If you're traveling a distance from 20 to 35 miles, that's a huge investment. You don't want to make assumptions that when visiting a girl that you'll be getting laid, without having set the proper screens. You can do this by being up front with the girl, by implying that you would like to spend some alone time with her and go on an adventure. There would be nothing worse than driving that far and only leaving with blue balls.

Should it happen though have an exit door, an exit door is mainly your way out of an awkward situation. This could include but not limited to:
Do all of this ahead of time though!
*Staying at a friends house
*Using couch surfer, a group me and my brother use to stay with people for the night.
*If you're in a fraternity check to see if your fraternity has a chapter house in that area.
*Time constraint is the safest route, say you have work in the morning or you really should head back cause of weather (circumstantial)
*Hotel, this is probably the safest but most expensive

Always call before you head out too, girls flake locally be extra careful when driving distances.

The point: You need to have a back up plan just in case things go south during your interaction. I've known guys who've driven hundreds of miles only to end up empty handed or to be stood up.

Always,

Just Dave

 

[trashKENNUT]

Dave,

Always call before you head out too, girls flake locally be extra careful when driving distances.

Actually i find this very confusing. There is another type of flaking where i talk to girls on Facebook and text, and they suddenly ask where am i and do i want to meet tonight. And i tell them we should meet.

Suddenly they disappeared.

Zac

 

[Just_Dave]

Dave,

Always call before you head out too, girls flake locally be extra careful when driving distances.

Actually i find this very confusing. There is another type of flaking where i talk to girls on Facebook and text, and they suddenly ask where am i and do i want to meet tonight. And i tell them we should meet.

Suddenly they disappeared.

Zac

Hmm...I sensing that it if you guys had already a had a pre-planned destination in mind that should minimize the flakes. Example:
Girl: Where are you, we should meet up?
Dave: Around town, let's grab a bite see you at Liban (restaurant)
Girl: Sounds good!
Dave: Awesome, I'm about to head that way then see you in twenty.

With the destination and with you saying you're heading out, it makes a girl a less likely to flake on you. The only drawback is if she still does flake you left the house already haha. Thoughts?

Dave

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hmm...I sensing that it if you guys had already a had a pre-planned destination in mind that should minimize the flakes. Example:
Girl: Where are you, we should meet up?
Dave: Around town, let's grab a bite see you at Liban (restaurant)
Girl: Sounds good!
Dave: Awesome, I'm about to head that way then see you in twenty.

With the destination and with you saying you're heading out, it makes a girl a less likely to flake on you. The only drawback is if she still does flake you left the house already haha. Thoughts?

Dave

Dave, If she flakes like that, Then i make sure i COME three times inside her the next time we meet AHAHA! (and get her the pill tmrw!)

Zac

 

[headsup38]

Hey Guys,

Whether it's online dating or a girl you met at a party or your home town or whatever. If you're traveling a distance from 20 to 35 miles, that's a huge investment. You don't want to make assumptions that when visiting a girl that you'll be getting laid, without having set the proper screens. You can do this by being up front with the girl, by implying that you would like to spend some alone time with her and go on an adventure. There would be nothing worse than driving that far and only leaving with blue balls.

Should it happen though have an exit door, an exit door is mainly your way out of an awkward situation. This could include but not limited to:
Do all of this ahead of time though!
*Staying at a friends house
*Using couch surfer, a group me and my brother use to stay with people for the night.
*If you're in a fraternity check to see if your fraternity has a chapter house in that area.
*Time constraint is the safest route, say you have work in the morning or you really should head back cause of weather (circumstantial)
*Hotel, this is probably the safest but most expensive

Always call before you head out too, girls flake locally be extra careful when driving distances.

The point: You need to have a back up plan just in case things go south during your interaction. I've known guys who've driven hundreds of miles only to end up empty handed or to be stood up.

Always,

Just Dave

Most of my more active sweethearts don't live in the state I live in. One is in Hawaii, and a couple are in New York. I'm in California. All those girls I met when they were in California and later moved out of state for career reasons. Flaking can be disastrous if I buy a plane ticket and go that far and don't see them. I always assume they will flake and get weird, so my purpose when I go out there is never just to see them. The one in Hawaii flaked on me when I was there but I didn't get burned because I was there for family reasons. A lot of my relatives and family history are there, so visiting Hawaii and not seeing her isn't going to hurt me. I'm a baseball card collector who attends conventions in the greater New York area. That typically is my main focus when I go back East. The girl over there seems to be more committed in seeing me which rattles my concentration of hitting up the convention. I'll get off the train and ask myself why am I here and I get nervous when my phone beeps knowing it's her sending a text to meet up. It's implied that we're friends, but there are certain expectations. She's expecting me to find my way through lower Manhattan when I don't even live there. You never complain about it especially in a presence of a sexy woman. After a couple of trips, I have a general understanding of the layout of the city and where the subway stations are. My general sense of direction is pretty good so I if I was by Central Park, I wouldn't end up in Harlem(north), when she's by the Flatiron building(south of the park).